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:PI think there is more bickering amongst the couple at meets, parties and club nights. As usually one will get gobsmacked by a new swinger or couple and his/her partner does not agree and is more likely to voice their dislike there and then.
Its quite a thing really as one of the couple has a go at the other. Often more like a bark or a growl. But I find that interesting. Usually once an agreement is met you don't see that side of things.
Its quite a thing really as one of the couple has a go at the other. Often more like a bark or a growl. But I find that interesting. Usually once an agreement is met you don't see that side of things.
One of the reasons Mars and I are so secure with swinging is because even if we don`t know what a problem is, we instinctively know when something is amiss between the two of us. I can`t swing under those conditions, the idea becomes too uncomfortable. We don`t always manage to communicate about a problem immediately, especially if we are stressed, as I tend to get anxious, and he withdraws, but we both feel it, and this will always prevent us from getting into a scenario which either of us are uncomfortable with. Any vibes, and I`m out of there! I will not put us and others through any discomfort due to uncertainty.
Such an uncertainty has been hanging over us during the past few weeks, and so I addressed the swinging with him as much as possible, but still the uncertainty was there. Last night I damn near posted a thread, or PMed friends to ask if we would still be welcome to parties on a social basis only, as I had become so uncomfortable with the unaddressed issue.
Turns out it wasn`t a Swinging issue at all, even though the fact we were communicating on different levels would have put a stop to it!
:bounce:
So, a close shave, but we are now working together on a mutual communicative level and are back in business!
All I would say is that Mars` contact with others here is so much more stinted than mine. He knows a great many of you via munches etc, but he is still unsure of how many times he needs to meet with someone before he is confident enough to swing with them, but we already knew that!
I`m happy with that, and I hope all those out there who want to jump our bones are happy with that too! Because he is keen :mrgreen:
Venusxxx
Such an uncertainty has been hanging over us during the past few weeks, and so I addressed the swinging with him as much as possible, but still the uncertainty was there. Last night I damn near posted a thread, or PMed friends to ask if we would still be welcome to parties on a social basis only, as I had become so uncomfortable with the unaddressed issue.
Turns out it wasn`t a Swinging issue at all, even though the fact we were communicating on different levels would have put a stop to it!
:bounce:So, a close shave, but we are now working together on a mutual communicative level and are back in business!
All I would say is that Mars` contact with others here is so much more stinted than mine. He knows a great many of you via munches etc, but he is still unsure of how many times he needs to meet with someone before he is confident enough to swing with them, but we already knew that!
I`m happy with that, and I hope all those out there who want to jump our bones are happy with that too! Because he is keen :mrgreen:
Venusxxx
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We can empathise with that Venus; as you know, Chris hadn't actually come on here to chat until yesterday. This means that, anywhere we go, he feels as though he's in a room full of strangers. I do try to keep him up to date with things that go on around SH but often he either forgets or is watching telly so doesn't hear me (oh silly me no, I don't tell him at all 
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I feel very comfortable actually walking up to anyone at a munch and asking 'who are you', if I don't recognise them, but Chris wouldn't do that because he wouldn't know what to say. When it comes down to meeting people, we both like to have a drink and a laugh with couples on one or more occasions before any naughtiness is planned as it gives everyone more than just a 'first meet' to get to know each other. If we then decide we don't want to play for whatever reason, we'd tell the people involved.
Bev
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). I feel very comfortable actually walking up to anyone at a munch and asking 'who are you', if I don't recognise them, but Chris wouldn't do that because he wouldn't know what to say. When it comes down to meeting people, we both like to have a drink and a laugh with couples on one or more occasions before any naughtiness is planned as it gives everyone more than just a 'first meet' to get to know each other. If we then decide we don't want to play for whatever reason, we'd tell the people involved.
Bev
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