what does 'can accommodate' mean to you?
i very often find i need clarification on this as to some it means just come here and play, but to others it means that we can stop over.
being in north wales and using chat-rooms mostly in the north west, that we have to travel sometimes well over an hour to get to meet up with friends, and quite a few have got we can accommodate on profiles, and if we both would like a drink that means getting a hotel or relying on our hosts to be generous and offering us a bed, but sometimes their view on ' can accommodate means that they are just offering us somewhere to play not to stop over as well. now dont get us wrong we are not looking for free hotels, but it also means that 1 can not have a drink or we are relying on our hosts to put us up or paying out for not only fuel but also hotel as well and this can be rather expensive. does this make us sound like skinflints, i hope not.
now at the moment we have to doubly make sure what is happening and if accommodation means an over night stop or just play and go. quite often this does not apply because of work the next morning. perhaps a clearer view on how others perceive this problem and if anyone has been caught out in this way thinking that accommodate means a bed for the night for them but it only meant a venue for the evening.
must admit....can accommadate to me means....they have a place to play.
I have seen ads that say can accomadate... over-nite welcome.
I can fully understand your situation sara....but do have to say unless I had met before and therefore trusted the people would not suggest an over-nite stay.
I dont think you should worry about them thinking of it as an escape. It's quite sensible to have somewhere else to stay if you dont know them very well. You're just being practical and not expecting them to put you up.
To me it means that folk are prepared to offer their home as a venue for a swinging meet.
We have had swinging friends stay overnight and have stayed overnight at others but these are people we consider friends rather than solely playmates.
I would say that if someone says they can accommodate then theyre just saying "come and play at ours". We have also found that when someone can only accommodate it means that they cant go out cos there are kids in bed. Personally I dont have a problem with this as long as the kids are not gonna walk in half way through!! Some people may not like the idea of playing when there are kids at home so I'd say that if someone offers to accommodate then its best to check as we have found that they dont tend to tell you prior to the meet.
I wouldnt dream of staying over at someones house or having people staying at ours if we didnt know them. What if you turn up there and dont wanna play with them? You would have no escape, especially if you've both had a drink.
The drinking thing isnt an issue for us either cos we dont get pissed to play. All the jiggling makes me wanna hurl if I'm drunk!!
Overnight stays are reserved for those who I know well.
It would seem that for most of you the phrase 'can accommadate' means only that you will host a play meet and once the play is over it's a case of "bugger off cos you're not sleeping here"
Well, we're here to tell you something completely different
When we say we can accommadate we mean exactly that - if we invite you then it's for a whole night - with a room of your own and a bed and more than likely breakfast the following morning (and what a breakfast it is!)
That is accomadating - anything else is just hosting - providing a venue - supplying a bit of discrete privacy - etc etc - and lets be honest you could do that with a transit van, a mattress and a good car park
- so when we read accomadate we mean accomadate
Accomadation is so much more
i presume it means a place to play but not to stay overnight
LOL Laff n chilli, can you let us know if u do bonk and breakfast for the next time we are passing.
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