There have been many threads on this subject and I think it would be fair to say that the majority of men who describe themselves as bi curious are actually a bit more than that, and actually have a bit more experience than the description suggests. They, I, have fixed limits and so they put bi-curious as a means of not raising expectations they won't meet.
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Bi or Bi Curious????
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maybe lot of men like me dont know what to label themselves.
During marriage I put all mm experiences down to drunken nights(wasnt very honest with myself)mainly through being brought up in life hearing its wrong,unnatural,disgusting from oppinions of family,friends, workmates . so its hard to be honest with yourself about the urges you get,just trying to convince yourself you're "normal"
Now single and joined SH and listed as bicurious as still didnt know a label , luv giving oral and taking anally so what does that make me?bisexual,orally bi,slightly bi,bicurious?especially when I love sex with woman more. after 2 weeks as member and being more honest with myself and clearer thinking on the subject ,Ive decided Im Bisexual,I just like different things to other bisexual to label yourself bisexual can be a huge step in life(or bloody big breath of fresh air to me),but still worried what others(people I know)might think ,
So its not that simple just bloody confusing
During marriage I put all mm experiences down to drunken nights(wasnt very honest with myself)mainly through being brought up in life hearing its wrong,unnatural,disgusting from oppinions of family,friends, workmates . so its hard to be honest with yourself about the urges you get,just trying to convince yourself you're "normal"
Now single and joined SH and listed as bicurious as still didnt know a label , luv giving oral and taking anally so what does that make me?bisexual,orally bi,slightly bi,bicurious?especially when I love sex with woman more. after 2 weeks as member and being more honest with myself and clearer thinking on the subject ,Ive decided Im Bisexual,I just like different things to other bisexual to label yourself bisexual can be a huge step in life(or bloody big breath of fresh air to me),but still worried what others(people I know)might think ,
So its not that simple just bloody confusing
I agree, i'm in the same situation, i have had some mm sex and although very limited i have fought to suppress my thoughts let alone urges to have sex with another man again.( I was very young when i had my 1st experience )
So, I Love having sex with women, but i also want to have sex Again with men, in my opinion i am a label, i'm bi-sexual! it has taken me years to accept this for many reasons, 1 being society does not like bi-sexual people,( you Can't be both it's 1 or the other) yet have accepted gay folk!
another is the embarrassed feeling i get, which is why i'm here, where i'm not judged but welcomed and embraced.
my final point is this,
Be who you want to be, do as you want and if you dont like it, then fine but at least you'll know.
But never pressure yourself into something, you will know if you want something or not, and even at the last minute you can still say No.
bi or bi curious, the decision is always going to be yours.
XX
So, I Love having sex with women, but i also want to have sex Again with men, in my opinion i am a label, i'm bi-sexual! it has taken me years to accept this for many reasons, 1 being society does not like bi-sexual people,( you Can't be both it's 1 or the other) yet have accepted gay folk!
another is the embarrassed feeling i get, which is why i'm here, where i'm not judged but welcomed and embraced.
my final point is this,
Be who you want to be, do as you want and if you dont like it, then fine but at least you'll know.
But never pressure yourself into something, you will know if you want something or not, and even at the last minute you can still say No.
bi or bi curious, the decision is always going to be yours.
XX
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maybe lot of men like me dont know what to label themselves.
During marriage I put all mm experiences down to drunken nights(wasnt very honest with myself)mainly through being brought up in life hearing its wrong,unnatural,disgusting from oppinions of family,friends, workmates . so its hard to be honest with yourself about the urges you get,just trying to convince yourself you're "normal"
Now single and joined SH and listed as bicurious as still didnt know a label , luv giving oral and taking anally so what does that make me?bisexual,orally bi,slightly bi,bicurious?especially when I love sex with woman more. after 2 weeks as member and being more honest with myself and clearer thinking on the subject ,Ive decided Im Bisexual,I just like different things to other bisexual to label yourself bisexual can be a huge step in life(or bloody big breath of fresh air to me),but still worried what others(people I know)might think ,
So its not that simple just bloody confusing
Good post and :welcome: to the Cafe!
:rotflmao: Sorry Dlep 
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maybe lot of men like me dont know what to label themselves.
During marriage I put all mm experiences down to drunken nights(wasnt very honest with myself)mainly through being brought up in life hearing its wrong,unnatural,disgusting from oppinions of family,friends, workmates . so its hard to be honest with yourself about the urges you get,just trying to convince yourself you're "normal"
Now single and joined SH and listed as bicurious as still didnt know a label , luv giving oral and taking anally so what does that make me?bisexual,orally bi,slightly bi,bicurious?especially when I love sex with woman more. after 2 weeks as member and being more honest with myself and clearer thinking on the subject ,Ive decided Im Bisexual,I just like different things to other bisexual to label yourself bisexual can be a huge step in life(or bloody big breath of fresh air to me),but still worried what others(people I know)might think ,
So its not that simple just bloody confusing
Good post and :welcome: to the Cafe!
Thanks Kiss thats kind of you, I feel welcome
Right *rolls up sleeves*.
Me 'n missus Franknlou have beaten each other into a stalemate of agreement over this.
We think it comes down to 2 things, if she were to put Bi-sexual it would raise expectations with any other couple we were to play with, so its partly a get out clause. She would find it easier to say no to a man but still gets to keepe her options open.
Secondly, if somebody labels themselves straight or gay, we as a society, immediately assume that its not just the sex but also the emotional attachment that goes with a relationship. She feels that if she put just Bi rather than curious she is misrepresenting herself as someone who might shack up with a woman or a man. She loves to play with women (lucky me) but can only see herself giving an emotional attachment to a man.
So she's shaggin' Bi.
That's sorted that then.
I did have an opinion but all kitchen privileges were withdrawn until I renounced it.
Me 'n missus Franknlou have beaten each other into a stalemate of agreement over this.
We think it comes down to 2 things, if she were to put Bi-sexual it would raise expectations with any other couple we were to play with, so its partly a get out clause. She would find it easier to say no to a man but still gets to keepe her options open.
Secondly, if somebody labels themselves straight or gay, we as a society, immediately assume that its not just the sex but also the emotional attachment that goes with a relationship. She feels that if she put just Bi rather than curious she is misrepresenting herself as someone who might shack up with a woman or a man. She loves to play with women (lucky me) but can only see herself giving an emotional attachment to a man.
So she's shaggin' Bi.
That's sorted that then.
I did have an opinion but all kitchen privileges were withdrawn until I renounced it.
Sex God
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/83273.html?highlight=bisexual
the above is a thread that may be worth a read for those newer members who haven't seen it....
as I have said before, I don't like to describe myself as bisexual as I would only have a full relationship with a man and therefore think it underminds people who are truely bisexual (ie. would have relationships with either sex). So for that reason my profile says I am bi curious, whislt in fact I am not at all curious and know my own sexuality very well, it's just as the laird has pointed out that labels are the main probllem..........and as many people I would rarther just not be labeled or as winchy quoted my the nearest I can get is bisexualish........
the above is a thread that may be worth a read for those newer members who haven't seen it....
as I have said before, I don't like to describe myself as bisexual as I would only have a full relationship with a man and therefore think it underminds people who are truely bisexual (ie. would have relationships with either sex). So for that reason my profile says I am bi curious, whislt in fact I am not at all curious and know my own sexuality very well, it's just as the laird has pointed out that labels are the main probllem..........and as many people I would rarther just not be labeled or as winchy quoted my the nearest I can get is bisexualish........
