cant people understand we only play as a couple grrrrr

14 Oct 2009

Sometimes you have to be remedially repetetive in what you want. Keep telling whoever is courting your company your rules, wants, obviously being aware of theirs as well. As soon as it becomes apparent that isn't happening, that's it game over jog on. Next!..........

14 Oct 2009

Quote by Kaznkev

So new to all,but wondering if this is common
get a nice message from a couple,finally get some cam time with the m this morning,well horny as i anticipate the fun we may all have playing togeather,but all his chat was did i want him to come round and fuck me now! tried to guide it into some fun flirting but again i only live xx miles away,can be there in xx minutes
not only spoilt my mood but annoyed he thinks i screw around on my darling hubby,our profile couldnt be any clearer!
has this happened to you,any suggestions on how to spot wankers like this,i may be an old slapper but i am kevs old slapper! kaz

Hi, nice pics. We only live 104 miles away I could be there in 5 mins. I often travel up that way. I say I because my Mrs isn't playing at the moment. She knows what I'm doig tho.
I'm happy playing with couples, I love it. Do you want me to come around now? Is your hubby there? He is. Ohh, errr (disappears from chat room) rotflmao

14 Oct 2009

Quote by Kaznkev

So new to all,but wondering if this is common
get a nice message from a couple,finally get some cam time with the m this morning,well horny as i anticipate the fun we may all have playing togeather,but all his chat was did i want him to come round and fuck me now! tried to guide it into some fun flirting but again i only live xx miles away,can be there in xx minutes
not only spoilt my mood but annoyed he thinks i screw around on my darling hubby,our profile couldnt be any clearer!
has this happened to you,any suggestions on how to spot wankers like this,i may be an old slapper but i am kevs old slapper! kaz

Actually your profile isn't,you don't state in your profile that you only play as a couple...you were camming without your husband with this fella...what did you expect him to ask,if you were doing that with him...perhaps you gave out all the signs that you wanted to play...if you going to play as a couple that should really be everything as a couple,camming aswell,if you don't want other people to mis-understand!

14 Oct 2009

Quote by Kaznkev
totally disagree camera fun is not the same as shagging behind hubbies back which is what was on offer,and i think the profile is v clear as it uses the personal pronoun WE Again tho my problem was not being asked,hell if i got offended by requests i'd never cam it was the not taking no for an answer,i just think assumptions were being made about me,me and kev are not joined at the hip but at the begining of the chat isaid we only played out togeather.
Remember this chappie was supposedly 1/2 of a couple and contacted us for 4 way fun
slap my thigh and call me masie

so why didn't you husband join in on the cam fun then?...you have to remember couples do swing separately aswell...you have to always make it clear in your profile what your preferences are.

14 Oct 2009

Quote by Kaznkev
totally disagree camera fun is not the same as shagging behind hubbies back which is what was on offer,and i think the profile is v clear as it uses the personal pronoun WE
Again tho my problem was not being asked,hell if i got offended by requests i'd never cam it was the not taking no for an answer,i just think assumptions were being made about me,me and kev are not joined at the hip but at the begining of the chat isaid we only played out togeather.
Remember this chappie was supposedly 1/2 of a couple and contacted us for 4 way fun
slap my thigh and call me masie

Remember Kaz that most men remember the word 'yes' and forget the word 'no'. Its called selective hearing lol. I think you have a good point here, when you put WE on your profile, you mean both of you. And if Kev's not there, then you have every right to be on cam on your own. Your rules are your rules and nobody else has a right to challenge them.
Me and silver always make decisions as a couple and if its decided that I play with someone without Silver, then it is again decided by us both. I would never, ever arrange to meet someone without his knowledge and agreement. Thats what being a couple is all about - I think the word partners sums it up.
xx

14 Oct 2009

from what you have said you made it clear you were cool with being on cam, but that you only meet as a couple.
however if this guy couldnt read what you were saying and understand no means no hes defo not the type of guy anyone wants to be meeting.
also while i think it may help to state in your profile you only ever play as a couple, i dont think this guy would have bothered to read that or understand it anyway.
and then you run the risk of being acused as having an agressive profile if you try and make it to clear lol
i suspect this guy from a couple isnt really part of a swinging couple.
deep breath and move on.
xx fem xx

14 Oct 2009

I've swung as part of a couple, then single for a while and then when I started dating a guy that I met through SH back to a couple again.
I rarely find that anyone assumes that as part of a couple I will swing without my partner. Having said that I can understand where you are coming from Kaz having had to be downright rude to a guy that i have chatted to on here for some months who was insistent one evening that i couldnt possibly pass him over despite me saying that a) i dont play without my partner and b) we dont entertain single guys any longer.
At one point during the conversation (which btw he held in whisper altho I didnt) he even said that what my other half doesnt know wont kill him. And I have to admit at that point i completely lost my temper, copied and pasted that whisper in the room and watched every couple in the room descend on him like a tonne of bricks.
All this - because I was on cam. The mere insinuation that because I was on cam, flirting and having a bit of fun on cam with friends (and strangers wink

) alike seemed to make him think i must be fair game but for him to then actively encourage me to cheat on my partner has served only one purpose and that is i dont even give him the time of day when i see him now.
So yeah, despite what some people may think, my personal opinion is, if its a couples profile they play as a couple despite what their profile may or may not say. And as you said Kaz why should you constantly have to repeat yaself to them if you dont play solo - do some of these single guys seem to think they are gods gift and their charm is really going to make you risk your relationship, the sad answer is they dont see any further than their own needs at the time, they have no consideration for the fact that it can have far reaching implications, they get a shag and walk away.
Only advice i can offer - if they are persistant little wotsits, tell them once, tell them again (after all they are male and it probably didnt go in the first time) after that plain and simple ignore them.

14 Oct 2009

open minded ,threesomes,group and same room couples,looking for discreet fun,chat first then see what things ok,no pain but anything else,so long as we are all having fun
quote kazandkev profile
this is not very clear
love threesomes that insinuates that you play with single guys or gals. Above u say you do not.
most things ok - what does that mean to a horny single guy.
you need to spell it out if u have strong feelings and rules. i have and got called harsh for doing so but thats the way it is and doesnt allow for misconceptions. The first point on my profile says hubby is always involved. Try altering your profile.

14 Oct 2009

I received a mail last week from a guy seeking a meet. When i read his profile it was actually a cpl's profile saying 'WE DO NOT MEET ALONE SO DO NOT ASK'. So i politely copied and paste this asking why he was mailing me if they didn't meet alone?? Needless to say i didn't get a reply. lol

14 Oct 2009

you get used to it .... my profile says that we dont play alone but you still get asked constantly in the chatrooms and often by the same guys that have asked many times before.
I go on cam alone and yeah because your other half aint there some people think your gonna drop all of your morals for a quicky with them because after all you are only 20 mins away!!!
Personally I dont think that it matters how clear you are in your profile because when some people check out your profile after seeing you on cam they are not reading it .... just looking at your pictures!!
Obviously there are some nice genuine people out there too though!!
As a girl in the chatrooms you get used to saying "please dont whisper" and I dont play alone"