My goat has just been 'got' again by something I have read.
I want to start a discussion but may just come across as a rant so hang in there.
What is it about 'girl on girl action' ( I feckin' hate that term) that is deemed to be secondary and how come 'full swap' is deemed to be a heterosexual experience?
I know from being a full time lesbian and now occasional bi-sexual that there is nothing secondary about my interaction with women. Or other women's interaction with other women.
What makes 'couples with bi-fem' feel safer(if that is the correct term) with this 'fem to fem contact'?
Do they also think that full Lesbian relationships are secondary to the real deal ?(heterosexual for those who don't know)
My opinion :- I would never ever say that my sexual encounters with men are secondary to anything. By the same token I wouldn't say my sexual encounters with women are more this or that. They are sexual encounters... they are amazing, wonderful, erotic, horny etc. The gender of the other participant/s is mainly irrelevant.
someone must be able to understand the mentality and why the (in my opinion) derogatory language is used and accepted ?
please.....
I don't really like the whole gay, bi, straight labels. People get too hung up on them. Outside of the swinging world, it's all a case of who you fall for. I've know people who have thought of themselves as completely straight, then met that special person who happens to be of the same sex. Does that mean they've always been bi or gay, or is it just love.
In the case of swinging, it's all just pleasure, does it really matter if the person giving you that pleasure is the same sex?
I've been around people in so called "Alternative" relationships since I was a young teenager so maybe I'm just more open to the idea.
Disclaimer:
Please note this is only my opinion, I understand other people have different points of views and I'm not say they are wrong and I am right.
umm I kind of like that Disclaimer. I may have to add that as my signature.
I have no idea why my women friends refer to themselves as the girls.
Nor why men refer to women as girls.
nor do I understand why it isnt the same with word boy.
It just seems to be the way things are.
My only theory is that the word girl sits well with a concept of feminine beauty, sensuality and probably fecundity whereas boy brings to mind a drunken lout pouring vodka down his neck.
'guy-on-guy'
'girl-on-girl'
could it be sylable-laziness?
woman-on-woman, single-sex-interaction?
too much like hard work for mouths that could be busy doing things other than forming words?
I'm far to tired to think sensibly..
outa here
lp
Down in the West country, you're a boy until you are 110 years of age.
Though in seriousness, I would say it's because it's used by the porn industry pandering to their customers for lipstick lesbians sessions.
Whats a lipstick lesbian session?
some fantastic points- well made. I wish I had more time to respond individually. Thankyou all so far.
my goat is now a kid!
fire- it is the porn style high heel, long nailed/hair... ultra made up women... posing when having sex with each other. Replete with moans and tongues everywhere.
A good definition is to be found in Wikipedia.
"The term has also been reinterpreted as a derogatory reference to feigned lesbianism — implying that it is as easy as lipstick to add or remove.
The term has also been applied to heterosexual women who act like lesbians to get attention, i.e. sorority girls making out at a party just to attract guys. These women are not actually lesbians."
Thereby the porn companies use it for enticement purposes in their "girl on girl action" advertisments