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Bi Sexual Honesty

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I was surprised by the amount of bi/ bi curious married guys on the site & in the chatrooms & was wondering if their wives, girlfriends, partners etc are aware of their secret sexuality?
May be the question should have been ](Are you going to kill me with your secret sexuality)?
Some guys are known for being sexually licentious people, so if they are having these secret trysts with other men & not taking the necessary precautions how many wives/partners are living in blissful ignorance of their partner’s sexual preferences?
I would imagine that this could be a lively thread & would welcome all your comments from both sexes, so answers on a postcard to .......
My bisexuality is important to my identity and I am, therefore, an out and proud bisexual. It is important to me that any prospective partner - male or female - is aware of my sexual identity right from the start. I have also made sure that I play safe and am clean and disease free - but everyone who is sexually active should do this anyway, not just bi men.
"beware of your sins as they are sure to find you out"
why lie is my answer
you are what you are no point hiding behind things
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I have also made sure that I play safe and am clean and disease free - but everyone who is sexually active should do this anyway, not just bi men.

Well said that man! :thumbup:
Im not making excuses for anyone but maybe they are good reasons it happens? Maybe not.. confused
Ive met many a guy/fem over the years who married, had kids, grandchildren, did all the stuff that society tells us is *the norm* and later in life *found out who they are*.
Some may have always knew they were bi/gay and went along with what *other expect of them*.
Families/friends can be the worst people to have and put those expectations on you. So we end up hiding what we really want from the world. (they can also be a great source of support, we dont always know it)
I can sort of understand how and why a lie (if it is) like that happens...
It could also be a choice?
For others maybe they get a kick out of *having a secret*??
People just wouldnt understand?
Im waffling arent I now... ? :? :? Off to a subject I know bit more about.... wheres the thigh thread!
I use the bi/curious room where at least 95% of the room members have "straight male" on their profile and at the very least, I'd wager about 70% of those are married.
Interesting stuff when you link it to that thread about blood donation. All the hoo-ha about not donating blood when you've had sex with a bi-male. How do we know if they're bi when they lie about it?
Married men on here make me giggle anyway. All the secrets and lies. I believe what gos around comes around. NOTHING is secret for long - unless only 2 people know about it and one of them is dead.
Is it a problem that a male chooses not to advertise his sexual preferences dunno
Maybe he doesnt know them himself yet :dunno:
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Is it a problem that a male chooses not to advertise his sexual preferences dunno
Maybe he doesnt know them himself yet :dunno:

I agree...a very good friendship of mine was destroyed because of something like that....if the guy isnt sure, he shouldnt have to say a word
Maybe they don't know eh? I'm sure their trolling in te chatrooms for "any cock wants sucking?" will certainly help them on their way.
rolleyes
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Maybe they don't know eh? I'm sure their trolling in te chatrooms for "any cock wants sucking?" will certainly help them on their way.
rolleyes

And of course you have witnessed every guy on here who doesnt shout their sexuality from the rooftops doing this dunno
:roll:
mallock, i think what they meant was why have straight on your profile if you are openly trolling in chat "looking for cock", if your open about your sexuality in the chatrooms then why lie on your profile? this i don't think is being discreet about your sexuality its more of lying to get a shag, pardon the pun.
Anyway it shouldn't matter who married guys are seeing when doing it behind there partners back, they are still risking their partners sexual health, their choice is taken away with whether they want to take those risks bi or straight.
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"beware of your sins as they are sure to find you out"
why lie is my answer
you are what you are no point hiding behind things

:thumbup: exactly!.. I'm bi and proud of it!
oh and tan.. why the crying lady? :cry:
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Anyway it shouldn't matter who married guys are seeing when doing it behind there partners back, they are still risking their partners sexual health, their choice is taken away with whether they want to take those risks bi or straight.

And who says they dont practise safe sex dunno
Seems to me that a lot of assumptions are being made here by people simply because someone doesnt declare their sexual preferences for all to see...
not me! but if you want to go down that road then theres no such thing as safe sex, theres only safer sex, but you probably already know that, so i can't see the point your trying to make, but you are entitled to an opinion like everyone else. but to answer your question, i don't know if anybody was practising safe sex because as i wasn't talking about anybody in particular, not that i said they weren't practising safer sex, i was merely making an assumption just like you are making an assumption that i said they weren't. But i still stand by my initial comment because condoms aren't fail proof and don't guarantee safe sex, just make it safer, theres other ways to catch STD's etc so to me they are still putting partners at risk and taking away their choice if they are doing it behind there back.