car meets - not dogging... | Swinging Heaven

27 May 2007

Hiya,
I tried to find a thread about this but not sure there is one?
Im a single guy, have had brief email communication with female, who suggests meeting up somewhere in public of my choice and, if all is well, she will drive us to somewhere quiet where we can have fun.
My instincts rallied against this, but I'm curious if any single guys have experience of having done this. And do single women find this a safe option - i.e. for them to go it alone and drive a guy somewhere for fun?
I had no pic of the person, she said she didn't have a p.c. and was using a friends, so we communicated by text mostly; she felt unsafe going back to my flat to have fun there (or back to her flat).
Am I being too overcautious here? I think maybe in this case we hadn't really communicated much or exchanged pics so there's an element of uncertainty? I would not mind going off in a car with her if there had been more communication, exchange of pics, etc.
Cheers cool

27 May 2007

Have you spoken to this woman on the phone? Are you sure its a woman? Id be a little cautious on this one tbh. Meet for a drink maybe then once both have decided theres nothing dodgy - THEN go to one or the others place? Dont know what to suggest other than that but something doesn't seem right
*Her*

27 May 2007

Quote by couplefunuk
Have you spoken to this woman on the phone? Are you sure its a woman? Id be a little cautious on this one tbh. Meet for a drink maybe then once both have decided theres nothing dodgy - THEN go to one or the others place? Dont know what to suggest other than that but something doesn't seem right
*Her*

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27 May 2007

Gut instincts are usually right. Don't go unless you're sure she's on the level.

27 May 2007

Quote by jazytigr
Am I being too overcautious here? I think maybe in this case we hadn't really communicated much or exchanged pics so there's an element of uncertainty? I would not mind going off in a car with her if there had been more communication, exchange of pics, etc.
Cheers

What do you think the response to this would be if you were a single fem?
imo in terms of safety, there is no difference between being male or female, you're basically being asked to meet up, get in a stranger's car and be driven somewhere :scared: . If a single fem put this post up it'd be on 4 pages now with everyone saying 'dont do it!!'

27 May 2007

Well if you've been texting this person you obviously have their number, so why don't you just give it a call, If a male answers or they don't answer at all, that will give you your answer lol

27 May 2007

Thanks for all your replies, much appreciated smile

I felt I was right to be cautious; i've never yet come across a single fem in my 4 years of swinging who'll meet a stranger in a car with so little communication; that stuck me as unusual, hence my posting here to check out if I was being reasonable.
And I've had a lot of meets, all taken place at mine, hers, or a hotel.
I can't phone the person cos I can't hear on the phone - but she/he gave a very strong NO to us having fun at my place or hers, it had to be a car or nothing, and cited personal safety as a reason. The person did say we could meet somewhere first, but I got the impression it was just to pick me up.
Yep, I agree with imagining it was a guy asking a single fem to be driven somewhere for fun - I'm not the strongest of blokes, so do think of my safety.
The other question is: would any guys do this if a. the person on the phone had a women's voice and b. if they met the person and it was a woman - would you still get in a car and be happy to be driven to somewhere quiet?
I've said no thanks but good luck!
I'd just have been on edge the whole time...
cool