I suppose it all depends wot mood i`m in, somedays i`m brimming with confidance and somedays i have none.
sierra x x
For me it depends entirely on the situation I can be hugely confident but most of the time I'm a gibbering mess especially around those that I respect/want to impress. People assume I'm confident because of my size and manor, and many think I'm arrogant, but to be honest my self image etc can often be v low. Thats why I tend to spend time with those I trust to be honest with me because around them I can be comfortable and therefore confident.
and I also use the whole self deprication/ obnoxious tricks as walls to hide behind
Maybe lack of confidence is the norm in life. Has anyone ever thought of it this way?
sorry thought u were implying u had bag loads
Ok a serious one from me for once...
For those of you who really do feel they lack confidence may I say this.. I genuinely used to feel insecure and not as good as some others, I always felt others were doing better had better bodies made more money had a bigger house were far more intelligent had more going for them etc etc etc...... then one day, i'm not sure when or how I came to realise, who really cares?
We all have good and bad in us somewhere, some things people may dislike some they might like.. but the biggest change came for me when you look for the good in others no matter what, we all have the ability to do good and be nice.. If a person is nice I believe nice things happen in return, sounds simple but just try it.
No one in this life is better than any other person, we all came into the world with nothing and we are all leaving with nothing, everything you have is on loan.... the only thing you have that is truly yours is yourself! Be nice......
Heavy I know and as hard as I try I can't find the right words to make this sound any better......
Mike xx
And an unserious one from us;
"Confidence is a preferance for the habitual voyeur of what is known as............
PARKLIFE"
Confidence is gained with knowledge and experience. Over confidence in one's ability is far more dangerous than lacking confidence.
As for arrogance. "I am confident, he is arrogant." In other words is is often a matter of point of view. I know what I can do and do it. Others see that as pride and call it arrogant. So to some this posting is arrogant to others it shows a confident knowledge of language.
Those who do not understand do not matter. That is arrogant.
In work situations my confidence level has been absolutely fine since about my early twenties. I learnt to make decisions as at 24 I managed an IT dept of nearly 40 staff. If my confidence had gone then I would have failed.
Personal life is not a problem either, though I tend to be a little gaurded with people I don't know.
Swinging: Apart from the first meet, where I was nervous and imbibed a little too much, I've been okay
The weak area is bloody golf!!!! I am actually quite a decent player but when in competition half my confidnce drains away. Lord knows why , coz I can bloody do it!!! I had a esson yesteray and the pro said he'd never seen my strike the ball better.. I'm playin later and willl be doing well tyhen will totally fuck up.
That's it ... sorry to bore on a bit
Paul