Can swinging be addictive ?

22 Oct 2007

We was talking about swinging yesterday and came to the conclusion that we must be a little addicted to it ( if thats possible ) and wonder what others thought?
The reason we think we could be is because, the longer it is since we have had a meet the more we talk about it, this is both in general chat and whilst "doing the tango"
However we are not sure if its the social side or the sexual side that we love so much.
We both love meeting new people just as much as we do the sex so maybe a little stumped on this part.. it could even be the "buzz" you get before the meet that we miss after a while with no meet.
We do know now that if we was to separate, one of us became ill or whatever, we would find it real difficult to just leave the scene.
So what do you think?
could it be addictive? are you addicted? could you give it up at the drop of a hat?
Tony wink

22 Oct 2007

Well like you Tony.. Seems even when we take a break from it all it starts creeping back into conversation till one or the other makes a date lol.. We have managed to go 9 months before between meets though and we survived lol!! Just... Its like anything really.. while its fun and no harm being done why not eh?? Agree about the buzz before a meet though.. works for me hands down.. Keeps me on edge all week and I love that lol.
Mike x

23 Oct 2007

yes it can become addictive, it did for us after about 8 months on the scene. and like a "junkie" if he can't get his fix goes "cold turkey" hence reason we believe is why some people write in here about "timewasters" its just there frustration at planning an event,only to lead to nothing.

23 Oct 2007

Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
We do know now that if we was to separate, one of us became ill or whatever, we would find it real difficult to just leave the scene.

S'funny - Angelica yesterday just came out with 'If I ever get ill, I wouldn't want you to stop swinging.'
Knocked me a bit but she said it is important to say these things.
I can't imagine maintaining the lifestyle without her. So I'm not sure. The sharing is really part of it for me.
.

23 Oct 2007

Yes I think for some it can get addictive but for me too much of a good thing can sometimes spoil things.. if you know what I mean?
I find I have a far better time if meets are spaced apart, the adrenalin and horny build up is fantastic but if you were having meets regularly for me that would take the shine off things.

23 Oct 2007

Quote by jaymar
Yes I think for some it can get addictive but for me too much of a good thing can sometimes spoil things.. if you know what I mean?
I find I have a far better time if meets are spaced apart, the adrenalin and horny build up is fantastic but if you were having meets regularly for me that would take the shine off things.

I think this is closest to where we stand really.

23 Oct 2007

Quote by Freckledbird
Yes I think for some it can get addictive but for me too much of a good thing can sometimes spoil things.. if you know what I mean?
I find I have a far better time if meets are spaced apart, the adrenalin and horny build up is fantastic but if you were having meets regularly for me that would take the shine off things.

I think this is closest to where we stand really.
:thumbup:
Agreed!

23 Oct 2007

Quote by jaymar
Yes I think for some it can get addictive but for me too much of a good thing can sometimes spoil things.. if you know what I mean?
I find I have a far better time if meets are spaced apart, the adrenalin and horny build up is fantastic but if you were having meets regularly for me that would take the shine off things.

Yep, that's me too.
Not so long ago, I was averaging 3 meets a week (different people) and clubs on weekends.
It kind of took over my life, temporarily. There was nothing but swinging and while every experience was a good one, yes it really did take the shine of things, so I stopped.
I reckon some of it is down to why you do this in the first place, really. For a couple, for example, this is just another interest or hobby, maybe??
As a single person, this is my entire sex life. I don't pull vanillas (by choice) and I have no other means of getting a shag. lol

So my 3 meets a week might seem excessive to some, but if I had a regular partner, I wouldn't have done all that .... if ya get me???
Sorry - I'm knackered ... not expressing myself very well. confused

23 Oct 2007

Quote by jaymar
Yes I think for some it can get addictive but for me too much of a good thing can sometimes spoil things.. if you know what I mean?
I find I have a far better time if meets are spaced apart, the adrenalin and horny build up is fantastic but if you were having meets regularly for me that would take the shine off things.

Yes, we agree there.
back last year before we took a break from the whole scene we was meeting people twice a week plus going to a club on saturdays and it did take the sparkle out of it a little.
Now we normally arrange one meet about every 1 to 2 weeks and find thats just about nice for us.
Just have to find your balance of what suits you best.
Real glad to see that its not us that finds swinging can become a little addictive though biggrin

Tony

23 Oct 2007

tend to agree with what a few have said hear yer it can get addictive but to much and it spoils its .

23 Oct 2007

Quote by Marya_Northeast
I find I have a far better time if meets are spaced apart, the adrenalin and horny build up is fantastic but if you were having meets regularly for me that would take the shine off things.

Yep, that's me too.
Not so long ago, I was averaging 3 meets a week (different people) and clubs on weekends.
It kind of took over my life, temporarily. There was nothing but swinging and while every experience was a good one, yes it really did take the shine of things, so I stopped.
I reckon some of it is down to why you do this in the first place, really. For a couple, for example, this is just another interest or hobby, maybe??
As a single person, this is my entire sex life. I don't pull vanillas (by choice) and I have no other means of getting a shag. lol

So my 3 meets a week might seem excessive to some, but if I had a regular partner, I wouldn't have done all that .... if ya get me???
Yeah, I getcha.
That's been me in the past, very much so.
It's only ever a temporary thing, when someone swings a lot, I think. Well, it was for me anyway.
I still go through phases, all depending on other things going on in my life.
Yes, I think it becomes addictive.

23 Oct 2007

Quote by Marya_Northeast
Not so long ago, I was averaging 3 meets a week (different people) and clubs on weekends.
It kind of took over my life, temporarily. There was nothing but swinging..........

This sounds so like me about 4 years ago! I just never stopped....
Then I calmed down a bit, went to house parties instead!! lol

23 Oct 2007

im not sure wether id call it being addicted or not but i find the problem is while your making new friends in the scene your other friends seem to take a back seat, i have many friends off this site who i have never played with and probabily never will but still happy to meet for a drink etc with, i find friends off here easier to be around cause you dont feel you have to watch what your saying and can exchange your funny stories with, so to a point i feel that most of the people i have met are what i class as real friends and not just swinging friends or people i talk to when i want a shag confused

so with that in mind it becomes a big part of your life and tho i'm sure i could drop the sex site of it if thats what i decided to do im not sure i could turn my back on swinging altogether and by swinging i class the social side of it, the sex side of it and the friends i have made thro it as swinging.

23 Oct 2007

good point naughtynymphos
We find even though we have some great vanilla friends we find our swinging friends we have met from this site, even if just at socials or for drinks are easier to get on with, you can be yourself, not have to watch what you say and normally more understanding.
We would love a few local friends that are like our vanilla friends only feel at ease on what we talk about.. swinging and so on... and know the next day, every single person you know won't know lol

Tony

23 Oct 2007

Quote by naughtynymphos1
im not sure wether id call it being addicted or not but i find the problem is while your making new friends in the scene your other friends seem to take a back seat, i have many friends off this site who i have never played with and probabily never will but still happy to meet for a drink etc with, i find friends off here easier to be around cause you dont feel you have to watch what your saying and can exchange your funny stories with, so to a point i feel that most of the people i have met are what i class as real friends and not just swinging friends or people i talk to when i want a shag so with that in mind it becomes a big part of your life and tho i'm sure i could drop the sex site of it if thats what i decided to do im not sure i could turn my back on swinging altogether and by swinging i class the social side of it, the sex side of it and the friends i have made thro it as swinging.

:shock: That's exactly what I was gonna say!!