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Confidence whos got it who hasnt
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I think it is the weather Darkfire! 
My mojo is fine once the sun goes down!
When I'm overheated (for all the wrong reasons) I get really bad headaches and then with the lack of sleep I feel less confident than usual. Sexually... I think I've got to be comfy with someone before I can be confident in bed with them. A few months back I never would have thought I'd say that! :lol: but then things and people change all the time.
I've been amazed how many people lately think Neil and I are , not hardened swingers, but very experienced swingers and that we don't have glitches in confidence or wobbles now and then. Its probably way more normal than not if people admitted.
Not sure why people don't admit how they are feeling more openly. Is it because theyre afraid someone will go off them for something they said? Or because they don't want to appear daft and a bit too insecure or unconfident?
Gem. x
My mojo is fine once the sun goes down!When I'm overheated (for all the wrong reasons) I get really bad headaches and then with the lack of sleep I feel less confident than usual. Sexually... I think I've got to be comfy with someone before I can be confident in bed with them. A few months back I never would have thought I'd say that! :lol: but then things and people change all the time.
I've been amazed how many people lately think Neil and I are , not hardened swingers, but very experienced swingers and that we don't have glitches in confidence or wobbles now and then. Its probably way more normal than not if people admitted.
Not sure why people don't admit how they are feeling more openly. Is it because theyre afraid someone will go off them for something they said? Or because they don't want to appear daft and a bit too insecure or unconfident?
Gem. x
I have never been a confident person, and i envy those that are
for a number of years now, i have been a bit of a social hermit, sitting at home, in front of a pc, i have been using chatrroms for a few years, which i find easy, i can sit at the keyboard, and be a total smartarse, and for the most part, get away with it
when i am face to face with someone, i would very much stare at my shoes, and stammer out any greetings
when i am comfortable in a persons company, i can be sometimes loud and overbearing, as if i am being cocky and arrogant, which i think is overcompensating for the lack of confidence
for a number of years now, i have been a bit of a social hermit, sitting at home, in front of a pc, i have been using chatrroms for a few years, which i find easy, i can sit at the keyboard, and be a total smartarse, and for the most part, get away with it
when i am face to face with someone, i would very much stare at my shoes, and stammer out any greetings
when i am comfortable in a persons company, i can be sometimes loud and overbearing, as if i am being cocky and arrogant, which i think is overcompensating for the lack of confidence
Mines a bit low at the moment. I said before i'm confident at some things and not others but that can eb and flow to. I'm now worried about a post here that makes me think i've upset someone and i'm waiting a reply. Though i could be reading the text wrong i still cant get it to read in a good way as i'm a glas half empty sort of bloke and it's now realy bugging me. :cry:
This has happened a few times now. So my confidence in using the forum is low and i don't want it to be. :cry:
This has happened a few times now. So my confidence in using the forum is low and i don't want it to be. :cry:
Goose... you shouldn't worry about such things, there is no inflection of voice or any way of seeing an expression here so if anyone should take offence, however unfounded, it can't be helped! You just have to accept everyone reads things differently and wants different things from SH depending on their personality.
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Goose... you shouldn't worry about such things, there is no inflection of voice or any way of seeing an expression here so if anyone should take offence, however unfounded, it can't be helped! You just have to accept everyone reads things differently and wants different things from SH depending on their personality.
Sorry about that dollyminx just need to say it, and like you say i'm now forgetting it.
Just ignore me
i'm just having an off day but not so bad now.IN EDIT
Maybe my being a missery is down to the heat i can't do anything right since yhe hot spell started
Confidence... Nan can't say I have a lot of that. In fact, socially I'm almost a hermit! Although I guess socially I've always been like that (hmm - that can't be completely true as I did manage to meet Mrs 36; so ok I've socially been a hermit apart from a brief period when I met my wife).
Anyway, I'm trying hard to change things and Friday I'm going to go with work mates to London for the night! :shock: Baptism of fire - or what! F*ck, I'm scared!
I'm thinking after repeating this a number of times then I should hopefully gain some social confidence.
Fingers crossed that it all goes well,
36 x
Anyway, I'm trying hard to change things and Friday I'm going to go with work mates to London for the night! :shock: Baptism of fire - or what! F*ck, I'm scared!
I'm thinking after repeating this a number of times then I should hopefully gain some social confidence.
Fingers crossed that it all goes well,
36 x
Still none here
I havent been here much latley (though ive still used chat on here and dropped the odd post in) as i have been trying the date site without success which hasnt helped
But after three months there i have decided to give in so i may be around a bit more.
No im still much as i was when i posted here before though i have found myself more at ease now after a few socials which has helped though i still tend to be quiet which tbh isnt a good thing on here.
I havent been here much latley (though ive still used chat on here and dropped the odd post in) as i have been trying the date site without success which hasnt helped
But after three months there i have decided to give in so i may be around a bit more.
No im still much as i was when i posted here before though i have found myself more at ease now after a few socials which has helped though i still tend to be quiet which tbh isnt a good thing on here.
I'm confident in my work, confident in my close family environment and with close friends.
I am terrified of everyone else lol... I often come across as rude when I am just not sure of what to say. That's why I love the net - I can just say how I feel and think & not worry about it.
I'm not confident about meeting people and they have to make me feel at ease, as long as they laugh and give me a hug & tell me to snap out of it then I am fine. Humour is essential, I survive on it.
I am terrified of everyone else lol... I often come across as rude when I am just not sure of what to say. That's why I love the net - I can just say how I feel and think & not worry about it.
I'm not confident about meeting people and they have to make me feel at ease, as long as they laugh and give me a hug & tell me to snap out of it then I am fine. Humour is essential, I survive on it.
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Confidence... Nan can't say I have a lot of that. In fact, socially I'm almost a hermit! Although I guess socially I've always been like that (hmm - that can't be completely true as I did manage to meet Mrs 36; so ok I've socially been a hermit apart from a brief period when I met my wife).
Anyway, I'm trying hard to change things and Friday I'm going to go with work mates to London for the night! :shock: Baptism of fire - or what! F*ck, I'm scared!
...
Well - that was much easier than I expected. Actually I enjoyed it lot!
Great restaurant, nice pub, nice and funny people. I shall be trying that again. :D
I feel my confidence growing...
36 x
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Quote by 36openminded
Confidence... Nan can't say I have a lot of that. In fact, socially I'm almost a hermit! Although I guess socially I've always been like that (hmm - that can't be completely true as I did manage to meet Mrs 36; so ok I've socially been a hermit apart from a brief period when I met my wife).
Anyway, I'm trying hard to change things and Friday I'm going to go with work mates to London for the night! :shock: Baptism of fire - or what! F*ck, I'm scared!
...
Well - that was much easier than I expected. Actually I enjoyed it lot!
Great restaurant, nice pub, nice and funny people. I shall be trying that again. :D
I feel my confidence growing...
36 xGlad you had a good night 36,
It's odd reading how some of the most confident sounding posters on here are actually fraidy cats. It's funny how we all have our odd little quirks, wether thin, tall, old, young or drop dead gorgeous etc...
Having been on the site now just over a month, i've come to realise that we are all our own worst critics. Realising that most people seem to be fraidy like me, actually makes me more confident so thanks to the starter of this thread!
xxxx
Having been on the site now just over a month, i've come to realise that we are all our own worst critics. Realising that most people seem to be fraidy like me, actually makes me more confident so thanks to the starter of this thread!
xxxx
Hmmmmm. Confidence.
With my job I am very confident. Hell so confident that I signed a bunch of HMRC paperwork "Abi "... can't imagine why they didn't accept it!!
As for personal confidence. I am finally, after many years of doing what I thought others wanted, confident in myself. I think it really comes from liking who I am. I know that may sound cocky but I do feel that when you like who you are you stand a little taller, smile a little brighter and laugh a little longer. Does that make sense?
With my job I am very confident. Hell so confident that I signed a bunch of HMRC paperwork "Abi "... can't imagine why they didn't accept it!!
As for personal confidence. I am finally, after many years of doing what I thought others wanted, confident in myself. I think it really comes from liking who I am. I know that may sound cocky but I do feel that when you like who you are you stand a little taller, smile a little brighter and laugh a little longer. Does that make sense?
Well one evening in a chatroom i came out with a sexual comment and the person i was chatting to (we were both watching on cam) burst out with laughter
Then she said i would not have said anything like that when i first joined this site and she was right
I do feel a little less timid than i was but i still feel like im sat in the corner sometimes.
I am also feeling a little more confident to make the first move and the one time i have done it it went well. Then i got cocky and almost ruined any chance of another meet.
So i will se how it goes.
Then she said i would not have said anything like that when i first joined this site and she was right
I do feel a little less timid than i was but i still feel like im sat in the corner sometimes.
I am also feeling a little more confident to make the first move and the one time i have done it it went well. Then i got cocky and almost ruined any chance of another meet.
So i will se how it goes.
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Well one evening in a chatroom i came out with a sexual comment and the person i was chatting to (we were both watching on cam) burst out with laughter
Then she said i would not have said anything like that when i first joined this site and she was right
I do feel a little less timid than i was but i still feel like im sat in the corner sometimes.
I am also feeling a little more confident to make the first move and the one time i have done it it went well. Then i got cocky and almost ruined any chance of another meet.
So i will se how it goes.
Hun, I know from watching you Saturday night that your confidence has grown by leaps and bounds. You are an amazing guy and it was wonderful watching you coming out of your shell. I think I even drunkenly told someone it was nice seeing my little Goose all grown up!!
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Well one evening in a chatroom i came out with a sexual comment and the person i was chatting to (we were both watching on cam) burst out with laughter
Then she said i would not have said anything like that when i first joined this site and she was right
I do feel a little less timid than i was but i still feel like im sat in the corner sometimes.
I am also feeling a little more confident to make the first move and the one time i have done it it went well. Then i got cocky and almost ruined any chance of another meet.
So i will se how it goes.
Hun, I know from watching you Saturday night that your confidence has grown by leaps and bounds. You are an amazing guy and it was wonderful watching you coming out of your shell. I think I even drunkenly told someone it was nice seeing my little Goose all grown up!!
Thank you hun
oh bugger have have one o these instead
