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You're very much not alone in that. Let's face it, cocks can be very attractive. They make you want to touch them, squeeze them, and stroke them. A lot of the time they make you want to take them in your mouth and run your tongue around their glistening head.
Maybe you should use your profile text to explain that , whilst you considered yourself predominantly straight, you are open to new experiences and find the thought of sucking cock a turn on?
You trying to tease me Winch? Glistening head indeed!!! Is the second bit copyrighted? :small-print:
You're very much not alone in that. Let's face it, cocks can be very attractive. They make you want to touch them, squeeze them, and stroke them. A lot of the time they make you want to take them in your mouth and run your tongue around their glistening head.
Maybe you should use your profile text to explain that , whilst you considered yourself predominantly straight, you are open to new experiences and find the thought of sucking cock a turn on?
You trying to tease me Winch? Glistening head indeed!!! Is the second bit copyrighted? :small-print:
We are ALL born with an innate need to suck...its human nature...
Bowlby reviews the nature and dynamics of the first object relationship. Of the theories that have been brought forward he favors two: an innate need to be in touch with and cling to the mother, and a need to relate to the breast, to suck, and to possess it orally. There is evidence that the child has a need to be smiled at, picked up, and talked to. Bowlby presents evidence that sucking, clinging, following, crying, and smiling are instinctual motor responses equivalent to the instinctual responses described by ethologists. Observations of human beings and experiments on the higher primates suggest that clinging is independent of oral behavior. The infant's cry is due not only to hunger but also to other releasing stimuli. These instinctual patterns are evoked or suppressed under certain conditions. Clinging is already present at birth and is expressed with great tenacity especially in a setting of separation or at bedtime. It is manifest also in relation to transitional objects.
surely the desire to suck is just going back to that innate deeprooted thing?? and depending on how much is has been stifled or instilled that its in males for them to suck anything or fondle anything other than a tit with their mouth, surely governs on how much bi curiosity comes through at a later date. (or doesnt for that matter)
think about how many things you stick in your moth subconsciously...chewing the top of a pen when on the phone, biting a pencil when taking a test, biting nails, chewing a drinks straw/cocktail stick etc...all times when we unconsciously revert to the need for something in out mouths......usually at stressful times or maybe needing times of comfort, or just at times when you feel calm and serene, as a baby would at the time of suckling.
all boils down to the need for a feel good thing relating back to innate tendencies that have been there since the dawn of time in my opinion.
Bowlby reviews the nature and dynamics of the first object relationship. Of the theories that have been brought forward he favors two: an innate need to be in touch with and cling to the mother, and a need to relate to the breast, to suck, and to possess it orally. There is evidence that the child has a need to be smiled at, picked up, and talked to. Bowlby presents evidence that sucking, clinging, following, crying, and smiling are instinctual motor responses equivalent to the instinctual responses described by ethologists. Observations of human beings and experiments on the higher primates suggest that clinging is independent of oral behavior. The infant's cry is due not only to hunger but also to other releasing stimuli. These instinctual patterns are evoked or suppressed under certain conditions. Clinging is already present at birth and is expressed with great tenacity especially in a setting of separation or at bedtime. It is manifest also in relation to transitional objects.
surely the desire to suck is just going back to that innate deeprooted thing?? and depending on how much is has been stifled or instilled that its in males for them to suck anything or fondle anything other than a tit with their mouth, surely governs on how much bi curiosity comes through at a later date. (or doesnt for that matter)
think about how many things you stick in your moth subconsciously...chewing the top of a pen when on the phone, biting a pencil when taking a test, biting nails, chewing a drinks straw/cocktail stick etc...all times when we unconsciously revert to the need for something in out mouths......usually at stressful times or maybe needing times of comfort, or just at times when you feel calm and serene, as a baby would at the time of suckling.
all boils down to the need for a feel good thing relating back to innate tendencies that have been there since the dawn of time in my opinion.
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We are ALL born with an innate need to suck...its human nature...
Bowlby reviews the nature and dynamics of the first object relationship. Of the theories that have been brought forward he favors two: an innate need to be in touch with and cling to the mother, and a need to relate to the breast, to suck, and to possess it orally. There is evidence that the child has a need to be smiled at, picked up, and talked to. Bowlby presents evidence that sucking, clinging, following, crying, and smiling are instinctual motor responses equivalent to the instinctual responses described by ethologists. Observations of human beings and experiments on the higher primates suggest that clinging is independent of oral behavior. The infant's cry is due not only to hunger but also to other releasing stimuli. These instinctual patterns are evoked or suppressed under certain conditions. Clinging is already present at birth and is expressed with great tenacity especially in a setting of separation or at bedtime. It is manifest also in relation to transitional objects.
surely the desire to suck is just going back to that innate deeprooted thing?? and depending on how much is has been stifled or instilled that its in males for them to suck anything or fondle anything other than a tit with their mouth, surely governs on how much bi curiosity comes through at a later date. (or doesnt for that matter)
think about how many things you stick in your moth subconsciously...chewing the top of a pen when on the phone, biting a pencil when taking a test, biting nails, chewing a drinks straw/cocktail stick etc...all times when we unconsciously revert to the need for something in out mouths......usually at stressful times or maybe needing times of comfort, or just at times when you feel calm and serene, as a baby would at the time of suckling.
all boils down to the need for a feel good thing relating back to innate tendencies that have been there since the dawn of time in my opinion.
Maybe, but a much simpler motive got me started.
It was simply that I don't believe in asking my partner to do something I wasn't prepared to do. So I did and I liked it. I don't do it often but I enjoy it when I do.
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We are ALL born with an innate need to suck...its human nature...
Bowlby reviews the nature and dynamics of the first object relationship. Of the theories that have been brought forward he favors two: an innate need to be in touch with and cling to the mother, and a need to relate to the breast, to suck, and to possess it orally. There is evidence that the child has a need to be smiled at, picked up, and talked to. Bowlby presents evidence that sucking, clinging, following, crying, and smiling are instinctual motor responses equivalent to the instinctual responses described by ethologists. Observations of human beings and experiments on the higher primates suggest that clinging is independent of oral behavior. The infant's cry is due not only to hunger but also to other releasing stimuli. These instinctual patterns are evoked or suppressed under certain conditions. Clinging is already present at birth and is expressed with great tenacity especially in a setting of separation or at bedtime. It is manifest also in relation to transitional objects.
surely the desire to suck is just going back to that innate deeprooted thing?? and depending on how much is has been stifled or instilled that its in males for them to suck anything or fondle anything other than a tit with their mouth, surely governs on how much bi curiosity comes through at a later date. (or doesnt for that matter)
think about how many things you stick in your moth subconsciously...chewing the top of a pen when on the phone, biting a pencil when taking a test, biting nails, chewing a drinks straw/cocktail stick etc...all times when we unconsciously revert to the need for something in out mouths......usually at stressful times or maybe needing times of comfort, or just at times when you feel calm and serene, as a baby would at the time of suckling.
all boils down to the need for a feel good thing relating back to innate tendencies that have been there since the dawn of time in my opinion.
Maybe Bonedigger, but it all boils down to I wanna kiss the little man in the pink poloneck!!!
Thanks for the therapy though! I'm better now
Seems a sensitive area....never had a problem myself, but just be honest....I am bi, and always say so - if someone else on the site is not into my flexible fun then they don't make contact. From where I'm standing, there are an awful lot of closet-bi's around, but I accept that relationships with partners make it so. The French got it right...'Vive la difference!!'....and, live and let live!
Casanova
I don't know if I am the only female to think this either, although may be in the minority with the 'straight' label again, but... I have actively looked for bi guys in the past, because being a tad greedy and enjoying playing with multiple men occassionally I can see myself buddying up with a bi guy much more comfortably than one who craves to have FFM all the time. I would also feel less guilty as it doesn't seem fair that I may happily enjoy MMF as many times as can possibly have it and begrudge my buddy the FFM because it does nothing for me.
So... the cautious men that are not putting bi curious or bi on their profiles could be possibly missing out on an ideal partnership.
As I said before, I'm not homophobic and as long as I'm being kept busy I'm not going to get upset if two of the guys are playing with each other, in fact it brings another element to the front, as you can discuss who u fancy together or who you would like to play with and share the desire.
I don't know, maybe I'm wrong?
So... the cautious men that are not putting bi curious or bi on their profiles could be possibly missing out on an ideal partnership.
As I said before, I'm not homophobic and as long as I'm being kept busy I'm not going to get upset if two of the guys are playing with each other, in fact it brings another element to the front, as you can discuss who u fancy together or who you would like to play with and share the desire.
I don't know, maybe I'm wrong?
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I don't know if I am the only female to think this either, although may be in the minority with the 'straight' label again, but... I have actively looked for bi guys in the past, because being a tad greedy and enjoying playing with multiple men occassionally I can see myself buddying up with a bi guy much more comfortably than one who craves to have FFM all the time. I would also feel less guilty as it doesn't seem fair that I may happily enjoy MMF as many times as can possibly have it and begrudge my buddy the FFM because it does nothing for me.
Personally I prefer MMF anyway and it has nothing to do with my propensity for sticking another guy's dick in my mouth. I hate being the centre of attention, especially in a sexual setting. I far prefer to be the doer than the 'doee'.
So... the cautious men that are not putting bi curious or bi on their profiles could be possibly missing out on an ideal partnership.
Well in my case I don't feel I'm missing out. This is why I consider myself to be straight. I don't go looking for interactions with other mean. Actually I'm not particularly into it in that way. I only 'perform' in a group sex environment and only in a way that isn't the main event so to speak. If it happens it happens, but I rarely if ever plan for it to happen.
As I said before, I'm not homophobic and as long as I'm being kept busy I'm not going to get upset if two of the guys are playing with each other, in fact it brings another element to the front, as you can discuss who u fancy together or who you would like to play with and share the desire.
I don't know, maybe I'm wrong?
No I don't think you are wrong. Whenever it's happened to me it's been the icing on the cake for all concerned and it does bring an additional element to the proceedings. For many couples I've been with it's been the most thing they've ever done (the innocents
) and as such they went home with a huge buzz on. 
Quote by flower411
But I have always considered "bi" or "bi curious" to mean a person who would consider having a relationship with either sex.
Having thoughts about possibly touching, kissing or sucking bits of a person of the same sex, in a highly charged sexual situation doesn`t necessarily mean that a person is bi ......does it ??
Nice one Flower, I think that is exactly why I would describe myself as straight. Never for a second thought of being in a relationship with a guy... Thought about the other once or twice...
So I've changed my profile alittle. Thanks everybody for the good advice :smile2:
Quote by Misterwood
But I have always considered "bi" or "bi curious" to mean a person who would consider having a relationship with either sex.
Having thoughts about possibly touching, kissing or sucking bits of a person of the same sex, in a highly charged sexual situation doesn`t necessarily mean that a person is bi ......does it ??
Nice one Flower, I think that is exactly why I would describe myself as straight. Never for a second thought of being in a relationship with a guy... Thought about the other once or twice...
So I've changed my profile alittle. Thanks everybody for the good advice :smile2:
Just had a look see, and I think you've said the right things. :thumbup:
Flower, I always had issues with saying I'm bi for exactly the reasons you've described. Weird though, innit? :lol2:
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To be honest, I`ve always found that there seem to be more people on here claiming to be bi than straight.....a misconception brought on by my own latent prejudices no doubt !!
I have drifted through life meeting all sorts of people, many of them have been gay or bi...some of them have been druggies and some have been religious fanatics :shock:
I don`t think I have ever defined these people by the one particular thing in their lives that others may find difficult to deal with...
But I have always considered "bi" or "bi curious" to mean a person who would consider having a relationship with either sex.
Having thoughts about possibly touching, kissing or sucking bits of a person of the same sex, in a highly charged sexual situation doesn`t necessarily mean that a person is bi ......does it ??
Think I`m confusing myself now !!! :? :?
I have on our profile that I am bi curious, however I wouldn't want a relationship with another woman I just want to play with one... In answer to your question flower, I don't have a clue... :giggle:
Take me for instance no please do the wife wont. But seriously the reason a lot of guys wont put Bi in there profiles is that like me being a soldier and I read the soldier one you were right I think he was a dick and not a squaddie at all he just said that to impress. Anyhow like myself my mate introduced me to Swingingheaven both of us are squaddies I know I certainly wouldnt put up that I was Bi if he knew my name on here I suspect that goes for a lot of blokes on here as well.
Sexpert
I think it's still the same old case with the plight of the poor single male.
(I haven't been around for a while but judging on my past experience)
for every 1000 single males there's probably 20 couples, and if half those couples don't want single men at all that takes it down to 10 then if half the ones who do want men don't want bi-men, because most men are still prejudiced and will avoid the possibility of being around a man who may be attracted to them if they can help it, that takes it down to 5.
It's pretty much a case of their(single men's) case is pretty impossible to start with but then they'll probably make their chances even worse with the majority of possibles if they admit they're bi, even if it makes their chances better with a small minority.
Oh and Hi, not been here for a couple of years.
(I haven't been around for a while but judging on my past experience)
for every 1000 single males there's probably 20 couples, and if half those couples don't want single men at all that takes it down to 10 then if half the ones who do want men don't want bi-men, because most men are still prejudiced and will avoid the possibility of being around a man who may be attracted to them if they can help it, that takes it down to 5.
It's pretty much a case of their(single men's) case is pretty impossible to start with but then they'll probably make their chances even worse with the majority of possibles if they admit they're bi, even if it makes their chances better with a small minority.
Oh and Hi, not been here for a couple of years.
Quote by flower411
To be honest, I`ve always found that there seem to be more people on here claiming to be bi than straight.....a misconception brought on by my own latent prejudices no doubt !!
I have drifted through life meeting all sorts of people, many of them have been gay or bi...some of them have been druggies and some have been religious fanatics :shock:
I don`t think I have ever defined these people by the one particular thing in their lives that others may find difficult to deal with...
But I have always considered "bi" or "bi curious" to mean a person who would consider having a relationship with either sex.
Having thoughts about possibly touching, kissing or sucking bits of a person of the same sex, in a highly charged sexual situation doesn`t necessarily mean that a person is bi ......does it ??
Think I`m confusing myself now !!! :? :?
Agreed.
People can tend to paint a somewhat different picture as to their sexual outlook on things.
I would have to say that if you was bi curious that to me means you have done nothing but have either thought about it or want to try it. Bi would mean you have tried it and would do it again or have done it more than once. :shock: If on the other hand you have done something and would never do it again that would not make you bi, but then you are no longer curious either....maybe that could be bi curiousish?
How anyone can say they are bi curious when they have done something baffles me. Surely curious means just that, but once you have done it how can you still be curious. Also if as in this thread we are talking about guys, how can someone who has sucked cock many times still say they are only curious? :dunno: How does that one work?
You would have to be bi, unless there is another word for it that I cant't think of. :shock: Quote by kentswingers777
To be honest, I`ve always found that there seem to be more people on here claiming to be bi than straight.....a misconception brought on by my own latent prejudices no doubt !!
I have drifted through life meeting all sorts of people, many of them have been gay or bi...some of them have been druggies and some have been religious fanatics :shock:
I don`t think I have ever defined these people by the one particular thing in their lives that others may find difficult to deal with...
But I have always considered "bi" or "bi curious" to mean a person who would consider having a relationship with either sex.
Having thoughts about possibly touching, kissing or sucking bits of a person of the same sex, in a highly charged sexual situation doesn`t necessarily mean that a person is bi ......does it ??
Think I`m confusing myself now !!! :? :?
Agreed.
People can tend to paint a somewhat different picture as to their sexual outlook on things.
I would have to say that if you was bi curious that to me means you have done nothing but have either thought about it or want to try it. Bi would mean you have tried it and would do it again or have done it more than once. :shock: If on the other hand you have done something and would never do it again that would not make you bi, but then you are no longer curious either....maybe that could be bi curiousish?
How anyone can say they are bi curious when they have done something baffles me. Surely curious means just that, but once you have done it how can you still be curious. Also if as in this thread we are talking about guys, how can someone who has sucked cock many times still say they are only curious? :dunno: How does that one work?
You would have to be bi, unless there is another word for it that I cant't think of. :shock:Kent, I know I'm not alone on this one......I've been there, done that, more than once. I say "curious" on my profile because there isn't a category that better fits my feelings.
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To be honest, I`ve always found that there seem to be more people on here claiming to be bi than straight.....a misconception brought on by my own latent prejudices no doubt !!
I have drifted through life meeting all sorts of people, many of them have been gay or bi...some of them have been druggies and some have been religious fanatics :shock:
I don`t think I have ever defined these people by the one particular thing in their lives that others may find difficult to deal with...
But I have always considered "bi" or "bi curious" to mean a person who would consider having a relationship with either sex.
Having thoughts about possibly touching, kissing or sucking bits of a person of the same sex, in a highly charged sexual situation doesn`t necessarily mean that a person is bi ......does it ??
Think I`m confusing myself now !!! :? :?
Agreed.
People can tend to paint a somewhat different picture as to their sexual outlook on things.
I would have to say that if you was bi curious that to me means you have done nothing but have either thought about it or want to try it. Bi would mean you have tried it and would do it again or have done it more than once. :shock: If on the other hand you have done something and would never do it again that would not make you bi, but then you are no longer curious either....maybe that could be bi curiousish?
How anyone can say they are bi curious when they have done something baffles me. Surely curious means just that, but once you have done it how can you still be curious. Also if as in this thread we are talking about guys, how can someone who has sucked cock many times still say they are only curious? :dunno: How does that one work?
You would have to be bi, unless there is another word for it that I cant't think of. :shock:Kent, I know I'm not alone on this one......I've been there, done that, more than once. I say "curious" on my profile because there isn't a category that better fits my feelings.
Understand that winch, thats why I said bi curiousish jokingly. Blimey have to watch what one says on here.
Quote by kentswingers777
To be honest, I`ve always found that there seem to be more people on here claiming to be bi than straight.....a misconception brought on by my own latent prejudices no doubt !!
I have drifted through life meeting all sorts of people, many of them have been gay or bi...some of them have been druggies and some have been religious fanatics :shock:
I don`t think I have ever defined these people by the one particular thing in their lives that others may find difficult to deal with...
But I have always considered "bi" or "bi curious" to mean a person who would consider having a relationship with either sex.
Having thoughts about possibly touching, kissing or sucking bits of a person of the same sex, in a highly charged sexual situation doesn`t necessarily mean that a person is bi ......does it ??
Think I`m confusing myself now !!! :? :?
Agreed.
People can tend to paint a somewhat different picture as to their sexual outlook on things.
I would have to say that if you was bi curious that to me means you have done nothing but have either thought about it or want to try it. Bi would mean you have tried it and would do it again or have done it more than once. :shock: If on the other hand you have done something and would never do it again that would not make you bi, but then you are no longer curious either....maybe that could be bi curiousish?
How anyone can say they are bi curious when they have done something baffles me. Surely curious means just that, but once you have done it how can you still be curious. Also if as in this thread we are talking about guys, how can someone who has sucked cock many times still say they are only curious? :dunno: How does that one work?
You would have to be bi, unless there is another word for it that I cant't think of. :shock:Kent, I know I'm not alone on this one......I've been there, done that, more than once. I say "curious" on my profile because there isn't a category that better fits my feelings.
Understand that winch, thats why I said bi curiousish jokingly. Blimey have to watch what one says on here.
No offence meant- just an attempt at explanation- hence the winky thing! :wink: :wink:
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To be honest, I`ve always found that there seem to be more people on here claiming to be bi than straight.....a misconception brought on by my own latent prejudices no doubt !!
I have drifted through life meeting all sorts of people, many of them have been gay or bi...some of them have been druggies and some have been religious fanatics :shock:
I don`t think I have ever defined these people by the one particular thing in their lives that others may find difficult to deal with...
But I have always considered "bi" or "bi curious" to mean a person who would consider having a relationship with either sex.
Having thoughts about possibly touching, kissing or sucking bits of a person of the same sex, in a highly charged sexual situation doesn`t necessarily mean that a person is bi ......does it ??
Think I`m confusing myself now !!! :? :?
Agreed.
People can tend to paint a somewhat different picture as to their sexual outlook on things.
I would have to say that if you was bi curious that to me means you have done nothing but have either thought about it or want to try it. Bi would mean you have tried it and would do it again or have done it more than once. :shock: If on the other hand you have done something and would never do it again that would not make you bi, but then you are no longer curious either....maybe that could be bi curiousish?
How anyone can say they are bi curious when they have done something baffles me. Surely curious means just that, but once you have done it how can you still be curious. Also if as in this thread we are talking about guys, how can someone who has sucked cock many times still say they are only curious? :dunno: How does that one work?
You would have to be bi, unless there is another word for it that I cant't think of. :shock:Kent, I know I'm not alone on this one......I've been there, done that, more than once. I say "curious" on my profile because there isn't a category that better fits my feelings.
Understand that winch, thats why I said bi curiousish jokingly. Blimey have to watch what one says on here.
No offence meant- just an attempt at explanation- hence the winky thing! :wink: :wink:
None taken.
Master of Sex
Far more women seem to be prepared to say they are bi on this site than men but if I pop into a room for bi men I see a lot of men describing themselves as straight there. Perhaps they don't like to think of themselves as bi or perhaps they don't like others to think of them as bi. I can't say.
I like women best, love to cuddle and snog them and be affectionate to them, emotions I don't feel towards men but am happy to play with a cock as a nice toy from time to time. That doesn't mean I'll go to grab a man's cock in a threesome if he isn't in to that but I notice a lot of men seem to be uptight about being anywhere near a man that they think of as bi. Oh well, we are all different.
I like women best, love to cuddle and snog them and be affectionate to them, emotions I don't feel towards men but am happy to play with a cock as a nice toy from time to time. That doesn't mean I'll go to grab a man's cock in a threesome if he isn't in to that but I notice a lot of men seem to be uptight about being anywhere near a man that they think of as bi. Oh well, we are all different.
Casanova
Why do people lie
If ya cant be honest about likes/dislikes etc, whats the point?
dee
If ya cant be honest about likes/dislikes etc, whats the point?
dee
Sex God
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I am straight but have checked bi rooms out in search of bi girls who may like to get some FFM fun going.
I also used to be on here as part of a couple and my female partner who was bi would show herself as straight in our profile.
:? Gosh. I have just realised that for some reason I have always assumed that the bi rooms would be full of bi blokes and not women. Why? I dunno. Assumptions can be misleading I guess... Hmmmm, might have to go and have a looksee...
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Why do people lie
If ya cant be honest about likes/dislikes etc, whats the point?
dee
If only we all knew the answer to that one. :? Perhaps the question is does the person really know themselves. First, I am straight, not bi, not even curious. Having said that a lady and I have been exchanging PMs and who knows. This is not an invite so no PMs thanks guys. We all stretch our borders, and to be honest likes and dislikes change. Now with the right individuals I may change. I know I will not, but will I?
Travis
Oh and what is bi, how far do you have to go to be bi?
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Why do people lie
If ya cant be honest about likes/dislikes etc, whats the point?
dee
If only we all knew the answer to that one. :? Perhaps the question is does the person really know themselves. First, I am straight, not bi, not even curious. Having said that a lady and I have been exchanging PMs and who knows. This is not an invite so no PMs thanks guys. We all stretch our borders, and to be honest likes and dislikes change. Now with the right individuals I may change. I know I will not, but will I?
Travis
Oh and what is bi, how far do you have to go to be bi?
I did write a page back as to what makes one bi. Well what I think makes someone bi. :dunno:
Quote by kentswingers777
Why do people lie
If ya cant be honest about likes/dislikes etc, whats the point?
dee
If only we all knew the answer to that one. :? Perhaps the question is does the person really know themselves. First, I am straight, not bi, not even curious. Having said that a lady and I have been exchanging PMs and who knows. This is not an invite so no PMs thanks guys. We all stretch our borders, and to be honest likes and dislikes change. Now with the right individuals I may change. I know I will not, but will I?
Travis
Oh and what is bi, how far do you have to go to be bi?
I did write a page back as to what makes one bi. Well what I think makes someone bi. :dunno:You said done something and would do it again, I think.
...but is that something, a touch, kiss, masturbate, oral, or penetration. Just at what point does a person become bi, and is curious, curious to go further?
