Apparently, children attending nursery are more likely to be prone to Anti-Social Behaviour.. so a new report says. WTF! :shock: Where do people get these ideas from?? And does research always do good?
"Children sent to a full-time nursery are prone to antisocial tendencies compared to those staying at home or attending part-time nurseries, according to a government study published Thursday.
The research carried out by the University of Oxford and the Institute for Fiscal Studies revealed that children who spend more than seven hours in a daycare are more likely to be aggressive, restless, bully other toddlers, obstruct playmates and rowdy when toys or refreshments are distributed."
I was a single parent raising my daughter before I met Jay and I had no option but for my daughter to go to all day care. I never had a problem with her behaviour and I think the spending time with others made her a far more confident child than being with me alone.
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People conducting surveys & writing reports know that their report will simply languish at the bottom of someones "pending" tray if they don't come up with something controversial. They also know that their continued employment depends upon their "being noticed" -- so in any given period you can usually find reports & surveys that say almost anything you wish provide it brings a bit of kudos to the author!
It therefore follows that the majority of these reports are best ignored unless you want to end up totally paranoid.
Don't worry Jaymar -- I'm sure your kids are fine well balanced individuals, as are most of them, whether they are in nursery, daycare or whatever -- Its the adults who write reports I worry about !!
It therefore follows that the majority of these reports are best ignored unless you want to end up totally paranoid.
Don't worry Jaymar -- I'm sure your kids are fine well balanced individuals, as are most of them, whether they are in nursery, daycare or whatever -- Its the adults who write reports I worry about !!
When I was working in Nursery Care in the 90's it was always believed that children who had 2 or more days experience of nursery care usually were more socially adjusted and coped much better with entry into school, as they had already developed some social skills and weren't upset at being separated from the parent. Where as children with no nursery experience were found to have more problems adjusting to school and were less able socially. Where children from home did better was in the area of language and communication supposedly. I still think its wrong to take one situation totally out of context and say that explains a child's behaviour. It is a combination surely of many things that result in the developement of a child and its behaviour and social skills.
DD
DD
Sex God
Quote by devondelight
When I was working in Nursery Care in the 90's it was always believed that children who had 2 or more days experience of nursery care usually were more socially adjusted and coped much better with entry into school, as they had already developed some social skills and weren't upset at being separated from the parent. Where as children with no nursery experience were found to have more problems adjusting to school and were less able socially. Where children from home did better was in the area of language and communication supposedly. I still think its wrong to take one situation totally out of context and say that explains a child's behaviour. It is a combination surely of many things that result in the developement of a child and its behaviour and social skills.
DD
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I agree, absolutely. You can spot the children who haven't been to nursery straight off.
Sex God
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I agree, absolutely. You can spot the children who haven't been to nursery straight off.
Dunno if its anything to do with any of the above or if its related to very early upbringing or just genes. Our little girl nearly 3 is part of a family where the next youngest person is 13, she never had any real experience of children before nursery 6 months ago. When she went to visit we took her in she ran off sat with the other kids and didnt even look to see where we were. We left her half an hour and when we went to take her out she screamed the bloody place down. Same on her first day she just ran off never said bye and stayed the whole 5 hrs without even asking where we were. I have the feeling she would have done the same whenever the time arose.
Sex God
My children were exactly the same, Tweeky. However, there are many children who will hang on to their parents screaming to be taken home. Nine times out of ten, they are absolutely fine once the parents go.
You can spot the ones who haven't been to nursery because, more often than not, they lack social skills. This is often worse when they are an only child with few relatives - they aren't used to sharing anything, for a start! That's not to say that all only children are like that though.
You can spot the ones who haven't been to nursery because, more often than not, they lack social skills. This is often worse when they are an only child with few relatives - they aren't used to sharing anything, for a start! That's not to say that all only children are like that though.
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When I was working in Nursery Care in the 90's it was always believed that children who had 2 or more days experience of nursery care usually were more socially adjusted and coped much better with entry into school, as they had already developed some social skills and weren't upset at being separated from the parent. Where as children with no nursery experience were found to have more problems adjusting to school and were less able socially. Where children from home did better was in the area of language and communication supposedly. I still think its wrong to take one situation totally out of context and say that explains a child's behaviour. It is a combination surely of many things that result in the developement of a child and its behaviour and social skills.
DD
Exactly, my friends daughter spent her first 5 years attached to my friends leg.. when it came to parting with the leg to go to school, you can imagine the commotion!
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People conducting surveys & writing reports know that their report will simply languish at the bottom of someones "pending" tray if they don't come up with something controversial. They also know that their continued employment depends upon their "being noticed" -- so in any given period you can usually find reports & surveys that say almost anything you wish provide it brings a bit of kudos to the author!
It therefore follows that the majority of these reports are best ignored unless you want to end up totally paranoid.
Don't worry Jaymar -- I'm sure your kids are fine well balanced individuals, as are most of them, whether they are in nursery, daycare or whatever -- Its the adults who write reports I worry about !!
Thank you
Quote by Freckledbird
You can spot the ones who haven't been to nursery because, more often than not, they lack social skills. This is often worse when they are an only child with few relatives - they aren't used to sharing anything, for a start!
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But I'm more than happy to share Morbius at the Munches/Socials etc.
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That's not to say that all only children are like that though.
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:roll: :roll: ..... you said children ;) ;):giggle:
Cx
there is nothing new with this investigation into the effects of day care on children,
after the second world war the government commisioned bowlby to carry out a study that showed children suffered maternal deprivation if they wee sent to day care.
this is thought to be a manafactured study that was commissioned after the war so the women who had gone to work in the factories and fields while the men were at war would now panic and worry about the childrens welfare and leave the jobs, and in so leave the way open for the men returning from war to go back to the factories.
there was a horrific docu made on this, but the day care then was far from todays places.
i think it is unfair to say children will or wont benefit from attending day care. it is dependabe on mamny factors, the child, the parents, the external influences, the quality of day care and home life.
i feel the sign of a good parent is one that weighs up all possibilities and makes the best choice with what options they have.
love is the most important thing.
xx fem xx
after the second world war the government commisioned bowlby to carry out a study that showed children suffered maternal deprivation if they wee sent to day care.
this is thought to be a manafactured study that was commissioned after the war so the women who had gone to work in the factories and fields while the men were at war would now panic and worry about the childrens welfare and leave the jobs, and in so leave the way open for the men returning from war to go back to the factories.
there was a horrific docu made on this, but the day care then was far from todays places.
i think it is unfair to say children will or wont benefit from attending day care. it is dependabe on mamny factors, the child, the parents, the external influences, the quality of day care and home life.
i feel the sign of a good parent is one that weighs up all possibilities and makes the best choice with what options they have.
love is the most important thing.
xx fem xx
Quote by fem_4_taboo
there is nothing new with this investigation into the effects of day care on children,
after the second world war the government commisioned bowlby to carry out a study that showed children suffered maternal deprivation if they wee sent to day care.
this is thought to be a manafactured study that was commissioned after the war so the women who had gone to work in the factories and fields while the men were at war would now panic and worry about the childrens welfare and leave the jobs, and in so leave the way open for the men returning from war to go back to the factories.
there was a horrific docu made on this, but the day care then was far from todays places.
i think it is unfair to say children will or wont benefit from attending day care. it is dependabe on mamny factors, the child, the parents, the external influences, the quality of day care and home life.
i feel the sign of a good parent is one that weighs up all possibilities and makes the best choice with what options they have.
love is the most important thing.
xx fem xx
I thought Bowlby studied long termseparation of children from one or both parents? and in the long term those children developed personality disorders/depression etc etc - I wasn't aware he studied day separation?
Sex God
Quote by fem_4_taboo
the question to ask is why and who is carrying out any study and who its funded by.
xx fem xx
Yes - many studies set out to prove a point so their questions/research may be biased toward finding what they want!
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it was a few years ago i read about bowlby, but his study was used to argue the fact when the government wanted the women back home and the men back in the factories.
the question to ask is why and who is carrying out any study and who its funded by.
xx fem xx
As above, research carried out by Oxford University, but here's the link if you are interested in reading more.
I've just studied a bit on Bowlby and the way I've perceived it was that he was studying the long term affects on children who are deprived maternal love, maybe the outcome was the same and maybe different reading matter portrays this differently?
As much as I didn't want to - I forced myself to send my children to nursery (I am a softie with them) - I am only part time so I send my little boy there part time too so I can also spend time with him - which I think is a good mix. Being a teacher in the past I do believe it is good for them to develop their social skills and the basics of working and playing with other children as well as them learning discipline.
It worked really well for my daughter as she mixed in very well when she started school. My son is still at nursery but I can see the benefits already.
It worked really well for my daughter as she mixed in very well when she started school. My son is still at nursery but I can see the benefits already.
I heard about this on LBC which is a london based talk radio, I was livid when I heard it, both my kids went and they both had child minders before that. I have been told on lots of occassions (Thats not dad exaggerating because they my own) that both mine are the most well adjusted and polite and respectful children they ever met.
I did listen on though and from what I understood is they talking about kids that are got up at 6am dropped off and collected again at 6pm as if the parents only have them as an accessory item.
I did listen on though and from what I understood is they talking about kids that are got up at 6am dropped off and collected again at 6pm as if the parents only have them as an accessory item.
I work in a childrens nurser we aim to compliment the familys home life. We also understand parents are the children main educators. I believe working together nursery and home helps ensure children are well balanced, loved sociable little people.
My children have been in day care they have been great, no issues and settled into school great even the teachers commented on how sociable they were, and advanced as far as basic skills were concerned.
Theres always arguments for an adgainst I think as Parents no matter what we do we are made to feel guilty so whatever works for u n ur family
J xx
My children have been in day care they have been great, no issues and settled into school great even the teachers commented on how sociable they were, and advanced as far as basic skills were concerned.
Theres always arguments for an adgainst I think as Parents no matter what we do we are made to feel guilty so whatever works for u n ur family
J xx
Sex God
My first child went to nursery and to a childminder and is outgoing and very sociable if a little self concious (sp?)
My second did the same and is about as unsociable as you can get. So I'm not convinced about the going to nursery vs not going to nursery thing. I think it depends on the childs own personality.
The youngest is still at nursery part time and with a childminder and so far so good......
My second did the same and is about as unsociable as you can get. So I'm not convinced about the going to nursery vs not going to nursery thing. I think it depends on the childs own personality.
The youngest is still at nursery part time and with a childminder and so far so good......
