I agree that the lines are hard to define. My bisexuality is something I took a long time to come to terms with. It is absolutely not me trying to hide my homosexuality - I was an out and proud gay man, until I realised I just wasn't comfortable with my true sexual identity - I fancied women, too! Didn't just appreciate thier beauty - I actively fancied several but would not admit it becasue I fancied blokes and had gone through the whole coming out to everyone stage, dammit - I was NOT about to do a u-turn because I loved the gay scene and felt I'd be cast out as a traitor!
Once I embraced it and proclaimed it to the world in general, no-one had a problem with it - I felt a teeny bit let down by everyone's lack of reaction, actually - the drama queen in me wanted to see people react in an 'Oh my God - you need to make up your mind!' kind of a way - just so I could lecture them ;)
Trouble was I'd surrounded myself with a bunch of open minded friends who took it in thier stride...
Are some men in denial as they confuse bi-sexual feelings with being gay?
Are some men in denial as they still associate man on man with the stigma of bigotry?
Could it be that many men who proclaim to be straight but actively get themselves into situations where they give or take cock from another man (usually orally) are indeed straight? They are not in denial of their sexuality as they are (in terms of sexuality) a straight heterosexual - they just happen to be randy feckers after the 'naughty buzz'?
I say on my profile I am bi-sexual... but in honest truth I know I am not (not as I understand the term bi-sexual to mean). It is just the nearest box to tick to what I actually am.
I claim the term "situationaly-bi"
sorry PL
so wanted to add to this thread, but every time i try to start it brings a lump to my throat, silly old git.
good thread though :thumbup:
I think many people are afraid to be their selves because they're worried about what else might pop out when they lift the lid on it all. Years of repression can lead to some pretty dark desires; and while most of them turn out to be harmless, they are also things a lot of us were brought up to believe were shameful.
Also, don't forget that while it was only relatively recently that homosexuality was declared legal, lesbianism was never against the law. It's only really been forty years for men to get used the fact that their desires do not make them worthy only for a prison cell. That is not to say women have not had it tough too – of course they have – but I can't help wondering if that's where part of the difference lies. In fact, homosexuality was demonised in the run up to WWII because it was seen as the British male lacking the kind of backbone and necessary 'manliness' to repel the threat from Germany. Women didn't have to suffer that, at least. That's bound to have had an effect on the male psyche.
Anyway, I could go on . . . so I'll stop now.
Richard
you wouldnt care to PM that one would you Corrie...?
hehe...just to ease the burden like?
lp
This has been a very interesting thread to read. If an individual is happy with themselves and is able to be open about their sexuality, then well done. As discussed there are those that won't fully admit to their Bi or Gay tendencies.
As for myself, well, I must confess, even I am confused.
I am a TV/CD. When I am in male mode I have no other feelings than being attracted to women. And god knows, there are a lot of gorgeous ones out there, especially on this site.
Now when I am dressed en-femme, I have tendencies to fancy either sex. If there is a nice juicy pussy to lick and penetrate, fine. But the same goes when confronted by a nice looking penis. The desire to suck it can be quite strong. As for anal penetration, I couldn't entertain entering a male however I am dressed. The thought of being penetrated is something I only think of whilst dressed en-femme.
I have mentioned to my wife about her buying a strap on, which I am sure she knew what I wanted her to do with it. She just said no and the topic was changed.
So perhaps I have a split personality. Although I have to say, my opinions and compassion are the same which ever way I am dressed.
So, to conclude. When in male mode I am totally hetro. When I am in female mode I have to admit to being bi.
Michelle Mick in male mode)
