bi men or potentially bi men

22 Nov 2007

I was chatting with the delightfully lovely Mr Wiggle1 in chat t'other night about how
things stand telling a partner about being BI.
We sort of came to the conclusion that it appears to us and others that it seems to be easier for a woman to tell her bloke thats she is BI and him accept that. Than it is for a bloke to tell his woman that he is BI and for her to accept that. we wondered why?
Is this a prelude to Lost coming out of the closet!!!! Oh for crying out loud ok i will i admit it I'm Jeremy Kyles love child ............... :censored:

22 Nov 2007

I think it's a good job you went to bed at this point wink

22 Nov 2007

LOL @ Lost
I think in the great scheme of things, whether its nature or nurture (as in if its inbuilt in our cellular makeup OR if its something that has been passed down from generation to generation)
That its erotic or sexually exciting or something to do with the caring/nurting side of females within a pack situation (thinking WAY back to cave man times or animal kingdom)for them to be sexual with each other that makes its acceptable
Rather than two fellas getting it on could be seen as not macho or manly OR in the case of the nature debate whether its something to do with testosterone/hierarchy/pecking order (again thinking back to the caveman/animal situation)
This all made perfect sense in my head, but has lost something in its transference from brain, to keyboard to screen LOL lol

22 Nov 2007

Quote by Lost
I was chatting with the delightfully lovely Mr Wiggle1 in chat t'other night about how
things stand telling a partner about being BI.
We sort of came to the conclusion that it appears to us and others that it seems to be easier for a woman to tell her bloke thats she is BI and him accept that. Than it is for a bloke to tell his woman that he is BI and for her to accept that. we wondered why?
Is this a prelude to Lost coming out of the closet!!!! Oh for crying out loud ok i will i admit it I'm Jeremy Kyles love child ............... :censored:

Lost, I'm very offended that you refer to Wigs as bi, he has always told me that he is not.....although he does admit his boyfriend is.....
Echoes

23 Nov 2007

I think it is more natural for a woman to be bi. Social protocol has always allowed two women together eg ballroom dancing - and I think culture develops into what is sexally acceptable from the way that mainstream society behaves.
Remember you heard it here first :!:
Plim rolleyes

23 Nov 2007

Quote by Plimboy
I think it is more natural for a woman to be bi. Social protocol has always allowed two women together eg ballroom dancing - and I think culture develops into what is sexally acceptable from the way that mainstream society behaves.
Remember you heard it here first :!:
Plim

Nah...
We've heard that reason trolled out in many a thread here over the years..

23 Nov 2007

Quote by Plimboy
I think it is more natural for a woman to be we do like things done properly. Social protocol has always allowed two women together eg ballroom dancing - and I think culture develops into what is sexally acceptable from the way that mainstream society behaves.
Remember you heard it here first :!:
Plim

23 Nov 2007

I think that most women are basically possessive, and for a male partner to admit 'bi' tendencies is seen as a threat to the womans's sense of security; 'bi' is still seen by the majority as being homosexual. On the other hand, men see two women having erotic thoughts/fun as just that....I would be happy for my wife to have sexy fun with another woman without feeling jealous or miffed in any way if I knew she was having the fullfillment I was'nt able to give. Just for the record I am 'bi' and derive as much pleasure from male and female partners, although my preference would always be female...just can't afford the flowers/theatre/dinner!!

23 Nov 2007

what a total load of poppycock. rolleyes

26 Nov 2007

.....no, just cock.....!

26 Nov 2007

Quote by Plimboy
I think it is more natural for a woman to be bi. Social protocol has always allowed two women together eg ballroom dancing - and I think culture develops into what is sexally acceptable from the way that mainstream society behaves.

I think it's the opposite - Mainstream society dictates what is sexually acceptable. And mainstream society today stems from theocracies (some countries of course are still very much theocracies) of the past. For example, the church decreed homosexuality was a sin. Whilst our modern society might not blindly follow the church any more, generations of living under christian decree will have engrained such opinions into our culture.
Now, who decreed what was good and what was bad, and why is another matter. Is there any real reason to condemn an action because a believer of one ancient culture was politically oppressed (or opressing) a believer of a different ancinet culture, and put that message across in a spiritual text of the day? Or is there any reason to condemn an action because someone else, generations later, decided to translate and edit that text to suit their own contempory political views?
In other words, is it as simple as society following some innate sense of acceptability, or could it be society accepts what it's told to?

26 Nov 2007

I think that most women are basically possessive, and for a male partner to admit 'bi' tendencies is seen as a threat to the womans's sense of security; 'bi' is still seen by the majority as being homosexual. On the other hand, men see two women having erotic thoughts/fun as just that....I would be happy for my wife to have sexy fun with another woman without feeling jealous or miffed in any way if I knew she was having the fullfillment I was'nt able to give. Just for the record I am 'bi' and derive as much pleasure from male and female partners, although my preference would always be female...just can't afford the flowers/theatre/dinner!!
Sorry for the tangent, but that just got me thinking....
If Mr W/or any male LTP left me for another woman, I'd be upset, jealous, wondering what she could do that I couldn't, thinking is she better looking/slimmer/more loving/better in bed than me...etc etc etc.
However, if he left me for a man- I'd be slightly miffed, granted. However, the insecurity wouldn't be there. I'd be thinking "he goes for blokes, I'm not a bloke." Simple as. I wouldn't be comparing myself to him, or wondering where I'd gone wrong.
Am I alone in thinking like this? dunno

In edit- 'scuse the boldness! :doh:

26 Nov 2007

Quote by winchwench
Am I alone in thinking like this?

I would echo/mirror that from a chaps perspective
lp

26 Nov 2007

Quote by winchwench
I think that most women are basically possessive, and for a male partner to admit 'bi' tendencies is seen as a threat to the womans's sense of security; 'bi' is still seen by the majority as being homosexual. On the other hand, men see two women having erotic thoughts/fun as just that....I would be happy for my wife to have sexy fun with another woman without feeling jealous or miffed in any way if I knew she was having the fullfillment I was'nt able to give. Just for the record I am 'bi' and derive as much pleasure from male and female partners, although my preference would always be female...just can't afford the flowers/theatre/dinner!!

Sorry for the tangent, but that just got me thinking....
If Mr W/or any male LTP left me for another woman, I'd be upset, jealous, wondering what she could do that I couldn't, thinking is she better looking/slimmer/more loving/better in bed than me...etc etc etc.
However, if he left me for a man- I'd be slightly miffed, granted. However, the insecurity wouldn't be there. I'd be thinking "he goes for blokes, I'm not a bloke." Simple as. I wouldn't be comparing myself to him, or wondering where I'd gone wrong.
Am I alone in thinking like this?
In edit- 'scuse the boldness! :doh:
Nope im pretty sure I would feel excatly the same!.