We were fortunate enough to have an invite to meet another couple with a view to swinging on the first meet if all went well. We usually don't play first meet, we're not anti it and don't rule it out, but it is easier for all parties to accept its just social the first time. The opportunity to give more thought, remains then, open to all on making the decision whether to hit the sheets next time or not without embarrassment or that 'Oh christ how do we tell them its a no' situation.
Anyway moving back on to topic. The couple wanted us to meet at a hotel for a meal and a drink halfway between them and us and if all went well book a room and going halves on it, sounds OK you think? well it did to us but when we googled the hotel and found out the prices of the rooms and the menu prices Oh bloody hell" The room was just short of £200 for the night and the set meal was well over £25 each. Add to this a couple of rounds of drinks and maybe a coffee we are/were looking at an over £200 night out.
Far too much for us i hasten to add and i conveyed that to this couple suggesting an alternative but nice hotel where the cost was going to be about half. Well the couple said they really did like the looks of this place and thought it would be an ideal place to meet up as they do like to spoil themselves when they go out. Well a long story gone short we decided it wasn't for us. Not because of the people but because of the cost of a 'possible' swing.
Anyone else ever get situations like this and although in some circumstances we would pay £200 for something swing orientated such as we have done on going to a munch etc But just on a social meet with a chance of extra...?
We have never met people for drinks and a meal first. With kids, work and life in general, we don't get that much free time and find it hard enough to fit in meets never mind pre-meet meets! To be honest, we don't feel the need to get to know people that well before we play and can make up our minds as to whether we want to play or not within the hour.
We have never met at a hotel. We usually either play at a club or at ours or theirs. We do have a social drink and a chat first and always make an agreement that if we decide that we don't want to play we will let them know within the first hour. That saves on the awkward 'we're happy if you're happy' type discussion. Basically, if we're all still there after an hour then it's ok for anyone to make a move without fear of being rejected or causing offence.
We do do the whole social thing and can spend a fortune on hotels, new outfits and of course the shoes!!! We just wouldn't have the money to spend on expensive meals and nights out prior to every meet.
I think that the couple you arranged the meet sound very selfish. They might like to splash out and treat themselves but not everyone has the spare cash to do that. The fact that you even gave them a cheaper alternative which they disregarded would just confirm my initial impression of them.
I also hate it when people send messages which tells me their occupation. I don't need to know what they do for a living. We meet people to have a bit of fun (and a shag), I'm not interested in their bank balance.
Hi,
Could not agree more with your sentiments. You don't need to be told that they have a BMW and you know you are going to turn up in your Corsa or whatever. You get in touch, you yalk over the phone, meet and if everyone is comfortable move on to the next stage.
We would have steered well clear of people like that. Will they be forcing on you how much they earn next? Even if you do click there will be no pleasure in an encounter if you have it in your mind that we REALLY can't afford this or equally that we can't justify this expense for one night that may not turn out as all it was hoped to be.
The flashing of an unnecessary amount of money might be a cover-up for insecurity or inadequacy of some sort. Leave 'em alone!!!!! There are better people around.
Smooth2
How much money someone has does not interest me, what job they do even less. If you have ever seen me you know I don’t throw money about to impress. As for hotels, I find travel lodge or Premier Inn fine.
Now I do spend more on hotels, but that would be when I am spending the night with someone who is more that a meet.
Travis
