Brainiac vanilla abuse

2 Feb 2007

For purely research purposes you understand? confused

I went on a vanilla date last night
She was a very nice lady who I had not met before ( ok a blind date). rolleyes

Anyway having not done this for some time with a “vanilla” I was a bit out of practice. As I got ready I thought it would make a good “research thread”
So! Im on the date and I think” wow! Bit sexy hump

“
Now if it was someone off here I would have told them how sexually attracted I was to them .but! ( and here’s the problem )
how do you say it to a “vanilla” without offending them? ( remembering im out of practice! :roll: )
the night went well and we got on famously together ! I took her home and she asked me in for a cup of coffee?
I said yes :69: :hump: :spit: :rascal: . next question /
Did she mean a cup of coffee or a shag? :?
Again if it was someone off here I would have come on to her ! I didn’t :? :roll:
Has anyone else done this ?
How did you feel?
I don’t think I will be doing the “vanilla “ thing again for some time. I felt boxed in and not myself
“Remember I do this so you don’t have to” wink

2 Feb 2007

Did you get her phone number?
Do you want to see her again??
If so ring /text her and tell her you enjoyed your night out, and suggest another meeting and see what happens.
lol

2 Feb 2007

Quote by Sarah
Did you get her phone number?
Do you want to see her again??
If so ring /text her and tell her you enjoyed your night out, and suggest another meeting and see what happens.

did all that hun wink

but dont want to go " vanilla"
it dont feel right rolleyes

:wink:
just wondered if anyone had felt the same when they tryed it thats all cool

2 Feb 2007

I'd treat the vanilla date and a social meet with a swinger the same. If they looked nice I'd tell them etc but I wouldn't assume because they were a swinger it would be ok to come onto them.

2 Feb 2007

Quote by Kiss
I'd treat the vanilla date and a social meet with a swinger the same. If they looked nice I'd tell them etc but I wouldn't assume because they were a swinger it would be ok to come onto them.

ok hun i can see where your comein from
however i think the flirting side with swingers is alot more intence when it starts ?
probably becous we have heared it all before?
and lets face it we tend to snog on a first date rather than " peck" if you see what i meen?
in my expiriance anyway dunno

2 Feb 2007

maybe shes a swinger, and felt as boxed in as you ;)
lol

:lol:

2 Feb 2007

Quote by kazswallows
maybe shes a swinger, and felt as boxed in as you ;)
:lol:

now theres a thought

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: wink

2 Feb 2007

My thoughts exactly. Invite said wench out again, tell her that you wanted her to know that you found her really attractive-but that it wouldn't be fair to string her along as you are involved in an alternative lifestyle. You never know where the conversation might lead.
NB; do not attempt this if she was talking hearts & flowers on the first date!

2 Feb 2007

Quote by Kiss
I'd treat the vanilla date and a social meet with a swinger the same. If they looked nice I'd tell them etc but I wouldn't assume because they were a swinger it would be ok to come onto them.

:thumbup: I agree with kiss!
The very same social skills required in the 'vanilla' world outside will always translate as politeness in swinging circles! biggrin

keep at it sercher!
I often date 'vanilla' girls & one of the first things I make sure they understand is that I am not or intend to be exclusive to them!
So what if I get turned down!
The ones who I do get to see are more than impressed with the honesty!

2 Feb 2007

Quote by redpantherman
I'd treat the vanilla date and a social meet with a swinger the same. If they looked nice I'd tell them etc but I wouldn't assume because they were a swinger it would be ok to come onto them.

:thumbup: I agree with kiss!
The very same social skills required in the 'vanilla' world outside will always translate as politeness in swinging circles! biggrin

keep at it sercher!
I often date 'vanilla' girls & one of the first things I make sure they understand is that I am not or intend to be exclusive to them!
So what if I get turned down!
The ones who I do get to see are more than impressed with the honesty!
Minor Hijack- hi hun, are you aware you're being auctioned? :giggle:

2 Feb 2007

Quote by winchwench
Minor Hijack- hi hun, are you aware you're being auctioned? :giggle:

:shock: Huh? Me? Why? Where?
redface

sorry for replying to said hi-jack!

2 Feb 2007

Quote by Scandal
I often date 'vanilla' girls & one of the first things I make sure they understand is that I am not or intend to be exclusive to them!

So if you have sex with them RPM and they agree with what you've said doesn't that mean they are as open to recreational sex as much as you and hence not a vanilla? confused

:?:
hes got a point :?

2 Feb 2007

Blinkers off gents!
Just because I go out on a date with the 'vanila' girls in no circumstances do I expect to have sex with them!
Taking the fact that the term 'vanilla' as used by sercher was to describe someone not on the swinging scene.
Sercher felt he could not 'come on to' the woman the same way he would if that woman was from here S.H

Quote by sercher01
I went on a vanilla date last night

Quote by sercher01
Now if it was someone off here I would have told them how sexually attracted I was to them

Quote by sercher01
I don’t think I will be doing the “vanilla “ thing again for some time.

To reiterate sercher's vanilla date may have been open to recreational sex but he didn't presume that :thumbup:

2 Feb 2007

Quote by sercher01
I often date 'vanilla' girls & one of the first things I make sure they understand is that I am not or intend to be exclusive to them!

So if you have sex with them RPM and they agree with what you've said doesn't that mean they are as open to recreational sex as much as you and hence not a vanilla? confused

:?:
hes got a point :?
'recreational' sex is very differnt to swinging IMHO
m xx

2 Feb 2007

During periods in the 1980s and 1990s I went in for both dating and swinging, through small-ads mainly in Time Out and Loot - during this time I lived in the London area.
I would say there was not as much difference between people dating and people swinging as people here might think. Plenty of people dating (who presumably now use internet dating sites) were after no-strings-attached sex.
I must admit I have never liked the use of the term "vanillas" in here, as it seems to treat people who are not much different from folk here as an alien race.
You might say that the difference between people dating and folk in here is that daters are just after 1 to 1 sex and swingers after multiple sex-scenarios, but many people in here are only after 1 to 1 sex too - just look through the LMU section.
I don't do dating any more, but I think the current dating scene includes many people who are purely after nsa sex - just

2 Feb 2007

Quote by sercher01
I'd treat the vanilla date and a social meet with a swinger the same. If they looked nice I'd tell them etc but I wouldn't assume because they were a swinger it would be ok to come onto them.

ok hun i can see where your comein from
however i think the flirting side with swingers is alot more intence when it starts ?
probably because we have heared it all before?
and lets face it we tend to snog on a first date rather than " peck" if you see what i meen?
in my expiriance anyway dunno

Is that all you do on a first date - snog :shock: :giggle:
I wouldn't know coz I've never had the pleasure sad

2 Feb 2007

Quote by Scandal
Blinkers off gents!
Just because I go out on a date with the 'vanila' girls in no circumstances do I expect to have sex with them!

I'm not wearing any blinkers.
I wouldn't expect sex with anyone on a date vanilla or swinger.
Isn't the point about vanilla people that they expect exclusivity?
Isn't the vanilla world about forming relationships, hence distinguishable from swinging?
If I went on a vanilla date where the other person just wanted a one off sexual experience then I can't see the difference between that and what I do with some meets off here.
:shock: Too quote myself...

Quote by redpantherman
the term 'vanilla' as used by sercher was to describe someone not on the swinging scene.

2 Feb 2007

gentlemen please lol

from a womans perspective - on a swinging meet I like to get to know the person/couple first then if we all get on & all agree take things further & have fun innocent

His & I often go into town & admire both the men & the women but if we are in vanilla company I have to keep my :gagged:
oh & I can't flirt like I do with meets from here :rascal:

2 Feb 2007

Quote by Scandal
gentlemen please

Go on then ..... if you're desperate :lol

:smackbottom: :lol:

2 Feb 2007

Quote by Scandal
:shock: Too quote myself... the term 'vanilla' as used by sercher was to describe someone not on the swinging scene.

Your point being? dunno

Can't Sercher speak for himself? I may point out that yourthe one addressing me Sir...

2 Feb 2007

RMP and Scandal
My room please :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Bend over

:smackbottom: :smackbottom: :smackbottom:

:rotflmao:

2 Feb 2007

2 Feb 2007

Coming from a gay background where peeps are catagorised by sexuality, i find it funni to think straight peeps here also catagorise by vanilla and swinging
So the lady is vanilla, it doesnt mean she is celibate, she might be horny too but you cant just jump in and say fancy a shag, you have to go through the time honoured vanilla fashion of "courting' till you get a green light
im wetting myself thinking about all this.....its new rules for a new situation

2 Feb 2007

Quote by Scandal
I may point out that your the one addressing me Sir...

WTF?

I ain't addressing anyone FFS!
I asked you three questions, none of which you've answered!
Question one

Quote by Scandal
So if you have sex with them RPM and they agree with what you've said doesn't that mean they are as open to recreational sex as much as you and hence not a vanilla?

To be open to recreational sex does not quantify said person as vanilla... according the the context sercher has used in this thread
Question two

Quote by Scandal
Isn't the vanilla world about forming relationships, hence distinguishable from swinging?

Your interpretation of the 'vanilla world' is somewhat different to mine... If I was to form a relationship with a swinger (& I have) does that mean I then qualify for 'vanilla' membership? dunno

Question three

Quote by Scandal
Isn't the point about vanilla people that they expect exclusivity?

....er nope! please note the term 'vanilla' as used by sercher in the context of this post :thumbup:

2 Feb 2007

Quote by Sarah
RMP and Scandal
My room please :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Bend over
:smackbottom: :smackbottom: :smackbottom:

I'm on my way... :twisted:

2 Feb 2007

Ooooh a testosterone filled thread.
I'm feeling a little queer. :crazy:

2 Feb 2007

Who is the queer and does she mind WinchWench?? dunno

2 Feb 2007

Quote by sercher01
So! Im on the date and I think” wow! Bit sexy “
Now if it was someone off here I would have told them how sexually attracted I was to them .but! ( and here’s the problem )

i dont think it matters if its a woman off a swingers site or not if you think a woman you have gone out with looks attractive you should tell them smile

Persoanlly i cant really answer this cause no men are vanilla they all after a shag lmao bolt

2 Feb 2007

Quote by Shireen
Who is the queer and does she mind WinchWench??

When she gets off my face I'll ask her wink

2 Feb 2007

Quote by winchwench
Who is the queer and does she mind WinchWench??

When she gets off my face I'll ask her wink

Getting up the crack of Dawn again are we wifelet? rolleyes