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My point is, this one wasn't my fault :giggle:
Yeah but it could have been!
But it wasn't :thrilled:
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Warming the Bed
Here's an update already
My partner 'him' of himandme09 has got man flu and doesn't feel up to going to chams, but he may be well enough to go to a concert on friday night
So it is not going to happen - oh well there's always another time ad it's only the playboy bunny costume thats been wasted :fuckinghell:
if he thinks he's going to see it now he's very much mistaken, I'm not going anywhere near him till he's better - if he's so ill I don't want to catch it whatever it is. :wink:
And no I wouldn't wear my crocs for a meet or at a club, I do have some standards.
J
My partner 'him' of himandme09 has got man flu and doesn't feel up to going to chams, but he may be well enough to go to a concert on friday night
So it is not going to happen - oh well there's always another time ad it's only the playboy bunny costume thats been wasted :fuckinghell:
if he thinks he's going to see it now he's very much mistaken, I'm not going anywhere near him till he's better - if he's so ill I don't want to catch it whatever it is. :wink:
And no I wouldn't wear my crocs for a meet or at a club, I do have some standards.
J
Warming the Bed
Well a week has gone by since our first visit to chams for the BBW night.
the place was very busy with SH people and we felt very comfortable, there were some opther newbies with us so a friend showed us round - whew that pace is a warren.
Would have loved to try the hot tub and one of the swings but never got the chance
believe we and a couple we knew already put on quite a show in the room with leather sofas (possibly called the cill out room) and extra towels were called for
Will go again when anothe SH event is or with friends but not so sure we are ready to go solo yet.
Thanks for all the advice
J
the place was very busy with SH people and we felt very comfortable, there were some opther newbies with us so a friend showed us round - whew that pace is a warren.
Would have loved to try the hot tub and one of the swings but never got the chance
believe we and a couple we knew already put on quite a show in the room with leather sofas (possibly called the cill out room) and extra towels were called for
Will go again when anothe SH event is or with friends but not so sure we are ready to go solo yet.
Thanks for all the advice
J
Sexlightened
I know its been a long time since there has been any input into this thread but I have only just managed to finish reading the first post! – slow or what!
I thought I would put a single ish guys perspective into the conversation. First off hats of to DG – it must be very daunting on one’s first visit – has a single girl ever been on their own completely ?? – that I imagine takes more balls that I have. But everyone must have their first time !
I have been going to chams on and off for about 18 months now. Although its miles away form me I have been working on business not too far away and my original motive was really to avoid night in my hotel room alone ! It is incredibly tedious believe me ! As a result I usually only go there midweek so it can be fairly quiet.
I am horrified that you were effectively accosted by a guy there – that is completely out of order – I would vote with northwest cpl and have him reported. But that’s water under the bridge.
It is amusing to see (and hear) the way some guys act in places like Chams. Some are definitely of the opinion they have paid their £30 and so expect a shag – it makes my skin crawl to be honest – hardly treating people with any respect. I am glad to say that most of the time they are put in their place.
The other past time I enjoy is watching the trail of blokes you get following a girl or couple on the quieter nights. – Just hum the tune from Benny Hill to yourself and it provides light entertainment.
I have enjoyed just about all my visits there – this may however be that I go without any expectations and so am never disappointed – I think its an important mindset to get in before going. As I said the prime motive is socialising – it seems so much easier to talk to people in that environment rather then a hotel bar. And I guess I am a people person so like chatting away.
As regards the actual questions
– my first time was several years ago so I cant really remember – and I am a bloke so it is of no great insight !
– Method of approach – probably rubbish – eye contact, slight smile, engage in conversation. I like to chat – and as its often with couples I think it’s the least one can do. I am however fairly rubbish at moving it towards major flirtation and potential playing. I usually wait to be invited to a room by the girl / Couple and very seldom ask ( it maybe that if you don’t ask you cant be rejected and so ego remains in tact. I have, I know, missed several opportunities by being too slow in coming forward – there is a mass of competition for us single guys – most of whom are younger, better looking and in better shape !
– Preferred receipt of approach – get in here and shag me works for me! Actually that’s a lie I would probably run as I am clearly a chicken at heart. Some very horny experiences for me have been just gentle contact. Standing watching at a window or at the edge of an open room. After some small talk I have had ladies just very slightly move so there arms/ hands come into contact with mine – there is that very slight spark of excitement – its electric – then some more obvious movement so that real contact is made and by then even I get the message !! I have had occasions where I have had my manhood grabbed almost before saying hello – this can be great if you fancy the grabber but on a few occasions I haven’t – but acting a bit dumb and making my excuses works for me. Generally conversation and an invite to play is best but on the few occasions never having talked to the person can make the experience highly erotic.
Ok just to be clear as to the single ish bit in my post. On several occasions I have visited cams with a swing buddy – we go together for company and have played together on occasions but she does like the attention of lots of guys at a time (which doesn’t work for me at all - 3 is my limit). As a result I am a single guy with a couples key fob – I haven’t yet worked out if that make sit easier to strike up conversation – and one day I will attempt to make a study of that but not for sometime as its fun we want !
OK can someone pass around the defibrillator as if anyone has read all this they may need it !
Alan
:-)
I thought I would put a single ish guys perspective into the conversation. First off hats of to DG – it must be very daunting on one’s first visit – has a single girl ever been on their own completely ?? – that I imagine takes more balls that I have. But everyone must have their first time !
I have been going to chams on and off for about 18 months now. Although its miles away form me I have been working on business not too far away and my original motive was really to avoid night in my hotel room alone ! It is incredibly tedious believe me ! As a result I usually only go there midweek so it can be fairly quiet.
I am horrified that you were effectively accosted by a guy there – that is completely out of order – I would vote with northwest cpl and have him reported. But that’s water under the bridge.
It is amusing to see (and hear) the way some guys act in places like Chams. Some are definitely of the opinion they have paid their £30 and so expect a shag – it makes my skin crawl to be honest – hardly treating people with any respect. I am glad to say that most of the time they are put in their place.
The other past time I enjoy is watching the trail of blokes you get following a girl or couple on the quieter nights. – Just hum the tune from Benny Hill to yourself and it provides light entertainment.
I have enjoyed just about all my visits there – this may however be that I go without any expectations and so am never disappointed – I think its an important mindset to get in before going. As I said the prime motive is socialising – it seems so much easier to talk to people in that environment rather then a hotel bar. And I guess I am a people person so like chatting away.
As regards the actual questions
– my first time was several years ago so I cant really remember – and I am a bloke so it is of no great insight !
– Method of approach – probably rubbish – eye contact, slight smile, engage in conversation. I like to chat – and as its often with couples I think it’s the least one can do. I am however fairly rubbish at moving it towards major flirtation and potential playing. I usually wait to be invited to a room by the girl / Couple and very seldom ask ( it maybe that if you don’t ask you cant be rejected and so ego remains in tact. I have, I know, missed several opportunities by being too slow in coming forward – there is a mass of competition for us single guys – most of whom are younger, better looking and in better shape !
– Preferred receipt of approach – get in here and shag me works for me! Actually that’s a lie I would probably run as I am clearly a chicken at heart. Some very horny experiences for me have been just gentle contact. Standing watching at a window or at the edge of an open room. After some small talk I have had ladies just very slightly move so there arms/ hands come into contact with mine – there is that very slight spark of excitement – its electric – then some more obvious movement so that real contact is made and by then even I get the message !! I have had occasions where I have had my manhood grabbed almost before saying hello – this can be great if you fancy the grabber but on a few occasions I haven’t – but acting a bit dumb and making my excuses works for me. Generally conversation and an invite to play is best but on the few occasions never having talked to the person can make the experience highly erotic.
Ok just to be clear as to the single ish bit in my post. On several occasions I have visited cams with a swing buddy – we go together for company and have played together on occasions but she does like the attention of lots of guys at a time (which doesn’t work for me at all - 3 is my limit). As a result I am a single guy with a couples key fob – I haven’t yet worked out if that make sit easier to strike up conversation – and one day I will attempt to make a study of that but not for sometime as its fun we want !
OK can someone pass around the defibrillator as if anyone has read all this they may need it !
Alan
:-)
