Chatroom........what is wrong with people or rather men?

25 Jan 2006

Quote by blonde
I openned a little room of my own this afternoon ......... called "Just a chatroom" .
People came in and we all chatted ......... a couple of people went on cam and carried on talking ... no one put on a show and no-one asked for them to do anything .
A few people even said ......... bluddy hell.......... is this a chatroom where we chat ? It'll never catch on
So .......... it would appear ......... the site will suit all of us........... WELL DONE TO THE 4 TOPS.
Rooms where you can go on cam and chat
Rooms where you can go on cam and perform
Rooms where you can just watch
Each to their own ............. ENJOY
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sam I did exactly the same last night and it was a really good laugh.
Those that did make a poor attempt to direct were asked to behave or leave. I only has cause to kick one person out in about 3 hours.
I do know that some of the requests are disgusting but if a person wants to cam then they are able to create a room themselves giving them a kick button. So there are ways round it.
I have to admit that I was pissed off when the cams first came out but now it is my choice when or if I use the chatroom and to be honest, I am kind of having fun :giggle:
Dawn

25 Jan 2006

Sorry its taken so long for me to have my little say on this matter....i have read thru all ur posts and have thought hard about ur opinions.
Altho i am an op of a swinging site i do feel that this is a life style site now and now caters for the people who didnt feel that they had a place they could go and belong too. This was a community of swingers, well this community has got bigger and will continue to grow as more people come in.
This is a free country for us to say and do wot we want, but within the chat rooms we the ops believe that, that does not entitle us to abuse and degrade others. We will not take under NO circumstances abuse to the members and these people if they continue to do so will be removed from YOUR chat room. We will only have a chat room as long as members go into it
As for being called Prostitutes, here i am wondering if u know the true definition.
PROSTITUTION - The giving or receiving of the body for sexual activity for hire but excludes sexual activity between spouses.
Performing for hire, or offering or agreeing to perform for hire where there is an exchange of value, any of the following acts: Sexual intercourse; sodomy, or; manual or other bodily contact stimulation of the genitals of any person with the intent to arouse or gratify the sexual desires of the offender or another.
The people on cam do so at their own leisure and are not paid in any way. In my view it is only the same as attending a club and being in a room with a window enabling people to watch.
Regulars in the room know that if the room is unopped then they to pm admin or an op with copied details from the room of the abuse. The rooms are getting better and people are becoming more aware that they have to respect other members.
This is becoming a great site and i feel that it offers something for every1.
Love n licks
chesty

25 Jan 2006

Quote by chesty_bird
The people on cam do so at their own leisure and are not paid in any way.
True . However, the problem is that many of the wank-n-type brigade have paid for the use of this site - and hence in my opinion, may think they have also paid for the services available. Including watching the cams. They want their money's worth. They're going to direct you, because they want more. They're going to name call and be generally disrespectful - because they have no respect for you!! you're just another bird with her tits out on cam. Thats how they see it, and to be honest, that's how it is.
This is becoming a great site and i feel that it offers something for every1.
As Blonde says, this is an adult discussion and everyone is entitled to their opinion.
But, it's still Swinging Heaven, and until they change the name to Sex Contacts United or sommat equally as crap, then it's my opinion that we shouldnt be offering something for everyone.
chesty

25 Jan 2006

Just so we can clear this up once and for all I never once called anyone a prostitute - is that clear good
What I meant to say was - and Im not sure it came over clearly enough was that if you want to cam its like prostituting yourself to the whole world, the newcomers who wank for anyone, have paid for the site, therefore in effect, your services. they expect to see action on cam, and will continue to direct you, abuse you and generally be unpleasant. they see you puttng on a show, and thats nothing less than a peep show
Now camming is absolutely nothing like swinging or dogging - for a start you have no idea who is at the other end of your cam broadcast, but you can bet your bottom dollar they aint there sat having a cup of tea
I will appologise if the context of "prostitue" was misread when Im wrong I admit Im wrong - but its the context its been read and understood thats wrong - but one thing is for sure - THIS THREAD has driven a massive wedge through this community - and thats NOT why we are here, this site used to be fun - where has that gone when we are sat here at each others throats
I had resevations this would happen - and it looks like my resevations have come right

26 Jan 2006

Quote by martellnotts
- but one thing is for sure - THIS THREAD has driven a massive wedge through this community - and thats NOT why we are here, this site used to be fun - where has that gone when we are sat here at each others throats

Martell, I just wanted to mention this part of ya post. I don't think it's as bad as all that, yes there are differing views of opinion-there always will be with such a massive diversity of people smile

No-one has been outrightly offensive to anyone else IMO, misinterpretation is to be expected when you are reading words someone has typed rather than looking at them as they speak.
There is a no massive wedge as I see it just a lot of people with different opinions able to discuss it in a adult manner smile

We need more like this-stimulating conversation that doesn't boil over into a slanging match ;)
Best wishes,
Minx x x

26 Jan 2006

I dont see a massive wedge.... dunno

Shireen

26 Jan 2006

Quote by Shireen_Mids
I dont see a massive wedge....
Shireen

...or did he mean a wedgie?
to quote martellnotts...
"where has that gone when we are sat here at each others throats"
hmmmm... i would love to be at/in someones throat right now!!!
I see no wedge martellnotts... jus a good ole fashioned debate & discusion
I dont see pervs wankers or prostitutes snarling at each other...
In fact icey sexy people!

26 Jan 2006

Quote by Shireen_Mids
I dont see a massive wedge....
Shireen

I think it's more a divisive line between ...... swingers site / sex site.... and for good measure, stick 'lifestyle site' somewhere in the middle. And the two camps on either side and those who still sit on the fence??????
that's what I feel anyway.
probably most divisive of all, as we've seen in this thread , is perhaps the fine line between those who are trying to keep SH a 'swingers site', and those who arnt. See what I mean? There's the wedge.
We didnt have cam rooms before....now we do..... there's a wedge.
SH was the best swingers site on the net - now it isnt - another wedge.
Cammers encouraging the wank-brigade everyone else is trying to get rid of? - definate wedge.
Just my thoughts. wink

26 Jan 2006

Quote by blonde
bitch bitch bitch... that is what we do now!
yes the chat rooms are crap its full of vulgar men getting kicks from watching the cams if its your thing fine use the chat rooms if its not dont use them ITS THAT SIMPLE!!!
so can we all please stop bitching and get on with having some fun, personally i dont use the chatrooms not since its changed anyway. my point is all we seem to do these days is bitch and moan and that is personally NOT what im here for.
its a crying shame we cant just get on and do what we are here for
HAIVING SOME FUN!!!

Babe ............ we are not bitching ............ we are discussing .......... we used to that in the good old days too.
Many people with different opinions, putting their points across.
We are not arguing or insulting each other .............. just discussing what we feel... thats part of the reason for the CAFE ....... so that people can talk about what they want to talk about ............. simple really if you dont want to read these posts ............. go to a happy fluffy thread and leave those of us who want to discuss this .......... to discuss it !
Thanx
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
i see your point blonde, and dont get me wrong i love a good debate and can have a good rant like everyone else (just ask my other half )
BUT when i first saw this thread the first thing i thought was
" here we go again another thread bitching about the site!"
the past few months thats all it as been and to be honest its gets a bit boring now!
we all no how we feel about the site, and so do the owners of this site and hopefully they will do something about the chatroom, cos lets face it we have (including myself) moaned about it that much, if i was them id do something just to shut us all up
and how you can say people are not bitching i just dont no when people are compareing going on cam with prostatution!!!!
what im saying is PLEASE can we have a good debate about something thats not been done to death already.
(and please dont say if thats how you feel then start a new thread about something new cos my body might be awake but the brain refuses to wake before twelve, dont do mornings )
it mioght just be me and i might be about to get a good but each to there own
and if you are gona me can you please instead i like that

26 Jan 2006

Personally what i'd like to see are rooms sectioned off from the private rooms
that are "General" Chatrooms
not named
beach
jacuzzi
etc etc... as they are mixed up with the rest.. have an old " " style...
Public
Private
Passworded (might be good addition)
in the general chat rooms.. that there is NO nudity.. no tits.. cock.. etc etc.. face shots only... that would therefore mean that there wouldnt be people being pestered half as much.. this would need to be enforced!!!!!!!!
a room... called
EXHIBTIONISTS
where people can get naked.. if they want.. and i know that this what some people do want
I personally would love to know what system the chatroom is on.... mysql .. text file.. irc..
so that people can connect in their own way (like before... oh.. was that a yawn i hear over there)
PS ... also .. can we have usernames listed in alphanumeric order..... PLEASE! what order are they in.. join date... what?

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