Confused......

6 Jun 2004

Hiya, I'm new to all this.....so Hello! biggrin

I do have a problem though..... I have posted an ad (97224) and have received lots and lots of replies ( :P )..... my problem is this: How do I reply to them all? I don't want to seem unfriendly and a timewaster but I have so many I have to reply to!
I am using the family computer so can't reply until late at night as it is. I know it sounds like I'm moaning.... I'm not! I just need help really on how to answer them all satisfactorily (spelling?!?). A lot of them are not in my interest anyway so should I ignore them or at least reply saying, "thanks but no thanks" confused

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Your help would be appreciated!
Thanks

6 Jun 2004

You need to use a wonderful couple of things called "copy" and "paste".
You write yourfirst "Hi, thanks for your reply, but I'm sorry you're not my type. Good luck with your search. Bye.......etc"
Then you need to highlight the text to do this press the left button on the mouse while the cursor is just before the end of the sentence then, while holding the buton left button down, move the mouse from right to left. If you've done it right then the text should be highlighted (usually in blue).
Let go of the left button at the start of the text (whilst it is still blue) and then, with the pointer on the blue text, press the right button. A little list of options should appear. Select the "copy" from the list (by using the left button).
Now send the first email, delete the mesage and then reply to the next one.
In the top left corner of the message portion (big white open bit) of the email, right click and a new list will appear again. Select "paste" and the text that you highlighted previously will now appear in the window. Just press send and you're ready to do the next one.
Personally I'd reply to everyone you're not intersted in as it can help to stop you recieving abusive mail later.
HTH

6 Jun 2004

Hello Onlyme wave

For the time being I would remove your ad so you don't get more of a build up.
What I used to do when I had an ad was keep a couple of documents with pre-prepared 'no thank yous'. You can just copy, paste and send to them. I only used these for the people that sent either one line replies or the ones that obviously copied and pasted the same reply to every single ad on there. It was just a little polite note, not much detail and able to go to most of them.
Then you are left with the people that have made an effort with their reply. From my experience of ads, this will be less than half the original people that replied. I used to give them the same respect and answer individually. Either to explain why you don't think you would be suited with each other, or to find out more about each other etc
It's not as easy as it seems at first - out of the hundreds of replies I managed to feel comfortable enough with only a couple of people.
Then once you have cleared your backlog, you can either meet up with anyone that is a good match or put your ad back up again for a few days biggrin

Hope this helps a bit. Good luck and hope you find what you're looking for biggrin

Oh, and another way to get to know people without the same sort of pressure is through these forums ..... It's an excellent way to see peoples characters and for them to see yours - so by the time you meet, you will be pretty secure in the fact that you will get on well.

6 Jun 2004

JudyTV, ever the voice of reason!!! kiss

6 Jun 2004

Hello,
Thanks for those of you with the advice....... I've now typed up some general replies and have used them!
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