Just posted on a thread which got me wondering!
If someone hurt you in anyway, with the spoken word!
If you have been bullied!
Let down by a friend or family member!
Or been cheated on!
Could you forgive?
Could you forget?
Isnt this the biggest strength within ourselves?
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Could you forgive and forget?
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Master of Sex
I've been on the receiving end of all the above. I often forgive but rarely forget. More often than not, I end up 'internalising' things and blaming myself in some way :shock: ... is there a shrink in the house?? 
Sex God
I was bullied at school by a lad who funnily enough in the last cpl of month i've ended up chatting to and having a laugh with. He's said he's sorry and we have both grown up since then.
So yes, i'd say i could forgive.. but never forget.
So yes, i'd say i could forgive.. but never forget.
I have been on the receiving end of all of the above.
Most things i can forgive but never forget, but when it comes down to a loved one cheating or hurting me i cant! The worst is when they turn it all around on you saying that they only cheated as they thought you were,I guess they didnt trust me enough or take my word for it, or they listened to the wrong person instead of me, as i wasnt playing around.....didnt feel the need seeing as we were swingers anyway. The accusations that came thick and fast off him were to hide the fact that he was playing away and to make him feel less guilty. Shame on him, he has to live with the fact as we have spoken since and he is very sorry and now believes me when i say i didnt play around on him, but i cant truly forgive him altho i wish i could.
It makes life hard not being able to trust and as i have gone into a new relationship his trust has now got to be earned instead of me giving it freely to him.
Life has its ups and downs and i will always have a few scraped knees
along the way but shame on the people who think that they can do this!!!
Chesty
xxx
Most things i can forgive but never forget, but when it comes down to a loved one cheating or hurting me i cant! The worst is when they turn it all around on you saying that they only cheated as they thought you were,I guess they didnt trust me enough or take my word for it, or they listened to the wrong person instead of me, as i wasnt playing around.....didnt feel the need seeing as we were swingers anyway. The accusations that came thick and fast off him were to hide the fact that he was playing away and to make him feel less guilty. Shame on him, he has to live with the fact as we have spoken since and he is very sorry and now believes me when i say i didnt play around on him, but i cant truly forgive him altho i wish i could.
It makes life hard not being able to trust and as i have gone into a new relationship his trust has now got to be earned instead of me giving it freely to him.
Life has its ups and downs and i will always have a few scraped knees
along the way but shame on the people who think that they can do this!!! Chesty
xxx
Sex God
To forgive is human
to for get divine
I am just human....
sometimes!
to for get divine
I am just human....
sometimes!
mean years ago i was very deeply hurt and my trust was complete taken .have i forgiving them no what i have learnt is not everyone is the same .and if i did not learn to trust again i would have end up one very sad person so my be in away that is forgiveness for me not them . forget no i don't think anyone ever forgets when they feel hurt they just put it to the back of there mind .
Sex God
Quote by welikesinglemen
I'm the sort of person who puts up with loads of poo for a long long time but when i do finally get really pee'd off i can cut the person off who hurt me as if they didnt exhist.
I don't forget or forgive I just move on!
Snap - this time round I put up with less than I probably should - expecting better than is reasonable.
To be honest I don't know what forgiveness is.
Does it mean that what they did was ok? Not in my case (ex-husband not cyber hubby btw).
Does it mean I should be happy they did it? NO!
Does it mean simply not hating them anymore? I never hated him, I was hurt by him.
Does it mean it just doesn't hurt anymore? Hurt heals like a wound does, doesn't mean the harm wasn't done and hasn't left a scar.
Sex God
depends what the crime is..and more to the point the motive..
Warming the Bed
Quote by Whipsnspurs
i can't say that i have forgiven as such, just moved on.
I think that's how i feel about a lot of stuff.
There are some people who have my unconditional love and who i couldnt not forgive even if i tried!
Everyone else, if you've done something unforgivable then i wont build a huge grudge against you - i'll get on with my life as normal but emotionally i've cut u out and you wont be a beneficiary of the love i have to give.
Ooo, that sounds a bit deep for me - think i'll go and have a lie down now ! :lol2:
Trix xx
It depends on your personality. If you have a forgiving nature you can more or less move on very easily. My dad was the most unforgiving person ever, he wouldn't forgive or forget if you ate his last role ffs, he was a tyrant of a man.
Me however, I'm a very forgiving person or maybe it's just I accept things and move on? I've had to be it's the only way I can move forward as a person. I rarely forget and I don't think there's many of us that do to be honest.
Me however, I'm a very forgiving person or maybe it's just I accept things and move on? I've had to be it's the only way I can move forward as a person. I rarely forget and I don't think there's many of us that do to be honest.
Quote by Whipsnspurs
my mum was an absolute cow as i grew up. one of her fave sayings was 'i forgive you but i won't forget!' the trouble was that that was for the smallest thing and most of the time for something i hadn't done in the first place. when i needed her the most she ignored it.
Yep my dad too!... I swore then I wouldn't use that phrase with my kids and haven't to date.
Some great answers here, I think there are some people in life that we can always forgive because as one said we give unconditional love to some.
Forgiveness as I see it is having the ability to understand the movies behind the action it still doesn’t make it right, but gives you the ability to move on.
One said a friend hurt is worse than a family members I think this is true, as we pick our friends we can’t pick our family.
Forget I find hard because good times and bad are the memories that stick the most.
But one mentioned revenge that I could never do as I feel it is always there eating away, doesn’t that feeling in life make us bitter, and spoil the rest of our lives?
Forgiveness as I see it is having the ability to understand the movies behind the action it still doesn’t make it right, but gives you the ability to move on.
One said a friend hurt is worse than a family members I think this is true, as we pick our friends we can’t pick our family.
Forget I find hard because good times and bad are the memories that stick the most.
But one mentioned revenge that I could never do as I feel it is always there eating away, doesn’t that feeling in life make us bitter, and spoil the rest of our lives?
Sex God
Forgive yes, forget no 
It's the same as happy memories, you never forget them.
It's the same as happy memories, you never forget them. Sex God
Im very forgiving, some would say Im a 'soft touch' but I only forgive once and I never ever forget!
Sex God
Forgive............No
Forget.............No
Forget.............No
Sex God
Quote by Mistress_39
Im a Scorpio and into S&M - so what is forgiveness????
I guess Im not a 'typical' Scorpio then
