I hope this hasn’t been done been before, spoke to my supposed best friend, he told me to f**k off, so I will give it a go.
Either here, or in real life, I might be perceived to be an outgoing person, I'm not usually afraid to give my opinion, and when I feel I am right, wont buckle to pressure. I like to think, I am a reasonably confident character.
The thing I cant do on here, is the flirty thing, I just don’t feel confident with it. Face to face, yes, here on this site, or in hyperspace, no.
Am I alone in this?
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Quote by Happy Cats
I hope this hasn’t been done been before, spoke to my supposed best friend, he told me to f**k off, so I will give it a go.
Either here, or in real life, I might be perceived to be an outgoing person, I'm not usually afraid to give my opinion, and when I feel I am right, wont buckle to pressure. I like to think, I am a reasonably confident character.
The thing I cant do on here, is the flirty thing, I just don’t feel confident with it. Face to face, yes, here on this site, or in hyperspace, no.
Am I alone in this?
i am the other way round.. i feel way more confident doing it on here than in real life... i think i am better at expressing myself online than i am in reality..and it is the "do they really like me" thing that i have trouble getting my head round.........
sean xxxxxxxxx
yes I'm the other way round too...on here you can be a bit more liberated, as we're not completely bound by the usual social conventions (although looking at some recent threads, that might not be the case!)..having said that because you can't see someones face or hear the intonation in their voice, things that are well meant (innocent flirting, humour) can get mis construed and taken the wrong way
...this is a great ice breaker..but I guess to develop any kind of relationship you need the face to face thing too.
...this is a great ice breaker..but I guess to develop any kind of relationship you need the face to face thing too.
Quote by fabio grooverider
I hope this hasn’t been done been before, spoke to my supposed best friend, he told me to f**k off, so I will give it a go.
Either here, or in real life, I might be perceived to be an outgoing person, I'm not usually afraid to give my opinion, and when I feel I am right, wont buckle to pressure. I like to think, I am a reasonably confident character.
The thing I cant do on here, is the flirty thing, I just don’t feel confident with it. Face to face, yes, here on this site, or in hyperspace, no.
Am I alone in this?
i am the other way round.. i feel way more confident doing it on here than in real life... i think i am better at expressing myself online than i am in reality..and it is the "do they really like me" thing that i have trouble getting my head round.........
sean xxxxxxxxx
same here sean.
but since joining this site i have alot more confidence, i can still be very shy face to face with people but its getting better and better, real nervouse about going to my first munch in july but determind to have a good time.
Tina xxxxx
flirting on the net is easy.... you dont have to look at them in the face, you dont get shy, or embarased if you say something you wish you hadn't.. an most of all you have the delete button if you change ya mind half way through a sentance.
as most of you know i have got the reputation as the chatroom tart, as i will chat and flirt with everyone that goes in. but you put me in a room with all those people i have been flirting with, and i go quiet. more often than not, i'm the one standing watching the world go past.
so you are not alone.
as most of you know i have got the reputation as the chatroom tart, as i will chat and flirt with everyone that goes in. but you put me in a room with all those people i have been flirting with, and i go quiet. more often than not, i'm the one standing watching the world go past.
so you are not alone.
Quote by Jiggle
flirting on the net is easy.... you dont have to look at them in the face, you dont get shy, or embarased if you say something you wish you hadn't.. an most of all you have the delete button if you change ya mind half way through a sentance.
as most of you know i have got the reputation as the chatroom tart, as i will chat and flirt with everyone that goes in. but you put me in a room with all those people i have been flirting with, and i go quiet. more often than not, i'm the one standing watching the world go past.
so you are not alone.
can i stand with you then jiggle
I think I am pretty much the same on or off line 
Some days I am confident in what I post and other days I just sit back and read what other post. Just like in real life, I can be a right chatter box at some events and not others.
I don't know if that right people right situation thingy or just me own personal nagging doubts :dunno:
Some days I am confident in what I post and other days I just sit back and read what other post. Just like in real life, I can be a right chatter box at some events and not others.
I don't know if that right people right situation thingy or just me own personal nagging doubts :dunno:
Quote by cuddly-catlin
flirting on the net is easy.... you dont have to look at them in the face, you dont get shy, or embarased if you say something you wish you hadn't.. an most of all you have the delete button if you change ya mind half way through a sentance.
as most of you know i have got the reputation as the chatroom tart, as i will chat and flirt with everyone that goes in. but you put me in a room with all those people i have been flirting with, and i go quiet. more often than not, i'm the one standing watching the world go past.
so you are not alone.
can i stand with you then jiggle
your more than welcome to. would be nice to sit and chat to you all evening
Jiggle
Quote by cuddly-catlin
Hope we get the chance at the july munch jiggle.
it will be my first so will be a bit shy at first
well for some odd reason when i'm at a munch peopel come up to me and say "who that over there". and if i reply "dunno". they are quite shoked, casue they seem ti think i know everyone!.
most of them are a good bunch. if i do get to it, then i'll make sure i come across and give my ellos!
Jiggle
Quote by Jiggle
Hope we get the chance at the july munch jiggle.
it will be my first so will be a bit shy at first
well for some odd reason when i'm at a munch peopel come up to me and say "who that over there". and if i reply "dunno". they are quite shoked, casue they seem ti think i know everyone!.
most of them are a good bunch. if i do get to it, then i'll make sure i come across and give my ellos!
Jiggle
Jiggle do you drop everything as quickly as you drop your "h's" ?
Quote by foxylady 123
Hope we get the chance at the july munch jiggle.
it will be my first so will be a bit shy at first
well for some odd reason when i'm at a munch peopel come up to me and say "who that over there". and if i reply "dunno". they are quite shoked, casue they seem ti think i know everyone!.
most of them are a good bunch. if i do get to it, then i'll make sure i come across and give my ellos!
Jiggle
Jiggle do you drop everything as quickly as you drop your "h's" ?
i'm trying to increase the life span of my keyboard, but skipping typing letters taht i dot need to.
the letter J G and L are no longer visable
Jiggle
Quote by Jiggle
Hope we get the chance at the july munch jiggle.
it will be my first so will be a bit shy at first
well for some odd reason when i'm at a munch peopel come up to me and say "who that over there". and if i reply "dunno". they are quite shoked, casue they seem ti think i know everyone!.
most of them are a good bunch. if i do get to it, then i'll make sure i come across and give my ellos!
Jiggle
Jiggle do you drop everything as quickly as you drop your "h's" ?
i'm trying to increase the life span of my keyboard, but skipping typing letters taht i dot need to.
the letter J G and L are no longer visable
Jiggle
Cant a man or your experience do it without looking?
If not i can teach you
(to touch type)
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Quote by Marcuso
i am the other way round.. i feel way more confident doing it on here than in real life... sean xxxxxxxxx
Give over Sean ...you're one of the biggest tarts I know.
I, on the other hand, am VERY shy and quiet :twisted: :twisted:
Marcuso
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Marcuso,
Since when have you been shy and quite????
It must have been before I met you
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Quote by Happy Cats
The thing I cant do on here, is the flirty thing, I just don’t feel confident with it. Face to face, yes, here on this site, or in hyperspace, no.
Am I alone in this?
I'm much more comfortable flirting IRL than online. I especially avoid heavy flirting online with people I don't really know, because I'm worried they will get into the whole cybersex thing, which I simply will not do with strangers. Face to face is much easier because you have all the visual cues and clues that tell you how far it's safe to go, or when to step up a gear. Online, the subtlety that body language makes possible is missing, so it rapidly descends into talking dirty for the sake of talking dirty, which does nothing for me personally.
Ice
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Quote by Clare_Lincs
im the quiet one in the corner crapping meself :shock:
Well, if it's good enough for Paula Radcliff...
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First of all...
Catlin, I've been to a couple of munches - first time I'd met anyone from the site, so I was a little nervous before the first one; but really, there's no need to worry. People know there are newbies there, most everyone will be happy to introduce themselves or even point out other people to you if they know; and it's kind of like going to a party - just with the odd bit of more risque conversation. I'm sure you'll be made to feel welcome if it's anything like the ones I've been to. Go and say hi to people and see if you know their nick from the forum/chat.
Right.
Happy Cats, I am surprised that you find it easier to flirt in real life. I would have thought most people would find it the other way. Yes, things can get misread more easily without the facial expressions but you also don't need to worry so much about putting yourself out there as if you get embarrassed they can't see.
You're just a name producing sentences to begin with, it's not so personal. I think what I'm trying to say is that you don't feel so self-conscious. I certainly find it easier to flirt and chat online, and once you feel you know someone a bit it eases any real-world meetings (if they're being honest).
Quote by cuddly-catlin
Hope we get the chance at the july munch jiggle.
it will be my first so will be a bit shy at first
Catlin, I've been to a couple of munches - first time I'd met anyone from the site, so I was a little nervous before the first one; but really, there's no need to worry. People know there are newbies there, most everyone will be happy to introduce themselves or even point out other people to you if they know; and it's kind of like going to a party - just with the odd bit of more risque conversation. I'm sure you'll be made to feel welcome if it's anything like the ones I've been to. Go and say hi to people and see if you know their nick from the forum/chat.
Right.
Happy Cats, I am surprised that you find it easier to flirt in real life. I would have thought most people would find it the other way. Yes, things can get misread more easily without the facial expressions but you also don't need to worry so much about putting yourself out there as if you get embarrassed they can't see.
You're just a name producing sentences to begin with, it's not so personal. I think what I'm trying to say is that you don't feel so self-conscious. I certainly find it easier to flirt and chat online, and once you feel you know someone a bit it eases any real-world meetings (if they're being honest).
Quote by Happy Cats
I hope this hasn’t been done been before, spoke to my supposed best friend, he told me to f**k off, so I will give it a go.
Either here, or in real life, I might be perceived to be an outgoing person, I'm not usually afraid to give my opinion, and when I feel I am right, wont buckle to pressure. I like to think, I am a reasonably confident character.
The thing I cant do on here, is the flirty thing, I just don’t feel confident with it. Face to face, yes, here on this site, or in hyperspace, no.
Am I alone in this?
It doesn't bother me. Having said that I prefer face to face. There are millions of keyboard warriors out there, and I often wonder if they would be so smart mouthed if they were talking to my face.
As for flirting? I just love it!
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Quote by BrightonGeezer
As for flirting? I just love it!
It's the best. Meeting someone when you're in the best, relaxed, chilled, most confident mood and them being up for it, sliding sexy one-liners with the odd subtle innuendo in amongst the conversation and it getting hotter and hotter... Getting and giving those looks with the eyes... Sometimes you think the sex wouldn't possibly match up.
Quote by breezer
As for flirting? I just love it!
It's the best. Meeting someone when you're in the best, relaxed, chilled, most confident mood and them being up for it, sliding sexy one-liners with the odd subtle innuendo in amongst the conversation and it getting hotter and hotter... Getting and giving those looks with the eyes... Sometimes you think the sex wouldn't possibly match up.
I couldn't agree more! :cheers:
