You don't know me, haven't touched me, talked to me, or even smelt my aftershave (well that's what i'm blaming it on). So how can I be seduced by you?
And I don't mean the promise of the best Shag i'm ever going to have (again).
No, what i mean is, is it possible to fall head over heels with someone before you've even met?
Can words on a screen ever capture the reality of personal connections? What if my profile is a lie or not exactly correct and i'm nothing like described? Or you have not got a photo to look at. How would you feel? Would you have to go on looks first, or just go with you're feelings?
Let's see.....
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I'll clean your bike for you, and polish all the metal up..............that seductive enough? 
On a serious note though, I met my other half online, and the first thing that attracted me to him was his sense of humour. We spoke for a few weeks before we met, to go off to a bike rally together, and had not seen each other until that day. Two months later he moved in, and the rest, as they say, is history.
It would probably never have happened if he hadn't made me laugh. It was his personality and sense of humour that did it for me :D
On a serious note though, I met my other half online, and the first thing that attracted me to him was his sense of humour. We spoke for a few weeks before we met, to go off to a bike rally together, and had not seen each other until that day. Two months later he moved in, and the rest, as they say, is history.
It would probably never have happened if he hadn't made me laugh. It was his personality and sense of humour that did it for me :D
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Seduced to the point of being interested in meeting...yes. There are a number of people on here who just by their posts I would happily meet and have some confidence that the evening wouldn't be a waste in terms of social interaction as there are posters here who just by their posting style I'm sure would bore the arse off me. It's horses for courses.
Seduced by profiles and postings to the point where I would be interested in a sexual encounter, no.
Seduced by profiles and postings to the point where I would be interested in a sexual encounter, no.
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You don't know me, haven't touched me, talked to me, or even smelt my aftershave (well that's what i'm blaming it on). So how can I be seduced by you?
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I know you've not really had many answers yet - but on the flip-side...
Would someone really want to go about seducing another person they didn't know, had never seen and not sure if they were wearing Brut33 or not
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Quote by Argt05
You don't know me, haven't touched me, talked to me, or even smelt my aftershave (well that's what i'm blaming it on). So how can I be seduced by you?
And I don't mean the promise of the best Shag i'm ever going to have (again).
No, what i mean is, is it possible to fall head over heels with someone before you've even met?
No, I don't think so. It's definately easy to be captivated by someones posting style though or maybe by their photos but as for falling in love I think you need a little more than just the internet. I'll use Missy as an example. I know that from her posts she is a very funny lady and feel that I am getting a fairly true representation of her as a person from them as they have been consistant in style and humour, but if I was in the market for falling in love with women, I would need to meet her and build a relationship first.
Can words on a screen ever capture the reality of personal connections? Probably not IMO What if my profile is a lie or not exactly correct and i'm nothing like described? Or you have not got a photo to look at. How would you feel? Would you have to go on looks first, or just go with you're feelings?
Let's see.....
Interesting post this one.
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Fire xxx
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You don't know me, haven't touched me, talked to me, or even smelt my aftershave (well that's what i'm blaming it on). So how can I be seduced by you?
And I don't mean the promise of the best Shag i'm ever going to have (again).
No, what i mean is, is it possible to fall head over heels with someone before you've even met?
No, I don't think so. It's definately easy to be captivated by someones posting style though or maybe by their photos but as for falling in love I think you need a little more than just the internet. I'll use Missy as an example. I know that from her posts she is a very funny lady and feel that I am getting a fairly true representation of her as a person from them as they have been consistant in style and humour, but if I was in the market for falling in love with women, I would need to meet her and build a relationship first.
Can words on a screen ever capture the reality of personal connections? Probably not IMO What if my profile is a lie or not exactly correct and i'm nothing like described? Or you have not got a photo to look at. How would you feel? Would you have to go on looks first, or just go with you're feelings?
Let's see.....
Interesting post this one.
Love
Fire xxx
i agree, however i wasnt here to give my opinion, just wondered what others think.
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Ah but thats the thing about the forum hun. In order for others to give their opinions you must give you're own. It's only fair.
"They ave vays of making you give your opinion"
"They ave vays of making you give your opinion"
Personally, I find the net hard. I am hugely turned on by humour and responses - neither of which are easily seen online. Web cams can capture so much but are just not the same as running your finger down someones body and watching their back automatically arch or dressing up in pvc and copying the ministry of silly walks down the main road for a laugh.
I'm also aware of how different I am online - far, far more confident and nowhere near as girlie and silly as I am in reality. I sometimes think I sound over-opinionated and loud on here - neither of which are words that i'd use to describe me in normal life. I've also been told twice now how much older I seem on here which is a bit scarey!
Jury's out this end - I think it's possible to fall in love over the net - just not sure that the person you'd fall in love with would be the same in the flesh. As for fancying someone online enough to want to meet - perfectly possible.
People only reveal what they want you to see of them on the internet - I have posted stuff on this forum i'd never post elsewhere - because I felt able to do so. People on another forum I post on will have a completely different view of me as I only post there what I feel able to share with them. Selectiveness when forming a relationship would scare me a little - can't imagine anything worse than falling in love on the net, meeting up and having to find a way of telling the bloke that I really cannot handle him wanking into socks and leaving them under the bed, pissing all over the loo seat or worse...
Thank goodness I'm already married LMAO
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I'm also aware of how different I am online - far, far more confident and nowhere near as girlie and silly as I am in reality. I sometimes think I sound over-opinionated and loud on here - neither of which are words that i'd use to describe me in normal life. I've also been told twice now how much older I seem on here which is a bit scarey!
Jury's out this end - I think it's possible to fall in love over the net - just not sure that the person you'd fall in love with would be the same in the flesh. As for fancying someone online enough to want to meet - perfectly possible.
People only reveal what they want you to see of them on the internet - I have posted stuff on this forum i'd never post elsewhere - because I felt able to do so. People on another forum I post on will have a completely different view of me as I only post there what I feel able to share with them. Selectiveness when forming a relationship would scare me a little - can't imagine anything worse than falling in love on the net, meeting up and having to find a way of telling the bloke that I really cannot handle him wanking into socks and leaving them under the bed, pissing all over the loo seat or worse...
Thank goodness I'm already married LMAO
xxxx
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Personally, I find the net hard. I am hugely turned on by humour and responses - neither of which are easily seen online. Web cams can capture so much but are just not the same as running your finger down someones body and watching their back automatically arch or dressing up in pvc and copying the ministry of silly walks down the main road for a laugh.
I'm also aware of how different I am online - far, far more confident and nowhere near as girlie and silly as I am in reality. I sometimes think I sound over-opinionated and loud on here - neither of which are words that i'd use to describe me in normal life. I've also been told twice now how much older I seem on here which is a bit scarey!
Jury's out this end - I think it's possible to fall in love over the net - just not sure that the person you'd fall in love with would be the same in the flesh. As for fancying someone online enough to want to meet - perfectly possible.
People only reveal what they want you to see of them on the internet - I have posted stuff on this forum i'd never post elsewhere - because I felt able to do so. People on another forum I post on will have a completely different view of me as I only post there what I feel able to share with them. Selectiveness when forming a relationship would scare me a little - can't imagine anything worse than falling in love on the net, meeting up and having to find a way of telling the bloke that I really cannot handle him wanking into socks and leaving them under the bed, pissing all over the loo seat or worse...
Thank goodness I'm already married LMAO
xxxx
There is the difference!! Some people are naturally confident and there are those that are not, earlier thread will testify with regards to those that just lurk on Forums etc. Not wanting to hijack that but It kinda goes along the same lines. People are all different, and what one person sees can be different to the next and so on, but my original post was more aimed at those people who Could and Can be easily seduced by someone else Online, without meeting first.
Do people get sucked in by the flirty / Loving nature of the text they read?
I am a flirt, no question about it, I'm a flirt here, there EVERYWHERE. But that is ME!!
No disguises, no mask, just me. I would like to think that the people whom I've become friends with here in the short time I have been here, would already have a good Idea of what I'm about and who I am. BUT, they ain't met me yet and there opinions may change, I doubt it, and that is not a confidence thing just because WYSIWYG with me.
However, there are people out there who are not (does wot it says on the tin) kinda folk and can manipulate others into thinking otherwise.
It's these people I would worry for! because they could fall for the person they think they know but then however long down the line find out they are really not that person at all.
God I rattle on..... Anyway. just my thoughts. AS REQUIRED BY FIRE XXX
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Personally, I find the net hard. I am hugely turned on by humour and responses - neither of which are easily seen online. Web cams can capture so much but are just not the same as running your finger down someones body and watching their back automatically arch or dressing up in pvc and copying the ministry of silly walks down the main road for a laugh.
I'm also aware of how different I am online - far, far more confident and nowhere near as girlie and silly as I am in reality. I sometimes think I sound over-opinionated and loud on here - neither of which are words that i'd use to describe me in normal life. I've also been told twice now how much older I seem on here which is a bit scarey!
Jury's out this end - I think it's possible to fall in love over the net - just not sure that the person you'd fall in love with would be the same in the flesh. As for fancying someone online enough to want to meet - perfectly possible.
People only reveal what they want you to see of them on the internet - I have posted stuff on this forum i'd never post elsewhere - because I felt able to do so. People on another forum I post on will have a completely different view of me as I only post there what I feel able to share with them. Selectiveness when forming a relationship would scare me a little - can't imagine anything worse than falling in love on the net, meeting up and having to find a way of telling the bloke that I really cannot handle him wanking into socks and leaving them under the bed, pissing all over the loo seat or worse...
Thank goodness I'm already married LMAO
xxxx
There is the difference!! Some people are naturally confident and there are those that are not, earlier thread will testify with regards to those that just lurk on Forums etc. Not wanting to hijack that but It kinda goes along the same lines. People are all different, and what one person sees can be different to the next and so on, but my original post was more aimed at those people who Could and Can be easily seduced by someone else Online, without meeting first.
Do people get sucked in by the flirty / Loving nature of the text they read?
I am a flirt, no question about it, I'm a flirt here, there EVERYWHERE. But that is ME!!
No disguises, no mask, just me. I would like to think that the people whom I've become friends with here in the short time I have been here, would already have a good Idea of what I'm about and who I am. BUT, they ain't met me yet and there opinions may change, I doubt it, and that is not a confidence thing just because WYSIWYG with me.
However, there are people out there who are not (does wot it says on the tin) kinda folk and can manipulate others into thinking otherwise.
It's these people I would worry for! because they could fall for the person they think they know but then however long down the line find out they are really not that person at all.
God I rattle on..... Anyway. just my thoughts. AS REQUIRED BY FIRE XXX
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I'm a WYSIWYG type of person too though I'm a little quieter in RL than I am on here. I could flirt for Wales online and in person and do sometimes go a bit OTT and I'll be the first to admit that. I know what online flirting can be like so I don't read too much into what people say to me. They may say they fancy the socks off me but when we meet, it doesn't mean they're going to rip my knickers off and shag me daft. ( though Lord knows I live in hope 
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So how can I be seduced by you?
And I don't mean the promise of the best Shag i'm ever going to have (again).
No promises - just get yer arse on your bike to Newcastle and we'll show you - 'the proof of the pudding' (no 'fruit' jokes please) as they say...
How did we miss this one?
A bi male biker with a great arse and sense of humour... I must be losing my touch :rascal: Quote by Bloke2005
So how can I be seduced by you?
And I don't mean the promise of the best Shag i'm ever going to have (again).
No promises - just get yer arse on your bike to Newcastle and we'll show you - 'the proof of the pudding' (no 'fruit' jokes please) as they say...
How did we miss this one?
A bi male biker with a great arse and sense of humour... I must be losing my touch :rascal:If that's the case then I'm just gonna get ready for the sky to fall and for Armaggeddon to start.....:shock:
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I'm a WYSIWYG type of person too though I'm a little quieter in RL than I am on here. I could flirt for Wales online and in person and do sometimes go a bit OTT and I'll be the first to admit that. I know what online flirting can be like so I don't read too much into what people say to me. They may say they fancy the socks off me but when we meet, it doesn't mean they're going to rip my knickers off and shag me daft. ( though Lord knows I live in hope
Did I answer the original question there?
Ok what does that mean :?
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I'm a WYSIWYG type of person too though I'm a little quieter in RL than I am on here. I could flirt for Wales online and in person and do sometimes go a bit OTT and I'll be the first to admit that. I know what online flirting can be like so I don't read too much into what people say to me. They may say they fancy the socks off me but when we meet, it doesn't mean they're going to rip my knickers off and shag me daft. ( though Lord knows I live in hope
Did I answer the original question there?
Ok what does that mean :?
What you see is what you get
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Seduced to the point of being interested in meeting...yes. There are a number of people on here who just by their posts I would happily meet and have some confidence that the evening wouldn't be a waste in terms of social interaction as there are posters here who just by their posting style I'm sure would bore the arse off me. It's horses for courses.
Seduced by profiles and postings to the point where I would be interested in a sexual encounter, no.
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I've been dying to meet quite a few people from here for a whole variety of reasons and yes there are one or two that I would like to meet with the possibilty of a sexual encounter. That said, as much as you can get seduced by words, photos etc etc the real proof of the pudding is when you both meet. No amount of flirting, sexy texts, fab pics could fire up that spark of sexual chemistry if it's not there to begin with. I'm sure some have thought that after meeting me too. It's not until you come face to face that you find out fo real if the sparks are there.
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I've been dying to meet quite a few people from here for a whole variety of reasons and yes there are one or two that I would like to meet with the possibilty of a sexual encounter. That said, as much as you can get seduced by words, photos etc etc the real proof of the pudding is when you both meet. No amount of flirting, sexy texts, fab pics could fire up that spark of sexual chemistry if it's not there to begin with. I'm sure some have thought that after meeting me too. It's not until you come face to face that you find out fo real if the sparks are there.
I've been to a fair few Munches and whilst I've never been disappointed in meeting anybody, there have been a few times where people I've wanted to meet haven't been quite how I expected. It's not their fault, but mine due to the perception of them I had in my mind.
Flirting and posting is all very well, but face to face is when you really know for certain....for me anyway.
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You don't know me, haven't touched me, talked to me, or even smelt my aftershave (well that's what i'm blaming it on). So how can I be seduced by you?
Aha...... seduction is really best described as a "horses for courses" type of scenario.
the things that seduce one person may not necessarily seduce another.
Getting it right requires skill and timing aswell as heaps of knowledge about technique and of your "victim".
i have heard it described as like a hypnotist putting a subject into a trance.
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No, what i mean is, is it possible to fall head over heels with someone before you've even met?
yes...... some people can be seduced from afar.. but i guess that one has to appreciate that the spell might be broken at any time.
words, gestures or scenarios that people give off that you are captivated by ( and therefore "falling in love with") might feasibly be done through the meduim of the internet
and i guess people with certain emotional traights can fall for someone they havent met.
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Can words on a screen ever capture the reality of personal connections?
A true seducer would use one to amplify the other
and in any event seduction is about the "reality" that the seducer creates to weaken his/her quarrie.
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What if my profile is a lie or not exactly correct and i'm nothing like described? Or you have not got a photo to look at. How would you feel? Would you have to go on looks first, or just go with you're feelings?
Let's see.....
which ever way you look at it, if someone has fallen for you..... and you have just been playin a game /lyin/whatever then the result aint gonna be pretty.........if they realise what you've been upto......
good luck
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