My hubby and I were talking about relationships and what keeps them going so long, we have been together for 28 years. I for one until venturing into this lifestyle have never strayed. My hubby has had a one off fling in the past.
We feel after trying this lifestyle has enhanced our relationship, the feelings we have for each other by sharing this haven’t changed.
The reason we decided to play was for me to be able to have the chance of experiencing other men.
Is this so wrong?
So I for one don’t need to stray, I have a loving husband and have never felt the need to. Also now I can have my cake and eat it so to speak.
We feel most people would have had fantasies about people outside of their relationship, but would be too scared to mention it without the other party feeling that they are no longer enough and feel threatened.
We feel we have all been programmed to believe if you have sex outside of marriage it is the ultimate sin.
But is it?
Could Monogamy be the one of the key factors why relationships break down?
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Could Monogamy be a key factor why relationships break down?
Quote by DeeCee
definately...
i just dont think we are genetically pre-programmed to have just one long term partner
I think my parents generation and their parents generation would def not agree.
You have to work at a relationship and at times it is bloody hard. People nowaday are way too quick to walk away, hence the divorce rates.
Maybe you are lucky minxy as a lot of women who's husbands were to stray, would show them the door, just like my ex did.
There is nothing wrong with having fantasies but a lot of people just would not understand this lifestyle at all. The thought of sharing your partner sexually with someone else, would be frowned upon by most.
We all have to do what we feel is ok for us and as long as both partners agree, dont see a problem.
Sex God
Quote by Theladyisaminx
Could Monogamy be the one of the key factors why relationships break down?
Yes, but so could lots of other things. Oh, and swinging doesn't necessarily mean that people won't stray.
Quote by Freckledbird
Could Monogamy be the one of the key factors why relationships break down?
Yes, but so could lots of other things. Oh, and swinging doesn't necessarily mean that people won't stray.
That is so true FB.
We used to go to Skinnydippers for a number of years, and the hosts had been doing parties for years.
He once said to me that he has lost count of the number of couples who have split up and one of the reasons was, one person went off with someone they had been swinging with.
We all or should know the dangers of this lifestyle.
Personally I think swinging can save or break a relationship. It can give either side a chance to explore together or alone other people but with the knowledge it's acceptable.
But, unfortunately I'm sure that in swinging two people might meet and click and.......
In the main, yes it probably saves a lot of relationships.
But, unfortunately I'm sure that in swinging two people might meet and click and.......
In the main, yes it probably saves a lot of relationships.
I take my hat off to people who only have one sexual partner for 15 odd years. Genetically, both men and women are made to spread their genes. This means reproducing with different people to ensure producing strong offspring. Unfortunately, in our society, we are made to feel guilty for wanting to do this! Again..I think it's special if people are happy with one partner for years...but it it is a hard thing for many to achieve!!
When Morbius and I got together we very quickly agreed that, as we were coming out of long term relationships we wanted to fool around a bit before settling again, but we also wanted to be with each other!! Case of wanting your cake and eating it LOL
We agreed to be open and honest about it and do as we desired, which lead neatly into the swinging. We have played as singles and as a couple and we're upfront about our encounters.
We've been together almost 13 years and married almost 10. We really think that our decision to have an open relationship made us as strong as we are. Had we both have committed immediately we would possibly not be in this situation due to both our urges to be free sexually.
Swinging gives us the freedom to explore our desire without putting the other partner under pressure to conform, it adds variety to our lives, it also forced us to be open, entirely honest and to communicate with each other. We don't need to sneak around like other married people looking for kicks! We can encourage each other openly, explore different aspects of our sexuality, enhance our love lives and so I think all this adds to our marriage!
I doubt either of us could live in a monogamous relationship .. it seems so restrictive and suffocating in some respects.
We agreed to be open and honest about it and do as we desired, which lead neatly into the swinging. We have played as singles and as a couple and we're upfront about our encounters.
We've been together almost 13 years and married almost 10. We really think that our decision to have an open relationship made us as strong as we are. Had we both have committed immediately we would possibly not be in this situation due to both our urges to be free sexually.
Swinging gives us the freedom to explore our desire without putting the other partner under pressure to conform, it adds variety to our lives, it also forced us to be open, entirely honest and to communicate with each other. We don't need to sneak around like other married people looking for kicks! We can encourage each other openly, explore different aspects of our sexuality, enhance our love lives and so I think all this adds to our marriage!
I doubt either of us could live in a monogamous relationship .. it seems so restrictive and suffocating in some respects.
Sex God
Quote by winchwench
Yes, but I think monotony is a bigger culprit. :thumbup:
Ooooh, good point well made!
Quote by DeeCee
definately...
i just dont think we are genetically pre-programmed to have just one long term partner
oops.... that seems to have come out wrong......i not only said something that i didnt mean( because i used to many words... i also didnt use enough wrods to say exactly how i see it. here goes ( if anyone is still reading).... heheheheh
what i meant to say was....
i definately believe it is one of the factors.
as humans we are not genetically programmed to stick with just one life partner...
you crack me up, you really do