This is an old thread I done a while ago but I wanted to bring it back up for two reasons as there are some threads at the moment that are question this.
Plus for those that know what I have been through lately looking back this I feel is the time I started soul searching with a vengeance I needed to find myself sooner rather than later.
I tried to bring back the old thread but it wouldnt let me so I am doing it as a new one
A while back I mentioned my Mum had cancer and now a few months on she is suffering from side affects from treatments.
She never moans she just gets on with her life.
The other day she called to tell me her feet were better (as she has been suffering from bad blistering on the soles) but her eye brows she had noticed had gone. She made me laugh, I said “didn’t you notice them slowly going, Or have they just disappeared over night”? We were laughing.
A few days later she called to say she had taken the bull by the horns and just gone to get her wig? O bless her!
I asked what it looked like (as my mum has never been satisfied with her hair as far back as I can remember). She said “it’s great I love it, I have the hairstyle I have always wanted”!
I just said “Mum the things you have to do to get the hairstyle you have always wanted” and we just laughed so much on the phone.
I wanted to share this with you as I think we can laugh in the face of adversity.
But there are times when I feel I shouldn't be laughing?
I am sometimes on here having a laugh and feel guilty!
But it is the way I have always been, laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone, my parents have always instilled this in us.
I try to live my life with this motto!
But sometimes I get confused.
What do you think?
Is it right to laugh in the face of adversity?
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Quote by Theladyisaminx
This is an old thread I done a while ago but I wanted to bring it back up for two reasons as there are some threads at the moment that are question this.
Plus for those that know what I have been through lately looking back this I feel is the time I started soul searching with a vengeance I needed to find myself sooner rather than later.
I tried to bring back the old thread but it wouldnt let me so I am doing it as a new one
A while back I mentioned my Mum had cancer and now a few months on she is suffering from side affects from treatments.
She never moans she just gets on with her life.
The other day she called to tell me her feet were better (as she has been suffering from bad blistering on the soles) but her eye brows she had noticed had gone. She made me laugh, I said “didn’t you notice them slowly going, Or have they just disappeared over night”? We were laughing.
A few days later she called to say she had taken the bull by the horns and just gone to get her wig? O bless her!
I asked what it looked like (as my mum has never been satisfied with her hair as far back as I can remember). She said “it’s great I love it, I have the hairstyle I have always wanted”!
I just said “Mum the things you have to do to get the hairstyle you have always wanted” and we just laughed so much on the phone.
I wanted to share this with you as I think we can laugh in the face of adversity.
But there are times when I feel I shouldn't be laughing?
I am sometimes on here having a laugh and feel guilty!
But it is the way I have always been, laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone, my parents have always instilled this in us.
I try to live my life with this motto!
But sometimes I get confused.
What do you think?
Is it right to laugh in the face of adversity?
I thought laughter was supposed to be the best medicine. I'm with you Minx xxxx.
Sex God
My god Minxy, if we didn't laugh at times like that (and this) we would be lining up to top ourselves.
My Mum is a breast cancer survivor and has had a mastectomy. She lost and ear-ring on holiday and she and I were in stitches at one point when I suggested she have her remaining nipple pierced so she could use the ear-ring she has left.
She's nearly 80.
My Mum is a breast cancer survivor and has had a mastectomy. She lost and ear-ring on holiday and she and I were in stitches at one point when I suggested she have her remaining nipple pierced so she could use the ear-ring she has left.
She's nearly 80.
Sex God
Quote by foxylady2209
My god Minxy, if we didn't laugh at times like that (and this) we would be lining up to top ourselves.
My Mum is a breast cancer survivor and has had a mastectomy. She lost and ear-ring on holiday and she and I were in stitches at one point when I suggested she have her remaining nipple pierced so she could use the ear-ring she has left.
She's nearly 80.
oh i like
had me sniggeringglad she pulled through hun
Sex God
i really do think you can find humour at difficult times and it is what gets you through
i hope ya mum is well n truelly on the mend minxie :rose:
i hope ya mum is well n truelly on the mend minxie :rose:
Quote by foxylady2209
My god Minxy, if we didn't laugh at times like that (and this) we would be lining up to top ourselves.
My Mum is a breast cancer survivor and has had a mastectomy. She lost and ear-ring on holiday and she and I were in stitches at one point when I suggested she have her remaining nipple pierced so she could use the ear-ring she has left.
She's nearly 80.
Thats funny.the thing about emotions they are very closely link. It is the same I see it as crying when we are so happy and also crying when we are so sad.
How does that work?
I see laughing the same way,
We can laugh when we are happy and laugh when we are sad too.
Whether by accident or design... at right, or indeed the wrong moment.. I find humour in the direst of circumstances.
That is not to say that 'my' feeling of humour negates the seriousness or depth of any other 'appropriate' feeling that may couple it.
I cannot temper my 'feelings' and reaction to them to suit others,they are mine and mine alone. However, I know that my expression of those feelings may cause offence or confound some. Never the intention, and in 'real-life' there is plenty of opportunity to explain or appologise should that be needed.
or not, as the case may be.
lp
That is not to say that 'my' feeling of humour negates the seriousness or depth of any other 'appropriate' feeling that may couple it.
I cannot temper my 'feelings' and reaction to them to suit others,they are mine and mine alone. However, I know that my expression of those feelings may cause offence or confound some. Never the intention, and in 'real-life' there is plenty of opportunity to explain or appologise should that be needed.
or not, as the case may be.
lp
Minx, I think most people on the forum know that the person I hold in highest regard is my stepdaughter.
At age 8 she was diagnosed with an aggressive form of leukaemia, at the time she had almost waist length hair that she lost due to chemo. I think we ladies in the family found it so difficult as her hair was stunning, she ... well she used to pull it out by the handful and drop it on us laughing!
She smiled through the pain, she played tricks on us, she laughed.
She went into remission, we booked a lifetime trip to the US centred around her and 6 weeks prior to us going out, she relapsed. On hearing the news, her attitude was "I've done it once, I'll do it again" and she smiled and laughed her way through what must have been devastating news to a 11 year old! She was gutted not to be able to go to the US, but her outlook was ... so we can book when I beat this!
The cancer was even more aggresive, she needed chemo, had radio and was told a Bone Marrow Transplant was necessary. She knew in her heart that it was a chance in a million, but she carried on smiling.
Our luck was in, she got her donor, and was told 10% chance of surviving the procedure, and if that worked 50/50 chance until the first year was passed. Through pain, heartbreak (chemo/radio robbed her fertility), seizures, blisters, she smiled and laughed.
A potential setback just prior to her year anniversary had us all running scared, she smiled, she waited.
She passed her first anniversary in Dec, she is well, has a normal life again (bar a weak immune system).
She is 13, spent almost 5 years battling this god awful disease, she has laughed, smiled, giggled her way through determined not to let it beat her. She's seen fellow sufferers deteriorate and die
She faces adversity with a smile, shames me for moaning when my head aches, she lights up a room with her grin and sunny outlook. She was ridiculed on return to school (on the bus) and she stood up and removed her hat and rubbed her bald head! Pride is a powerful weapon ;)
Can we laugh through adversity .... sometimes it is the best way.
At age 8 she was diagnosed with an aggressive form of leukaemia, at the time she had almost waist length hair that she lost due to chemo. I think we ladies in the family found it so difficult as her hair was stunning, she ... well she used to pull it out by the handful and drop it on us laughing!
She smiled through the pain, she played tricks on us, she laughed.
She went into remission, we booked a lifetime trip to the US centred around her and 6 weeks prior to us going out, she relapsed. On hearing the news, her attitude was "I've done it once, I'll do it again" and she smiled and laughed her way through what must have been devastating news to a 11 year old! She was gutted not to be able to go to the US, but her outlook was ... so we can book when I beat this!
The cancer was even more aggresive, she needed chemo, had radio and was told a Bone Marrow Transplant was necessary. She knew in her heart that it was a chance in a million, but she carried on smiling.
Our luck was in, she got her donor, and was told 10% chance of surviving the procedure, and if that worked 50/50 chance until the first year was passed. Through pain, heartbreak (chemo/radio robbed her fertility), seizures, blisters, she smiled and laughed.
A potential setback just prior to her year anniversary had us all running scared, she smiled, she waited.
She passed her first anniversary in Dec, she is well, has a normal life again (bar a weak immune system).
She is 13, spent almost 5 years battling this god awful disease, she has laughed, smiled, giggled her way through determined not to let it beat her. She's seen fellow sufferers deteriorate and die
She faces adversity with a smile, shames me for moaning when my head aches, she lights up a room with her grin and sunny outlook. She was ridiculed on return to school (on the bus) and she stood up and removed her hat and rubbed her bald head! Pride is a powerful weapon ;)
Can we laugh through adversity .... sometimes it is the best way.
Sex God
Quote by Calista
Minx, I think most people on the forum know that the person I hold in highest regard is my stepdaughter.
At age 8 she was diagnosed with an aggressive form of leukaemia, at the time she had almost waist length hair that she lost due to chemo. I think we ladies in the family found it so difficult as her hair was stunning, she ... well she used to pull it out by the handful and drop it on us laughing!
She smiled through the pain, she played tricks on us, she laughed.
She went into remission, we booked a lifetime trip to the US centred around her and 6 weeks prior to us going out, she relapsed. On hearing the news, her attitude was "I've done it once, I'll do it again" and she smiled and laughed her way through what must have been devastating news to a 11 year old! She was gutted not to be able to go to the US, but her outlook was ... so we can book when I beat this!
The cancer was even more aggresive, she needed chemo, had radio and was told a Bone Marrow Transplant was necessary. She knew in her heart that it was a chance in a million, but she carried on smiling.
Our luck was in, she got her donor, and was told 10% chance of surviving the procedure, and if that worked 50/50 chance until the first year was passed. Through pain, heartbreak (chemo/radio robbed her fertility), seizures, blisters, she smiled and laughed.
A potential setback just prior to her year anniversary had us all running scared, she smiled, she waited.
She passed her first anniversary in Dec, she is well, has a normal life again (bar a weak immune system).
She is 13, spent almost 5 years battling this god awful disease, she has laughed, smiled, giggled her way through determined not to let it beat her. She's seen fellow sufferers deteriorate and die
She faces adversity with a smile, shames me for moaning when my head aches, she lights up a room with her grin and sunny outlook. She was ridiculed on return to school (on the bus) and she stood up and removed her hat and rubbed her bald head! Pride is a powerful weapon ;)
Can we laugh through adversity .... sometimes it is the best way.
wow wat a girl i wish i had half her strength
i hope she has a long, healthy and happy future hunny :rose:
