im totally new to all this and would like to know a few things. im a 29 year old male but recently i descovered my bisexual side, i had always had inclinations but never had the bottle to follow them threw or to cheat on my girlfriend. after the break up of our 6 year relasionship i finally decided to give in and try sex with a guy.
i really did enjoy it, ive accepted and i am even quite relaxed with being bisexual. i do not think im gay i am more interested in men that go to bed with women the same way i still do. gay guys refer to women as FISH and are off put by even talking about women in such a way probebly the same way a straight guy thinks of going with a man which i just can not relate to either. i really would like to meet couples with bisexual guys but most of all a woman who would allow me to be bisexual either with or without her presence. is there actually a scene for couples looking for bi guys? above all is there women out their that would understand some thing like this?. i know i couldnt go back to being 100% straight again i would miss having fun with a guy and i wouldnt want to be a bisexual married man getting off with men behind his wifes back like most bi men do.
theres a lot more focus on couples with bisexual women, but i know there are a lot of bisexual men in relationships with women who wouldnt dare be open about it and would risk every thing they have for a male encounter. am i wanting too much by being honest and wanting to be open? or does it sound like im trying to have my cake and eat it? maybe i just want some thing i cant have? or am i in the totally wrong place? and you people aint going to understand
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Sex God
Good question! 
As Jags says, there are loads of bi men advertising for other bi men. You would have no probs (if you're polite etc etc etc) copping off with another bi guy. However, if you're specifically looking for couples with a bi male you will have to look a little longer, but there are plenty out there and sooner or later you will find what you'e looking for. You're right in saying the focus of a lot of couples is straight male - bi female, and to be honest, that's fine, but it's time it changed! I think some of the "straight" guys in couples are really bi, but that's my personal opinion and it is their problem if they want to remain in the closet and miss out on the fun
. Until they do decide that bi is best, have a look at the photo ads you will be suprised how many couples with bi men there are. As well as that, a lot of swingers clubs are now cashing in on the bi-side of life and hold regular bi nights. Depending on your location you might be able to attend one of these?
So, that's about all the advice I can give you, I am glad you did discover your bi side, I will not rest until the rest of the male population does too :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
As Jags says, there are loads of bi men advertising for other bi men. You would have no probs (if you're polite etc etc etc) copping off with another bi guy. However, if you're specifically looking for couples with a bi male you will have to look a little longer, but there are plenty out there and sooner or later you will find what you'e looking for. You're right in saying the focus of a lot of couples is straight male - bi female, and to be honest, that's fine, but it's time it changed! I think some of the "straight" guys in couples are really bi, but that's my personal opinion and it is their problem if they want to remain in the closet and miss out on the fun
. Until they do decide that bi is best, have a look at the photo ads you will be suprised how many couples with bi men there are. As well as that, a lot of swingers clubs are now cashing in on the bi-side of life and hold regular bi nights. Depending on your location you might be able to attend one of these? So, that's about all the advice I can give you, I am glad you did discover your bi side, I will not rest until the rest of the male population does too :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
I've never had sex with another guy, but I am thinking perhaps I have a bi side too (love your pics bluexxx!), but there's something worrying me. I was talking with a bi female friend about it the other day, and she said that it can lead to mistrust - the gay folk suspect you of being straight, the straight folk think you're gay, and they both end up being wary. How much truth do you think there is in this? Is she just the victim of a couple of bad experiences, or is it quite common?
Hiya Spengle,
Good for you - I think your attitude shows that you are being honest with yourself and about your own needs - and that is always a good place to start.
My personal view is that very few people fit into nice neat "gay" "bi" or "straight" boxes. We are all varying shades of grey. We tend to put ourselves in these boxes and feel we have to stick with them.
For example, I think from your post you are saying that as a bi male, you would enjoy sex with another bloke, MMF sex, MFF sex and straight male female sex! and how cool is that!
Don't feel that straight couples would not consider meeting a bi male for straight sex - some will some won't. So long as everyone is honest BEFORE getting naked!
My advice for you would be - don't pidgeon hole yourself, just be honest with others and let them make decisions. For a bi bloke to have sex with a straight woman is not being dishonest. Married couples where one, or both partners is bi do it all the time!
lhk
Kat
Good for you - I think your attitude shows that you are being honest with yourself and about your own needs - and that is always a good place to start.
My personal view is that very few people fit into nice neat "gay" "bi" or "straight" boxes. We are all varying shades of grey. We tend to put ourselves in these boxes and feel we have to stick with them.
For example, I think from your post you are saying that as a bi male, you would enjoy sex with another bloke, MMF sex, MFF sex and straight male female sex! and how cool is that!
Don't feel that straight couples would not consider meeting a bi male for straight sex - some will some won't. So long as everyone is honest BEFORE getting naked!
My advice for you would be - don't pidgeon hole yourself, just be honest with others and let them make decisions. For a bi bloke to have sex with a straight woman is not being dishonest. Married couples where one, or both partners is bi do it all the time!
lhk
Kat
Sex God
Blissed - what your bi female friend has experienced happens sometimes, but not as often as it used to (I think!). Some straight people don't like bisexuals as they are tarred with the gay brush. These people are just homophobic and are not worth bothering about. Some gay people don't like bisexuals because they think they are "traitors" to the "gay cause", are really closet gay men/lesbians, etc etc. I don't think there is a word for gay people's negativity towards heterosexuals and bisexuals, but these attitudes are just as prejudicial as homophobia is. So, for bisexuals it is a little bit more complicated than having the best of both worlds, but at the end of the day, don't let the bad attitudes of a minority spoil your fun.
GO FOR IT!
(You can stop laughing now, Kat, I've climbed off my soap box
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GO FOR IT!
(You can stop laughing now, Kat, I've climbed off my soap box
) well bluexxx and kitkat thank you for your billiant advice, and blissed you are so right as i have experiance that gay guys suspect you of being straight or in the closet or that your CONFUSED or have issues dealing with your sexuality and that you should make a choice ohhh and tell your mum!, the straight folk think you're gay and they both end up being wary. they also feel like you are going to want to go between the both and that a full monogamous relationship could not be achieved. in my case i dont think i could do 100% with a woman again thats why i wouldnt lie and want to be honest and think a bisexual lady would suit me a lot better. ive gone from MF to MF/MM/MMF/MFF/MMM but i honestly dont want to be in a situation where im lying or cheeting just dont enjoy it and the guilt would be too much besides im crap at telling lies although i wouldnt concider telling a straight woman i just met that im bi. i can get gay/bi men and straight women im a good looking lad with a brilliant personality it works wonders, but its the MMF thing im really interested in. i think the hardest thing to deal with are other peoples perseptions of bisexuality and not my own. my motto is what ever your into do it and dont listen to what anyone else says as long as your being true to yourself and others and not harming anyone in the prosess whats it matter. i will continue my quest and just hope i meet like minded people but within that time ive still got more than most to be getting on with LOL thanks for your time and coments people and any other things you might have to say on the matter. cheers
Hi there, Would just like to say hello, we have just joined your excellent website.M : I have always been Bi and my wife is fully aware of this, Having been together for almost 9 years, I too did not want to be unfaithful and abstained from any such activity.
However in the last 6 months we discussed and decided to give swinging a go and see if we like, in addition my wife suggested that I could fulfill my male yearnings at the same time and she would be totally happy with it.
So we joined various sites and posted various ads, profiles etc. The response my wife recieved was massiveand not always polite, for myself I recieved 1, and we are chatting at the moment. As a couple we recived limited response from other couples. Having spoken to some it is my honest belief that there is ahuge discrimination aginst bi-m even though bi-f is actively encouraged.
But not being put off, we are still trying and hope to succeed in the near future.
What I have discovered to some annoyance is that it is difficult to get across the fact that even though I am Bi, I do not necessarily have to meet other bi-m, especially when we are trying to meet other couples.
Hope you don't mind me jumping in and letting off a bit of steam.
Please check Cafe as we will say hello properly there, thanks
C&C
Sex God
Hi - welcome to the forum!!!!!!
Just for the newcomers, my life story - well, not quite
My partner and I (me, the female half) are both bi and over the years have done just about every combination of MFM, MFF, etc etc there probably is. We swing together and apart. He likes the fetish scene, while I'm not keen; I like swingers clubs, but as he's a cross dresser, he doesn't like the straight clubs much (he doesn't think towels or boxer shorts are sexy!) and only goes to bi nights where he can dress. Therefore, we usually do different clubs at different times. When we're together, although we're both bi we don't have to be bi EVERY TIME we swing. He's quite happy not to touch guys, I'm not bothered if the girls involved are straight - we can control ourselves, and if it's a good situation, sexual orientation becomes irrelevant. Yes, a lot of people on the swinging scene are not keen on bi men - that's clear from action at most clubs (aka the lack of bi male action :cry: ). We both participate in the right situation, but we also both like to watch - each other with other people (male or female), or just watching others have fun. It all depends on the time and our mood.
The point is, it takes all sorts. I know all about prejudice, but I don't let it get to me. There are some things on the swinging scene that are not fair and there are some dickheads around who think that all swingers are easy, but there are many nice, open-minded people too. Swinging is about respect pure and simple. Anyone who can't see that should not be here
That's my steam let off :wink:
Just for the newcomers, my life story - well, not quite
My partner and I (me, the female half) are both bi and over the years have done just about every combination of MFM, MFF, etc etc there probably is. We swing together and apart. He likes the fetish scene, while I'm not keen; I like swingers clubs, but as he's a cross dresser, he doesn't like the straight clubs much (he doesn't think towels or boxer shorts are sexy!) and only goes to bi nights where he can dress. Therefore, we usually do different clubs at different times. When we're together, although we're both bi we don't have to be bi EVERY TIME we swing. He's quite happy not to touch guys, I'm not bothered if the girls involved are straight - we can control ourselves, and if it's a good situation, sexual orientation becomes irrelevant. Yes, a lot of people on the swinging scene are not keen on bi men - that's clear from action at most clubs (aka the lack of bi male action :cry: ). We both participate in the right situation, but we also both like to watch - each other with other people (male or female), or just watching others have fun. It all depends on the time and our mood.
The point is, it takes all sorts. I know all about prejudice, but I don't let it get to me. There are some things on the swinging scene that are not fair and there are some dickheads around who think that all swingers are easy, but there are many nice, open-minded people too. Swinging is about respect pure and simple. Anyone who can't see that should not be here
That's my steam let off :wink:
Sex God
You'll probably meet the bi-girl of your dreams when you least expect it. I met my partner in a totally non-sexual situation at a martial arts club, when we were fledgling martial artists. We're both black belts now btw - in more arts than one :twisted:
I think it's true that the more you look the more desperate you become and that puts people off - just be cool and she'll come along and kick your ass one of these days. OMG how cheesy does that sound??????
I think it's true that the more you look the more desperate you become and that puts people off - just be cool and she'll come along and kick your ass one of these days. OMG how cheesy does that sound??????
yeah i know exactly what your saying there, im not desperat honestly i have quite a relaxed approach to it all. im quite happy in myself and i think that is what attracts people. i wouldnt say im like a dog with two dicks i have a lot of self control as well as respect for others. i just know what i want (thank god!) and hope i achieve it one day.
Hiya and welcome to sexyscotscouple, is it my imagination or do we have an awful lot of Scots joining recently? 8)
Spengle,
Blue is much better at talking about this than I am, my partner and I are straight - But in my case I think it is only to annoy Blue! (especially as I do not rate a mention in her autobiography! 
) I can only really talk about my views.
If you go into the photo ads, do a search on Bi Male, and restrict the category to "couples seeking men" you get 84 hits. Granted some of them may say "No Bi males please", but it is a start.
You also get "Birmingham couple looking for male...."
and "looking for male with big cock"
Kat
Spengle,
Blue is much better at talking about this than I am, my partner and I are straight - But in my case I think it is only to annoy Blue!
(especially as I do not rate a mention in her autobiography! ) I can only really talk about my views.If you go into the photo ads, do a search on Bi Male, and restrict the category to "couples seeking men" you get 84 hits. Granted some of them may say "No Bi males please", but it is a start.
You also get "Birmingham couple looking for male...."
and "looking for male with big cock"
Kat
Thanks for your insights everyone - you've been a great help. Kat, you're so right - we are all who and what we are, and if people have a problem with who we are, we're not going to have much fun with them anyway. The bottom line, as ever, is be yourself, and go for it (nods to blue!)
Also, thanks blue for what you say about respect - I'm new to swinging, but that totally confirms what it seems to me to be about.
Sexyscotscouple - C, sorry to hear of your frustration at getting across to people how open and flexible you are. I've worried about that - I tell people when I reply to ads that I'm up for lots of different things, but respect their limits, and I worry when I don't get replies that they think I'll try to make them do stuff they don't want to. Maybe I'm just being paranoid (who, me?!) Like you say though, it's a case of keeping trying, and patience will be rewarded By the way, I'm in Edinburgh - I think you might be right about Scots joining up Kat!
Also, thanks blue for what you say about respect - I'm new to swinging, but that totally confirms what it seems to me to be about.
Sexyscotscouple - C, sorry to hear of your frustration at getting across to people how open and flexible you are. I've worried about that - I tell people when I reply to ads that I'm up for lots of different things, but respect their limits, and I worry when I don't get replies that they think I'll try to make them do stuff they don't want to. Maybe I'm just being paranoid (who, me?!) Like you say though, it's a case of keeping trying, and patience will be rewarded
By the way, I'm in Edinburgh - I think you might be right about Scots joining up Kat! 