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Confidence whos got it who hasnt

right a bit of a story lol.........b4 i met up with sonia......i had no confidence what so ever......and was incredibly sad....and my health suffered........when i pulled sorry i mean met sonia....she gave me so much love trhat my confidence boosted......no end......every day with her is a confidence boost...(if she wants to be with me, i must be good)......she has given me a life..basicly.............and i am forever her servant for it.....id walk 20`000 miles for her in fact if she asked id actually do anything.....and i do mean anything...she is my life redface
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. . . . . I'm the first to take the micky out of myself to make others laugh. *cue the silly dance* lol

Have this one on me wink
(I wish redface )

that dancing spider man syncs up perfectly with Concrete Schoolyard by Jurrasic Five. Its ace.
I suppose it all depends wot mood i`m in, somedays i`m brimming with confidance and somedays i have none.
sierra x x
For me it depends entirely on the situation I can be hugely confident but most of the time I'm a gibbering mess especially around those that I respect/want to impress. People assume I'm confident because of my size and manor, and many think I'm arrogant, but to be honest my self image etc can often be v low. Thats why I tend to spend time with those I trust to be honest with me because around them I can be comfortable and therefore confident.
and I also use the whole self deprication/ obnoxious tricks as walls to hide behind
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i am probabily the most uncomfidant person you will ever meet, tho i come over and being very loud and brash i think its a cover up, inside i'm a very insicure person and find it very hard to meet new people, i'm ok in some aspects like munches etc where people are just there to have a good time and to meet other not me in perticular, but on more private meet where people are coming to meet me i'm very diffarent and usually make myself ill worring about it confused rolleyes

i can emphasise with u naughty......deep down i'm painfully shy (especially in social settings where i don't know many people) but as i'm aware of it i try to hide it and be more confident although as many of my closest friends have tld me, they actually thought i was just arrogant and it was only when they got to know me that they realised that i wasn't.
when surounded by people i know well i'm fine.......but when in a situation where i don't know many people i think i become more aware of my insecurities and am very shy.
in a work setting i am more confident, partly because i know my job well enough, but partly because i need to come across this way.......
i surpose everyone is just different in different settings really.......
Maybe lack of confidence is the norm in life. Has anyone ever thought of it this way?
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Maybe lack of confidence is the norm in life. Has anyone ever thought of it this way?

No, can't say that I have actually.
lucky u fb
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Why? I just said that I don't think lack of confidence is the norm? How does that make me lucky? confused
sorry thought u were implying u had bag loads
I'm like a lot of the people on here, I have confidence in some things not in others. I found that faking it (confidence, that is redface ) works a treat for a bit, while you get experience.
But confidence in others wanting me or wanting to be with me? Almost non-existent sometimes. Then I just crawl into my corner and stay there til I can fake it some more. smile
It makes knock-backs - which are part and parcel of this life-style - really cut deep sometimes.
Ok a serious one from me for once...
For those of you who really do feel they lack confidence may I say this.. I genuinely used to feel insecure and not as good as some others, I always felt others were doing better had better bodies made more money had a bigger house were far more intelligent had more going for them etc etc etc...... then one day, i'm not sure when or how I came to realise, who really cares?
We all have good and bad in us somewhere, some things people may dislike some they might like.. but the biggest change came for me when you look for the good in others no matter what, we all have the ability to do good and be nice.. If a person is nice I believe nice things happen in return, sounds simple but just try it.
No one in this life is better than any other person, we all came into the world with nothing and we are all leaving with nothing, everything you have is on loan.... the only thing you have that is truly yours is yourself! Be nice......
Heavy I know and as hard as I try I can't find the right words to make this sound any better......
Mike xx
And an unserious one from us;
"Confidence is a preferance for the habitual voyeur of what is known as............
PARKLIFE"
Mike go to bed, you're pissed and posting bollox lol
Confidence is gained with knowledge and experience. Over confidence in one's ability is far more dangerous than lacking confidence.
As for arrogance. "I am confident, he is arrogant." In other words is is often a matter of point of view. I know what I can do and do it. Others see that as pride and call it arrogant. So to some this posting is arrogant to others it shows a confident knowledge of language.
Those who do not understand do not matter. That is arrogant.
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Maybe lack of confidence is the norm in life. Has anyone ever thought of it this way?

......and then you try something learn about it and gain confidence.
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Mike go to bed, you're pissed and posting bollox lol

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Confidence is gained with knowledge and experience. Over confidence in one ability is far more dangerous than lacking confidence.

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Mike go to bed, you're pissed and posting bollox lol

More words of wisdom lol......
Quimy wants his tonsils back now please :lol: :lol: :lol:
Great to meet you proper hun xx
Mike xx
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Mike go to bed, you're pissed and posting bollox lol

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i love this woman lol
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Mike go to bed, you're pissed and posting bollox lol

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Well spotted Dark or was it bleedin obvious
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Can't say I noticed the difference hun innocent
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Confidence
I have to say most of mine comes from life experience
It's not so much a belief in what i can do its more what i know what I'm capable of
and working within those limits
Theres areas im not so familiar with and lack confidence but life is a learning curve so to speak and sometime a hand to hold is more than welcome
There's not much i wont have a go at i like to arrange meetings and i like to aim high but i need other peoples confidence in me to achieve that
N wales mini munch was small but a good nite ( plug for the next one )
So how confident are you in what you do and within yourself
mike xx

I have to say my lack of confidence come from life experince, the last four years have knocked what little I had out of me and it's very hard to rebuild on such shakey foundations but I'm not likely to give up trying anytime soon. I'm more tenacious than confident.
H.x
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Confidence
I have to say most of mine comes from life experience
It's not so much a belief in what i can do its more what i know what I'm capable of
and working within those limits
Theres areas im not so familiar with and lack confidence but life is a learning curve so to speak and sometime a hand to hold is more than welcome
There's not much i wont have a go at i like to arrange meetings and i like to aim high but i need other peoples confidence in me to achieve that
N wales mini munch was small but a good nite ( plug for the next one )
So how confident are you in what you do and within yourself
mike xx

I have to say my lack of confidence come from life experince, the last four years have knocked what little I had out of me and it's very hard to rebuild on such shakey foundations but I'm not likely to give up trying anytime soon. I'm more tenacious than confident.
H.x
Now that I can fully relate to :thumbup:
Thank you for putting the jumble of thoughts in my head into words for me hun kiss
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What does tenacious mean ? confused

It means stubborn, determind or persistent
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What does tenacious mean ? confused

kinda doggedly persistant.
I read it as h might not be confident but her persistance in wanting to be more confident won't put her off trying to attain that goal
(makes sense in my head but anyone please feel free to correct me if I'm wrong)
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i can emphasise with u naughty......deep down i'm painfully shy (especially in social settings where i don't know many people) but as i'm aware of it i try to hide it and be more confident although as many of my closest friends have tld me, they actually thought i was just arrogant and it was only when they got to know me that they realised that i wasn't.
when surounded by people i know well i'm fine.......but when in a situation where i don't know many people i think i become more aware of my insecurities and am very shy.
in a work setting i am more confident, partly because i know my job well enough, but partly because i need to come across this way.......
i surpose everyone is just different in different settings really.......

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Sorry I've composed myself now redface the reason I've quoted Kate is due to the bit in bold, because I've had the same problem on more than one occassion when I've been introduced to new people. Instead of a warm greeting from me many have just recieved a grunt a nod. Couple that with the fact that I have a dry sense of humour and a deep voice that rarely changes tone so my actuall emotions are hard to pick up and people have a tendency to think i'm arrogant confused
Untill they get to know me of course then they just realise I'm an idiot lol :lol: :lol:
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What does tenacious mean ? confused

It means stubborn, determind or persistent
Well you need self belief and confidence for that dont you
Isnt it the same thing :?
Not really. I've been stood up may times, does that mean I'm going to stop arranging meets, no, at some point someone worthwhile might turn up, that's not confidence, that's blind optamism (or stupidity). If I was confident I'd be able to leave and go elsewhere and enjoy myself rather than waiting for four hours on the off chane that they got lost.
H.x
In work situations my confidence level has been absolutely fine since about my early twenties. I learnt to make decisions as at 24 I managed an IT dept of nearly 40 staff. If my confidence had gone then I would have failed.
Personal life is not a problem either, though I tend to be a little gaurded with people I don't know.
Swinging: Apart from the first meet, where I was nervous and imbibed a little too much, I've been okay
The weak area is bloody golf!!!! I am actually quite a decent player but when in competition half my confidnce drains away. Lord knows why , coz I can bloody do it!!! I had a esson yesteray and the pro said he'd never seen my strike the ball better.. I'm playin later and willl be doing well tyhen will totally fuck up.
That's it ... sorry to bore on a bit
Paul
confident.................. that's me
cool
People think I'm confident when really I'm not, I'm waiting for someone else to take the lead and settle my insecurities. I've been feeling very insecure recently.
I worry about everything lately and once I'm on a wobble it's usually really difficult to settle myself again.
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Gem. x
Gem. :therethere:
can i help you find your mojo? biggrin is it the weather or sommat, mine's gone walkabout too dunno