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19 Apr 2007

well i wasnt expecting anybody to come on here and admit to being a crap parent was i?
seems as if everybody talks about their own curcumstance but neglects to see the bigger picture, that the idea of a family unit has all but vanished, the role of a father is under-valued and yet people still cant fathom why British kids are well and truely off-the-rails.
keep your blinkers on peeps.

19 Apr 2007

Quote by easyease
well i wasnt expecting anybody to come on here and admit to being a crap parent was i?
seems as if everybody talks about their own curcumstance but neglects to see the bigger picture, that the idea of a family unit has all but vanished, the role of a father is under-valued and yet people still cant fathom why British kids are well and truely off-the-rails.
keep your blinkers on peeps.

The bit in italics is a very valid point, but you were blinkered yourself when blaming single mothers! If more men took the father role seriously instead of lumbering women as single parents then we would agree.
Apportion blame equally and you will come to one of the causes!
Cx

19 Apr 2007

Time i had my say i think.
I was raised by my mother, my parents were divorced and i only saw my dad at weekends, it was more my mum that raised me. Being raised by my mum gave me something that i wouldnt have gotten if i was raised by my father, i learnt respect, i respect women, i always have done, I know my dad doesnt and it makes me sick at times. I wasnt a perfect child but that wasnt the fault of my mum, she taught me right and wrong, when i did wrong she punished me for it. It was me who decided when i was going to do wrong, it had nothing to do with my mother not raising me properly.
As for my dad; My dad is sexist and he's homophobic, he spends his time talking down about women and i'm glad i'm not like that. He's convinced i'm gay and he think he couldve brought me up better, i personally dont think he's right.
In edit: Had a bit of trouble getting my point across to be honest

19 Apr 2007

the bigger picture, as mentioned, maybe society itsself...
single mothers may have a bad rep, though that is mainly spread via the media... and not that many of us have a good word to say about that do we?
I've known a few single mums, in various circumstances, and have to say, that not one single one of them has been a bad'un.... not one.
but back to the lead toys in the cereal of a morning, never did me any harm t w i t c h !
lp

19 Apr 2007

I did say "most" and not "all" single mothers are shit and i wasnt insinuating any single mothers on this site are doing a bad job.
of course the blame also goes to Fathers who run away from their children, I detest that kind of man. Truth is there are a lot of women who dont want to include the father in their childrens life, and that is even more despicable.
Yep im bitter and twisted and have a jaded view of life but im honest. flame me all you like. hehe.

19 Apr 2007

Quote by varca
well i wasnt expecting anybody to come on here and admit to being a crap parent was i?
seems as if everybody talks about their own curcumstance but neglects to see the bigger picture, that the idea of a family unit has all but vanished, the role of a father is under-valued and yet people still cant fathom why British kids are well and truely off-the-rails.
keep your blinkers on peeps.

I do believe you have side stepped my question Easyease. You have just read solid examples of how family units sens a father figure have admirably reared their children so would you please qualify your words smile

look at that nice little graph and noticethis quote, "David Green, director of the Institute for the Study of Civil Society, told BBC Radio 4's Today programme: "If you take almost any measure - how well children do in school, whether they turn to crime, whether they commit suicide, etc - it's better to have two parents.
"It's also the biggest disadvantage of lone parenthood that you're much more likely to be poor."
poverty turns people to crime, the facts speak for themselves.

19 Apr 2007

Quote by easyease
"It's also the biggest disadvantage of lone parenthood that you're much more likely to be poor."
poverty turns people to crime, the facts speak for themselves.

LMAO .... sorry .... whilst I don't disagree with the first statement that's a big sweeping generalisation in the second.
I bet there are as many rich people commit crimes as well as poor ... their just able to cover their tracks/get away with it better!
Cx

19 Apr 2007

Quote by Calista

"It's also the biggest disadvantage of lone parenthood that you're much more likely to be poor."
poverty turns people to crime, the facts speak for themselves.

LMAO .... sorry .... whilst I don't disagree with the first statement that's a big sweeping generalisation in the second.
I bet there are as many rich people commit crimes as well as poor ... their just able to cover their tracks/get away with it better!
Cx
I agree with Calista here.
Crime is profitable. Its the poor criminals that end up in jail or killed more often than not. Theres money at the top but at the bottom theres little to be found, to be succesful you need to go in with money in order to leave with more.

19 Apr 2007

Quote by easyease

look at that nice little graph and noticethis quote, "David Green, director of the Institute for the Study of Civil Society, told BBC Radio 4's Today programme: "If you take almost any measure - how well children do in school, whether they turn to crime, whether they commit suicide, etc - it's better to have two parents.
"It's also the biggest disadvantage of lone parenthood that you're much more likely to be poor."
poverty turns people to crime, the facts speak for themselves.

Well, whoever this David Green is, that's the biggest load of bollocks I've ever read mad

19 Apr 2007

Quote by Drewxcore
I agree with Calista here.
Crime is profitable. Its the poor criminals that end up in jail or killed more often than not. Theres money at the top but at the bottom theres little to be found, to be succesful you need to go in with money in order to leave with more.

This has gone a bit off topic hasent it confused

Anyway the above part just is not true. A drug dealer if you want will give you your frist load of heroin on the slate and you can sell it for 50% more pay him/her back and you are already 50% in profit. Then its easy you buy more at more of a mark up cus your buying in bulk and make bigger and bigger profit. Thain thing is not to take it personally thats where the money goes down the drain. There were a series of 4 programs on BBC 2 about this a few years back, think it coverd Crack and heroin, Cannabis E's. Its a remarkably easy high profit low risk enterprise if you do it right. The punishment if you are caught of course can be severe then sometimes not all depends on the circumstances at the time.
I am no condoning this behaviour in anyway just pointing out the facts.

19 Apr 2007

Quote by easyease
poverty turns people to crime, the facts speak for themselves.

in his best Gran from Katherine Tate show
"What a load of shit!"

19 Apr 2007

soooo true
my sister was mortified cos the kids were playing in the back street and it was mucky
its a back street ffs its gonna be mucky
we grew up playing there and we havent died of some mad disease or summit
Earthy xx

19 Apr 2007

ffs woo :shock:
see wot u'v started :fuckinghell:
am an 80's child ere an got 2 say done the same as most ppl played football,out on my bike,hide an seek the joys of growing up i suppose!
but he one thing i have noticed is theres no playing anymore its hanging about being wee pains in the ass's now mad

wheres the days of the hole street out playing rounders an such confused

: our hole street would be out on a summers sat nite young an old just having sum plan old fun together now if u go out on a sat nite its :sparring: before u even get 2 ur car sad i no but ture!
maybe its up 2 us 2 change this like they way our children are being brought up i.e ps2's xbox's an so on lets get back 2 the hide an seek coz nobodys ever beating me at that :thumbup:
anyway thats my 2 pence worth blink

19 Apr 2007

I was a child of the 70's - Daves older :twisted:
I remember.......................
Cow tipping and getting away with it cos i could run faster than the farmer
Climbing along a hawthorn hedge and not being bothered about being shredded by the thorns
taking a bottle of pop and bag of crisps and disappearing for the whole day to play in the stream catching nasty slimy things for my Mum
beating my brother up (hes bigger than me now)
Weve loads of parks close and live near the fields and coutryside, although, parts of the town are a no go area but im sure that was the same when we were kids. Things dont change that much we either dont see it cos we're wrapped in our own worlds or we only hear the worst via the media.
Live life to the full - but live it good rolleyes

Jane x