Being bi

12 Oct 2006

Quote by splendid33
:giggle: hello miss firelizard i thought that splendid or kiss would be the first to bite
now go make me some lunch and i'll wait for you in bed :rascal:

I think that you and I are made for each other Meaty...cos once I have used you for sex... I probably would want to go and have a good wash, cleaning the pots and pans would be just the excuse I need...
:wink:
lol

loves.... splendid x x x
and you think i'm going to argue against you using me a your washing up fluffer :wink: :giggle: :rascal:

12 Oct 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
:giggle: hello miss firelizard i thought that splendid or kiss would be the first to bite
now go make me some lunch and i'll wait for you in bed :rascal:

I think that you and I are made for each other Meaty...cos once I have used you for sex... I probably would want to go and have a good wash, cleaning the pots and pans would be just the excuse I need...
:wink:
lol

loves.... splendid x x x
and you think i'm going to argue against you using me a your washing up fluffer :wink: :giggle: :rascal:
I don't hear my doorbell............... :twisted:

12 Oct 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
Isn't Pansexual where once i've finished with you for sex, woman, you can bugger off to the kitchen and get the pots and pans washed up while i'm having a well earned snooze :rascal:
yea, i know, sod off back to your lurking mode Meaty :giggle:

I quite like "buggering" off to the kitchen, its the only place in my house where no-one goes except me. I get some peace and quiet in there. Except when its dinner time and its like feeding the five thousand. lol

Louise xx

12 Oct 2006

Btw Kiss, whens my first lesson. :thrilled: you dont mind if i take :notes: do you.
Louise xx

12 Oct 2006

Quote by splendid33

and you think i'm going to argue against you using me a your washing up fluffer :giggle: :rascal:

I don't hear my doorbell............... :twisted:
(in best Leslie Philips type voice) Ding Dong :lickface:

12 Oct 2006

Sussed it!
After considering the various options, eg:
Heterosexual
Homosexual
Bisexual
Pansexual.....etc
Im going for the one thing they all have in common:
I am sexual :smug:

12 Oct 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
:giggle: hello miss firelizard i thought that splendid or kiss would be the first to bite
now go make me some lunch and i'll wait for you in bed :rascal:

ooooh so good to see the meaty treat to eat :twisted:
Earthy xx

12 Oct 2006

mmm ok
i never really thought of myself as bi when i joined the site, i had always had boyfriends but that never stopped me appreciating certain women and fancying them but never thought much about it.
i met someone on the site that i felt an instant connection with, through the forums at first, and when we met in person it was electric, as some people can attest to redface

she was the one that made me realise what i had been missing, and i still like her to remind me when we get the opportunity wink

I dont fancy all women, its the same with men, i dont fancy all men, so playing with either there would have to be something there for me to consider it.
simply if the mood, feelings, company is right, i will play with male or female,
Earthy xx

12 Oct 2006

I knew from a young age that I was attracted to women. I didnt act on it until I was 24 though.
I had reservations, much like alot of other women, about not knowing what to do, would I really like it etc. But I found myself in a sitiuation with an amazing woman and it all came so naturally. It was a mind blowing experience (well, more than once actually lol) and I never looked back. smile

This isnt to say that I fancy every single woman I look at though, obviously. There has to be an attraction. I also dont think being bi is a license to go around copping off with women behind hubbys back, I'm quite surprised how many women dont view being with someone of the same sex as cheating if their partners arent aware/involved. confused

(thats probably a whole other topic though!)
However, I dont know if I could have ever had a 'proper' relationship with a woman... imagine how bad the arguments could be with all those hormones flying around!!! :shock: lol

Just my 2 cents. :)

12 Oct 2006

Quote by meat2pleaseu
:giggle: hello miss firelizard i thought that splendid or kiss would be the first to bite
now go make me some lunch and i'll wait for you in bed :rascal:

:eeek: The audacity of the man!!!

12 Oct 2006

Quote by winchwench
Sussed it!
After considering the various options, eg:
Heterosexual
Homosexual
Bisexual
Pansexual.....etc
Im going for the one thing they all have in common:
I am sexual :smug:

Spot on, that woman :thumbup:

12 Oct 2006

There's a quote from somebody famous about being just sexual, but I can't remember it rolleyes

12 Oct 2006

For me there is a big difference between playing with the same sex and being attracted to the same sex (as you would the oppositie sex). The former is what lots of people say they are on this site but the latter is something rarer to find.
I have a girl friend who I meet, am attracted to physically and emotionally and enjoy having sex with (just us) thats real bisexuality to me...
I have never understood the "bi with the right woman" line in so many ads (I'm heterosexual with the right man!!)

12 Oct 2006

Quote by huddscpl2
I have never understood the "bi with the right woman" line in so many ads (I'm heterosexual with the right man!!)

for me this would mean someone i was attracted to on a mental and physical plane, the same as it would mean with a man
Earthy xx

12 Oct 2006

Great thread!
I agree with the posts that talk about it being more about the person/people that you fancy rather than the gender, although that is in my case obviously, am not trying to say how other people feel...
As others have said, it often depends on my mood/who is about/what I feel like doing (or who!) at the time.
That said, I do tend to be more picky with women, but thats probably more down to the fact that it has taken me quite a while to come to terms with my own 'bisexuality' and as such I haven't had as much experience with women as I have with men.....
L x

12 Oct 2006

interesting thread, "being bi" is something ive been thinking about alot of late.
does anyone think you can grow out of being bi? or being a swinger? or that it can be a phase?
i spent my teens absolutely knowing i was bi ...... (ive always felt very bi in terms of being attracted to and having sex with women rather than forming a relationship above friendship, thats my own personal definition of being bi, i suppose.)
i spent my early twenties experimenting with couples and single bi women, which began with me not really vetting the husband, as long as i fancied the wife i was in there :twisted:.....then i realised i actually wanted the male interaction too so my selection process altered slightly, but i was still very ahem...active, shall we say.... redface

i may have over did the threesome thing, as it began to get stale......so ive spent the last couple of years meeting the occasional single man, i never imagined i would do so, but it felt right.
and ive spent the last 10 months attending socials, and had a great time, almost zero playing involved.
these days, i dont feel anywhere near like the desire i used to, to be with women, with a man involved or not. i just dont feel it right now.
i feel kinda like...i came into swinging, exploring my sexuality all guns blazing.....and its just fizzled out.
is that wierd? can anyone relate? does your bisexualness and/or swingingness come and go in phases?
im 28....maybe i have some swinging 30's to look forward to ?

13 Oct 2006

I can relate to that totally.
My desire to swing and to be with a woman when I do swing comes and goes in waves. I joined the scene as a relatively clued up young minx and threw myself into every experience with gusto, excitement and enthusiasm.
Now a days, I can't be bothered to chase, I can't be bothered to be chased and more to the point I'm not sure I'm bi a lot of the time because it seems I am less and less atracted to anyone let alone women. Maybe I've been there, done it, worn the tshirts and got tired of it all? I don't really know? dunno

Mind I have always been one for phases anyway. I dont think i could be stright laced if i tried because Ive been around people who have open and exciting minds for far too long now to ever go back. I guess it's all a learning curve.
kiss

Gem. x

13 Oct 2006

Quote by little gem
Now a days, I can't be bothered to chase, I can't be bothered to be chased and more to the point I'm not sure I'm bi a lot of the time because it seems I am less and less attracted to anyone let alone women. Maybe I've been there, done it, worn the tshirts and got tired of it all? I don't really know?
Gem. x

Not really the same, but something similar. When I was in a celibate marriage I did browse around on the fringes of Bi, and I thought when I was free that I would plunge in. The fact is however that I've reverted to exclusively hetero now women-kind can now be freely grazed in the meadow. My Bi side seems to be limited to clicking across the cocks in the chatroom, pausing if there's a really good body on view. Of course were I to be offered a threesome I'm sure I'd fit in nicely, it's just that I'm not looking in the gay places, just not interested.

13 Oct 2006

Hmm, interesting point.
I would say I am basically emotionally straight (I think), and (up to now) my long-term, loving relationships have been exclusively heterosexual ones, yet I do find that the need for a little female on female action builds and builds over time, to the point where sexual fantasies are exclusively homosexual in character, and overwhelming, satisfied only by a good hard session with another woman.
(stole bits from someone I know but it expresses how I feel)
Although I have these experiences as described above... I am feeling like that less and less recently. I have considered that maybe the bisexual curiousity of it has worn off, but then if I'm looking for something or someone to turn me on when masterbating it's almost every time women. So while I my libido might have gone for a long stroll without me, I guess underneath I am attracted sexually which makes me bi. dunno

I once did a quiz thingie online that said I was androdgenous. Maybe that is more true that I previously considered. I would not rule out a long term relationship with a woman if we clicked and I fell in love with them. Until that day (if it ever came) I guess I'd never know, so I prefer not to burden myself with labels.
So why do I choose to declare myself bisexual then?
In my normal everyday life I am straight. However on here I say I am bisexual because of my past experiences I would feel like I was hiding something or lying somehow by saying I was straight. If that makes sense? :dunno:

13 Oct 2006

Quote by little gem
Hmm, interesting point.
I would say I am basically emotionally straight (I think), and (up to now) my long-term, loving relationships have been exclusively heterosexual ones, yet I do find that the need for a little female on female action builds and builds over time, to the point where sexual fantasies are exclusively homosexual in character, and overwhelming, satisfied only by a good hard session with another woman.
(stole bits from someone I know but it expresses how I feel)

Now I'm stealing your bits - so to speak! lol

I feel like that about men I in a lot of ways. I keep thinking about straight sex more and more until it's errrrr sorted out and then builds again over time.
I think I'm straight curious! rotflmao

13 Oct 2006

good news, soooooo if i hang around long enough then I might catch you on a straight day huh?
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13 Oct 2006

Quote by wooha
good news, soooooo if i hang around long enough then I might catch you on a straight day huh?

Well I think I prove a lot of theoristâ€™s right because I go through this rigmarole every month, like clockwork. confused

13 Oct 2006

<<< sets his watch for next month.
<<< Has a strange watch
biggrin

13 Oct 2006

This subject made me scratch my head when I had to describe myself here. I love women of all sorts and am not attracted to men but am happy to play with a cock if the circumstances arise. It's just a toy to play with to me. If a woman wanted me to put on a show with another man I would be quite happy to but it would be her that I would want to kiss and be affectionate to. Years ago when I was testing myself out I visited a gay club but found myself eyeing up the lesbians instead. So am I straight, bi, bi curious or just not very choosy?

13 Oct 2006

Quote by little gem
In my normal everyday life I am straight. However on here I say I am bisexual because of my past experiences I would feel like I was hiding something or lying somehow by saying I was straight. If that makes sense?

Makes a lot of sense. This place has been so good for me and it remains the only place where I can be open about this kind of thing. Wouldn't want it to be different except maybe I would have liked to have found it 20 years ago.

13 Oct 2006

Can I ask if anyone else thinks there is a stigma about a man saying he is bi as opposed to a woman. I don't see the difference personally, which is why I think it strange.
H.x

13 Oct 2006

Quote by louise_and_joe
If you are bi, have you always known that you are, or did it seem to creep up on you when you were least expecting it?
Apart from the obvious different physical aspects of being with a woman rather than a man, does it differ emotionally too?
Louise xx

I've "known" since I started being sexually active that women attracted me as much as men, I never really thought too much about it and never really had the chance to explore it until I met Morbius, even now I'm not massively experienced. Men definitely attract me more, and I could be fairly casual about sexual encounters with men, but with women I have to be really attracted to them, either physically or emotionally.
I couldn't put my finger on what it is ..... If Morbius wasn't around and a long term relationship was on the cards with another woman, then I'd certainly get involved, but as with a male, the relationship would have to mirror the on I have now, open, communicative and fun.
Cx

13 Oct 2006

im a bloke so cant comment on it from a females perspective, i always thought i was totally straight until i was about twenty one, then i started having fantasies about guys, i was twenty seven before i actually tried it with another guy, and yeah it was good! i have sex with women more than i do guys, very rarely infact with a guy, just when i feel like it so i guess you can have phases of being straight then bi. finally accepted it now so feel totally comfortable about talking about it