Quote by jaymar
Kentswingers777 wrote:
Jaymar we are both correct in our own ways, obviously both inteligent good looking people.
But I know it is one of your pet hates and from what I have read of your posts, you sound like a hard working, good parent that has gone over and above for your kids but.....In a lot of cases it IS the parents have 12 year olds round here out at gone course you cannot blame parents for everything but a lot of mrs777 kids friends parents, allow them to smoke in the house at 12 years of age, have NO set bedtime. One of the kids would not go to school and until the parents were starting to get fined £50 a go when she did not turn up, they did nothing to get her to go to school at 12 years of age. :shock: But of course a £50 fine seems to have done the trick, and the parents now make her go. The parent who allows all sorts of shananigans in her house like allowing them to smoke, no set bed times, really can do what they like, she is a primary school teacher! :shock: I would have thought in that job she would have had more boundaries.
There are never easy answers and of course kids will always want to do " adult " things, thats part of growing up but maybe they should have another hard look at the way they do things because with the highest underage pregnancies in Western Europe, things cannot be working surely?
I do agree that there are some parents out there that could do with a degree of 'assitance' in bringing up their kids.
I just get riled when people quickly assume that it's the parents to blame for a lot of what kids are doing in the world.
I'm no fool and I acknowledge there are some out there that need a good foot up the derriere
I think Jaymar you take it as a slur on your parenting, which you should NOT!!
There are a lot of parents and I mean a lot, who want to be thier kids best friend instead of a parent. It should be parent first with those responsibilities, and a friend second. But in a lot of households it is friend first parent second. That way round does not work, as the kids then have no respect for the parent. :shock:
I am also a parent and a Grandparent and step Father to two other kids as well. I try my best and do have quite strict values. The kids are not perfect but who is? But they are polite and respectful, and mrs777's kids do things like make the beds and hoover and help with other things. Most of their friends don't lift a finger and their parents always comment on the things that mrs 777's kids do in their houses if they sleep over. They go to school, they would not be allowed to smoke or drink in the house, and the girl who is 15 has been taught by us both on the sex issues as we are very open with her about this. She is very level headed and hopefully will not be a statistic. Most parents do try their best but even then sometimes it is not enough. :smitten:
