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Bareback, or condoms, what are your honest opinions?
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Condoms, do you insist upon their use?
Orgasminator
If my playmate doesn't want to wear a condom then he doesn't have to - but he will need to find someone else to play with.
I'm not willing to take a risk for whatever feeble reason they can come up with for not wearing a condom.
I'm not willing to take a risk for whatever feeble reason they can come up with for not wearing a condom.
Sex God
So why dont you tell us your view sparky. You cant expect others to reply if you are not willing to say what your view is first.
Sex God
ahh but you can expect other to reply..i used to follow the old adage of you have to give an opinion to get an opinion but truth known you actually dont..
Sex God
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ahh but you can expect other to reply..i used to follow the old adage of you have to give an opinion to get an opinion but truth known you actually dont..
Maybe you dont HAVE to give your opinion, but it is good manners.
Sex God
I am of the firm belief that not using condoms is f****** stupid!!! Blah blah blah blah blah blah Blah blah blah blah blah blah Blah blah blah blah blah blah Blah blah blah blah blah blah Blah blah blah blah blah blah Blah blah blah blah blah blah Blah blah blah blah blah blah Blah blah blah blah blah blah Blah blah blah blah blah blah Blah blah blah blah blah blah Blah blah blah blah blah blah Blah blah blah blah blah blah wouldn't even get passed the 'interested in doing something' stage. No to barebacking it should be a swinging mantra.
don't let the innocent suffer
don't let the innocent suffer
Sex God
Oh yeah and the third option of 'if its insisted on' should in my opinion be changed to "no chance sucker get f*cked"
I do have strong views on this subject
I do have strong views on this subject
Sex God
we have super strong views on this subject we never ever play without and really struggle to understand why any1 would want to i know it feels better without but it just isn't worth the risk
we have 2 boys and have brought them up to believe in safe sex what hypocrites we would b to not use them just because its feels nicer
can any1 explain to me why they prefer to take risks it would be interesting to try and understand those that do play bareback and risk thier health and even life in some cases
we have 2 boys and have brought them up to believe in safe sex what hypocrites we would b to not use them just because its feels nicer
can any1 explain to me why they prefer to take risks it would be interesting to try and understand those that do play bareback and risk thier health and even life in some cases
Sex God
About 3 months ago I was chatting to a guy.. We got on quite well and he was local. He actually refused to meet me because I wouldn't have bareback anal sex with him.
I obviously wasn't worth meeting.
I obviously wasn't worth meeting.
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About 3 months ago I was chatting to a guy.. We got on quite well and he was local. He actually refused to meet me because I wouldn't have bareback anal sex with him.
I obviously wasn't worth meeting.
On the plus side: You'll still be having sex when his dick's dropped off! :thumbup:
My opinion? Mrs C can't use any other form of birth control so it's use a condom or go without for us. It doesn't bother me in the slightest, and she doesn't have to sleep in the wet patch! So, for us it's the norm when we swing. ;-)
Sex God
sparky33 this subject has been done to death, and all you'll get are the same answers that have been regurgitated time and time again. You might like to do a search and read past threads before this one descends into the usual rants as all the others.
Just a thought.
Just a thought.
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others saying that most clubs they have been to, and vids of parties they have seen, there is hardly a condom in sight.
We've been to over 25 clubs in the UK and Holland over the last 8 years, on average going once a week. In that time we've seen people playing bareback, but often those people were partners. We've also seen some people who weren't partners playing bareback. However, the vast majority of people that we've seen playing have worn condoms. A major gripe within the club scene is that people drop condoms on a bed or the floor and don't put them in the bin. If they're not using them then this wouldn't be happening.
We've also never noticed many walk away when told it was condom or nothing - unless you count those too tight to buy their own at bar and expect to use someone else's.
In answer to the original question, we use condoms.
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sparky33 this subject has been done to death, and all you'll get are the same answers that have been regurgitated time and time again. You might like to do a search and read past threads before this one descends into the usual rants as all the others.
Just a thought.
With respect so what if it has been done before? :shock:
New people are joining all the time and I for one really cannot understand why people moan that a subject has been done to death . If people know that then just move on to another topic.
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sparky33 this subject has been done to death, and all you'll get are the same answers that have been regurgitated time and time again. You might like to do a search and read past threads before this one descends into the usual rants as all the others.
Just a thought.
With respect so what if it has been done before? :shock:
New people are joining all the time and I for one really cannot understand why people moan that a subject has been done to death . If people know that then just move on to another topic.
Yep, I agree with this.
In vanilla relationships I'm more likely to go bareback, especially if my partner's sexual history is clear cut. The two partners I've had since my divorce the only reason for protection would have been for infection, but in those cases an STD was so unlikely that it was next to impossible.
Whereas in a swinging scenario with the increased promiscuity muddying the sexual history then it would be condoms.
Obviously I prefer not to use one, but I take it on a case by case basis, nothing is ever written in stone.
As for requests; well if someone gives me the choice of wear rubber or burn rubber then it's the slimy macintosh for me.
Whereas in a swinging scenario with the increased promiscuity muddying the sexual history then it would be condoms.
Obviously I prefer not to use one, but I take it on a case by case basis, nothing is ever written in stone.
As for requests; well if someone gives me the choice of wear rubber or burn rubber then it's the slimy macintosh for me.
We have played once without condoms a few years ago, however we know the couple extremely well and know that they would risk neither our or their own health.
For everyone else it's condoms every time.
In clubs we found those playing without condoms tend to be partners, but use them for others.
Regardless of condom use regular visits to the sexual health clinc always impresses us
For everyone else it's condoms every time.
In clubs we found those playing without condoms tend to be partners, but use them for others.
Regardless of condom use regular visits to the sexual health clinc always impresses us
Casanova
I'm quite surprised at how many people haven't clicked always use condoms on the poll. It seems all the condom users are writing their thoughts, but no one is representing the bareback option.
I personally do insist on condoms. I can't afford to get ill and I don't want to put my son through watching me get very ill or possibly die because I played Russian roulette with my life. I would love to have bareback sex, but will wait until I'm with someone that I know well enough to be able to trust or am in a real relationship with.
I personally do insist on condoms. I can't afford to get ill and I don't want to put my son through watching me get very ill or possibly die because I played Russian roulette with my life. I would love to have bareback sex, but will wait until I'm with someone that I know well enough to be able to trust or am in a real relationship with.
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sparky33 this subject has been done to death, and all you'll get are the same answers that have been regurgitated time and time again. You might like to do a search and read past threads before this one descends into the usual rants as all the others.
Just a thought.
With respect so what if it has been done before? :shock:
New people are joining all the time and I for one really cannot understand why people moan that a subject has been done to death . If people know that then just move on to another topic.
Yep, I agree with this.
I tend to agree also. It doesn't really matter to me if I comment on repeated threads (unless it's just a matter of days then I'll just ignore it), I think it's good to bring old debates back for new people to be involved in.
Whether people use condoms or not, the main problem for the spread of STD's is down to sexualy active people not getting regular checkups, you can agree or disagree but most of the horror stories about infertility etc could have been avoided if people went and got checked out regularly, regardless of whether using condoms or not.
So while its advised to use condoms its even more important to get regualar checkups, even more so when cases of chlamydia and gonorrhoea in the throat are also rising.
Stay safe :thumbup:
So while its advised to use condoms its even more important to get regualar checkups, even more so when cases of chlamydia and gonorrhoea in the throat are also rising.
Stay safe :thumbup:
Its always worth discussing this subject depsite its regular appearances. However it does throw up some contradictions.
So the questions are more likely 'How do you feel about proceeding with bareback in the knowledge of the implications' or 'Why did I do bareback without thinking' and 'Why am I so worried' ? Probably a few more as well.
So is there a difference between 'innocently/naturally' doing bareback and/or discussing it beforehand and showing one's concern? But still doing it nonetheless.
Now why is there so much worry about? If you know you are clean, why should you think everyone else a risk, when they know they are clean? If one is that concerned why are you involved in a pastime which could well offer you temptation and the opportunity to take a risk.
Do you really check out your prosepective partners, and to what extent can that be done? Did you really check out your current partner before doing bareback? For many the answer is obvious, no you didn't really check yourselves out.
Also the human race has developed in conjunction with a variety of diseases, many of which are passed on through sex. Whilst aids and hiv is a nasty business it is quite possible that it is how the human race is destined to develop. Not that I want it, but there may be no stopping it.
But to answer the question. I will do bareback when I am confident and trusting with my new partner. That may take some time to arrive at, but if you have anything of a relationship you will naturally wish to have sex bareback. Prior to that one expects new partners to use condoms.
So the questions are more likely 'How do you feel about proceeding with bareback in the knowledge of the implications' or 'Why did I do bareback without thinking' and 'Why am I so worried' ? Probably a few more as well.
So is there a difference between 'innocently/naturally' doing bareback and/or discussing it beforehand and showing one's concern? But still doing it nonetheless.
Now why is there so much worry about? If you know you are clean, why should you think everyone else a risk, when they know they are clean? If one is that concerned why are you involved in a pastime which could well offer you temptation and the opportunity to take a risk.
Do you really check out your prosepective partners, and to what extent can that be done? Did you really check out your current partner before doing bareback? For many the answer is obvious, no you didn't really check yourselves out.
Also the human race has developed in conjunction with a variety of diseases, many of which are passed on through sex. Whilst aids and hiv is a nasty business it is quite possible that it is how the human race is destined to develop. Not that I want it, but there may be no stopping it.
But to answer the question. I will do bareback when I am confident and trusting with my new partner. That may take some time to arrive at, but if you have anything of a relationship you will naturally wish to have sex bareback. Prior to that one expects new partners to use condoms.
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The reason I said there was no need to discuss the health aspect was becaue we generally already know it so no need to point it out, I was looking for opinions, not facts.
One thing, possibly worth another thread on it's own, does it feel different to women?
I've always been of the opinion, ignorantly of course, as I don't have a fanny so can't comment, that to a woman it felt the same with or without, after all, they use toys for the same effect, so, does it?
You have to accept if you bring up a subject such as this you will get opinions AND facts.
As for women feeling the difference - yes we do.
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As for women feeling the difference - yes we do.
My take is it's the individuals choice, not for me but that in no way gives me any right to condemn what anyone else chooses.
P.S. I understood that ladies could tell the difference between the two by the absence of that 'burnt rubber' smell?
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As for women feeling the difference - yes we do.
My take is it's the individuals choice, not for me but that in no way gives me any right to condemn what anyone else chooses.
P.S. I understood that ladies could tell the difference between the two by the absence of that 'burnt rubber' smell?
eh? that's what i've said! WOMEN CAN TELL THE DIFFERENCE
Master of Sex
Well, we absolutely insist on condoms for penetrative sex always, there's no question on this subject for us.
One other point - we used to insist that a guy always provides his own. After all, its the least he can do if he wants to play. However, we've changed our minds on that policy - WE now provide the condom.
Sounds unusual?? Well, at least we know for sure that if its provided by us, its in date, not been tampered with in any way etc, and makes us feel that little bit more secure in our safety.
Baz n Vicky
One other point - we used to insist that a guy always provides his own. After all, its the least he can do if he wants to play. However, we've changed our minds on that policy - WE now provide the condom.
Sounds unusual?? Well, at least we know for sure that if its provided by us, its in date, not been tampered with in any way etc, and makes us feel that little bit more secure in our safety.
Baz n Vicky
Between T & I, we don't use them, however, if we play then out they come.
If we arrange a dogging meet then we ask that anyone that comes along comes prepared. Joining isn't guarenteed, but if you've not got one with you the no - it's definately not happening.
I don't want my cock going green and falling off from galloping knob rot because someone else got sloppy.
If we arrange a dogging meet then we ask that anyone that comes along comes prepared. Joining isn't guarenteed, but if you've not got one with you the no - it's definately not happening.
I don't want my cock going green and falling off from galloping knob rot because someone else got sloppy.
Sex God
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I don't want my cock going green and falling off from galloping knob rot because someone else got sloppy.
:rotflmao: sorry just to quote that bit, but your description had me in stitches.
We also play without when together but always insist if we are meeting anyone else. If we have been to a club, party or have had sex out dogging (which is a rarety) then we even use them with each other. Yes it feels different with a condom and yes it isnt as good as bareback, but isnt that what swinging is supposed to be about? It feeling and being different from what you may or may not do with your regular partner?
One thing which I have found interesting on the poll results is that some people seem to be saying that they would only use condoms if the 'playmate' insisted. Personally, I wont meet anyone who says they are willing to play bareback. My view is that if a person does not respect themselves enough to protect their health (as far as possible), then sure as hell, they aint going to worry about protecting me.
