Hello i would like to think that this post will get as many replies as my last!? proably wishfull thinking!
I am part of a couple it is me that wants to have sex with a fem, so why is so hard for me to find a female especially as they havce their own catogory? and why do they advertise if they dont reply? anyone any ideas what im doing wrong? perhaps it because i want to verify them? or because im very blunt and say what i want? anyone else had trouble like this?
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Hello i would like to think that this post will get as many replies as my last!? proably wishfull thinking!
I am part of a couple it is me that wants to have sex with a fem, so why is so hard for me to find a female especially as they havce their own catogory? and why do they advertise if they dont reply? anyone any ideas what im doing wrong? perhaps it because i want to verify them? or because im very blunt and say what i want? anyone else had trouble like this?
Jane xx
Hi Jane
There are so many variables as to why you may or may not get replies to your post's looking for single bi-females.
SBF's are in the enviable position of being able to pick and choose.
What do you guys do to make yourselves attactive to them?
What lengths do you go to to show them that you are genuine?
You also need to bear in mind that some of those ads you are replying to are likely to be fakes posing in order to get pics sent to them - if you are being very upfront about verification then they wont get back to you and unfortunately you wont know why!
Dxxx
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same here.i mainly started swinging to "discover my bi side". never got a sniff with single bi fems, which i can understand looking at the reasons Surry couple im a confirmed cockaholic now , so alls well that ends well 
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same here.i mainly started swinging to "discover my bi side". never got a sniff with single bi fems, which i can understand looking at the reasons Surry couple im a confirmed cockaholic now , so alls well that ends well
Whay hey guys - she's been saved from the dark side!!!
Sex God
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same here.i mainly started swinging to "discover my bi side". never got a sniff with single bi fems, which i can understand looking at the reasons Surry couple im a confirmed cockaholic now , so alls well that ends well
Whay hey guys - she's been saved from the dark side!!!
OH I STILL DABBLE WITH "THE DARK SIDE"NOW N AGAIN!ats all about ballance,,ying n yang etc :D Quote by hornyred and dino
i mainly started swinging to "discover my bi side". never got a sniff with single bi fems, which i can understand looking at the reasons Surry couple posted
Thing I do is try to put myself in the shoes of the people I am contacting and ask myself what are they really looking for??
And then I ask myself 'Do I/we match up to what they are looking for?'
If its reasonably close I'll contact.
Doesnt always work!!!
Dxxx
I am not supposed ot be in here!! I am supposed to be in bed!!!! (poorly bunny 
) Just came on to see if a PM i sent got read. But.....HAD to asnwer this!!!
I am a bi-fem looking for couples - and here's my story.
Day one - post an ad. Day 1 1/2 get about twenty replies.
Remove the 15 single males and I am still left with five couples.
And this pretty much continues with at least one or more couples contacting me every day.
Some send photos, tell me a bit about themselves and tell me their ad number on SH (and if they are in the forum - who they are in the forum). Those are the ones I look at first.
But I'm not looking for twenty odd couples!!! As nice as most of them come across - I do have to say no to some.
I do try and reply to all ads I get. If I dont' think enough info has been given - I will ask questions. I'l ask for the ad number. I'll ask for a photo. If I think you're a bit far away or a bit close even - I'll say. But I have to admit that I have stopped answering e-mails that say "My wife wants you to f&*k her and I want to watch then f&*k you while she takes photos". They go straight in the delete bin.
The main thing for me when looking for a couple is attraction - both mental and physical - and I need to feel safe and respected. I have just had to pull out of meeting a couple tomight becuase I am unwell. Fortunately I have met them before and they totally understand. That's one of the reasons why I will continue to meet with them as long as they want to continue to meet with me. They haev enough respect for me to know that if I have said I can't meet - I'm geniune.
Rambling on a bit here - but we DO exist. We aren't all time wasters. But we do also have to say no sometimes purely becuase of the numebrs of people we get contacting us.
Don't give up please!!!!
Oh yes - another thing - the replies that appeal to me the most immediately are those written and sent by the fem.
) Just came on to see if a PM i sent got read. But.....HAD to asnwer this!!!I am a bi-fem looking for couples - and here's my story.
Day one - post an ad. Day 1 1/2 get about twenty replies.
Remove the 15 single males and I am still left with five couples.
And this pretty much continues with at least one or more couples contacting me every day.
Some send photos, tell me a bit about themselves and tell me their ad number on SH (and if they are in the forum - who they are in the forum). Those are the ones I look at first.
But I'm not looking for twenty odd couples!!! As nice as most of them come across - I do have to say no to some.
I do try and reply to all ads I get. If I dont' think enough info has been given - I will ask questions. I'l ask for the ad number. I'll ask for a photo. If I think you're a bit far away or a bit close even - I'll say. But I have to admit that I have stopped answering e-mails that say "My wife wants you to f&*k her and I want to watch then f&*k you while she takes photos". They go straight in the delete bin.
The main thing for me when looking for a couple is attraction - both mental and physical - and I need to feel safe and respected. I have just had to pull out of meeting a couple tomight becuase I am unwell. Fortunately I have met them before and they totally understand. That's one of the reasons why I will continue to meet with them as long as they want to continue to meet with me. They haev enough respect for me to know that if I have said I can't meet - I'm geniune.
Rambling on a bit here - but we DO exist. We aren't all time wasters. But we do also have to say no sometimes purely becuase of the numebrs of people we get contacting us.
Don't give up please!!!!
Oh yes - another thing - the replies that appeal to me the most immediately are those written and sent by the fem.
Orgasminator
Rainbows if i was a couple id let you shag the missus mwah
Sorry babes had to be done :D
Sorry babes had to be done :D
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Rainbows if i was a couple id let you shag the missus mwah
If I wasn't soo poorly I'd smak your bum!!!
I just typed all this out and lost it!!!! so here goes again.
Iwanttomuch - I just looked at your ad - and I have to say that as a single VERY bi woman - I would probably shy away from you a bit if you e-mailed me - which you wouldn't anway 'cos I'm a size 12 and you're definitely looking for smaller than that!!
At the risk of being beaten over the head my reasons are this:
You specifically state that you don't want to spend ANY time getting to know the person. You just want sex - now. Well - nothin wrong with that - but
a) I'm not a machine. I can't go down on someone I don't at least have some attraction to. And how am I going to find out if there is any attraction? I NEVER have sex on a first meet. A first meet is exactly that - a "meet".
b) If you don't want to take any time to get to know me - how are you going to allay my fears that you aren't a bloke? Oh yes - I can give you my mobile numebr and you'll phone me. Hmmm - how do i know I won't get an abusive bloke phoning me everyminute of the day and night till I have to change my number? Trust me - it has happened. I DO give my number out becuase I won't meet without a chat first - but only when I feel comfortabel enough to give it out.
I am a single woman. I'm pretty vulnerable. I have to do whatever I can to ensure my own safety. I also want to be respected. Not just treated like an object. You ad, unfortunately, doesn't make me feel respected - and tells me in no uncertain terms that I am not going to be given the chance to feel comfortable.
I would like to make it very clear that these are just my own observations as s single woman.
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I am a single woman. I'm pretty vulnerable. I have to do whatever I can to ensure my own safety
Rainbows, you are absolutely right. If anybody does not respect this then it would sound like dodgy ground and a single fem shouldn't want to go there.
Even as a male, when I was playing, I would only meet people in a social background at first. If I felt threatened then I could walk away. In this day and age safety should be the priority. Anybody that does not respect this should be avoided (my thoughts anyway).
Dave_Notts
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Rainbows if i was a couple id let you shag the missus mwah
If I wasn't soo poorly I'd smak your bum!!!
I just typed all this out and lost it!!!! so here goes again.
Iwanttomuch - I just looked at your ad - and I have to say that as a single VERY bi woman - I would probably shy away from you a bit if you e-mailed me - which you wouldn't anway 'cos I'm a size 12 and you're definitely looking for smaller than that!!
At the risk of being beaten over the head my reasons are this:
You specifically state that you don't want to spend ANY time getting to know the person. You just want sex - now. Well - nothin wrong with that - but
a) I'm not a machine. I can't go down on someone I don't at least have some attraction to. And how am I going to find out if there is any attraction? I NEVER have sex on a first meet. A first meet is exactly that - a "meet".
b) If you don't want to take any time to get to know me - how are you going to allay my fears that you aren't a bloke? Oh yes - I can give you my mobile numebr and you'll phone me. Hmmm - how do i know I won't get an abusive bloke phoning me everyminute of the day and night till I have to change my number? Trust me - it has happened. I DO give my number out becuase I won't meet without a chat first - but only when I feel comfortabel enough to give it out.
I am a single woman. I'm pretty vulnerable. I have to do whatever I can to ensure my own safety. I also want to be respected. Not just treated like an object. You ad, unfortunately, doesn't make me feel respected - and tells me in no uncertain terms that I am not going to be given the chance to feel comfortable.
I would like to make it very clear that these are just my own observations as s single woman.
very wise words, and from a blonde ...... i'm joking on that one... i can feel the knives getting thrown at me!!!!!
JGL cowers for the next 6 weeks.....
xxxxx
JGL
Quote by Rainbows
- I just looked at your ad - and I have to say that as a single VERY bi woman - I would probably shy away from you a bit if you e-mailed me - which you wouldn't anway 'cos I'm a size 12 and you're definitely looking for smaller than that!!
At the risk of being beaten over the head my reasons are this:
You specifically state that you don't want to spend ANY time getting to know the person. You just want sex - now. Well - nothin wrong with that - but
a) I'm not a machine. I can't go down on someone I don't at least have some attraction to. And how am I going to find out if there is any attraction? I NEVER have sex on a first meet. A first meet is exactly that - a "meet".
b) If you don't want to take any time to get to know me - how are you going to allay my fears that you aren't a bloke? Oh yes - I can give you my mobile numebr and you'll phone me. Hmmm - how do i know I won't get an abusive bloke phoning me everyminute of the day and night till I have to change my number? Trust me - it has happened. I DO give my number out becuase I won't meet without a chat first - but only when I feel comfortabel enough to give it out.
I am a single woman. I'm pretty vulnerable. I have to do whatever I can to ensure my own safety. I also want to be respected. Not just treated like an object. You ad, unfortunately, doesn't make me feel respected - and tells me in no uncertain terms that I am not going to be given the chance to feel comfortable.
I have to agree with everything that has been said there.
To be honest if I hadnt followedthe thread from the beginning I would have assumed your comments were in reply to a single guy - certainly not a couple ........
My usual reply to the 'want sex now - not bothered if you feel comfortable' brigade is to advise them to look through their local paper under the 'Escorts' section ............ that way they can be very specific about their requirements !
Lucy xx
Sex God
Quote by Rainbows
Iwanttomuch - I just looked at your ad - and I have to say that as a single VERY bi woman - I would probably shy away from you a bit if you e-mailed me - which you wouldn't anway 'cos I'm a size 12 and you're definitely looking for smaller than that!!
At the risk of being beaten over the head my reasons are this:
You specifically state that you don't want to spend ANY time getting to know the person. You just want sex - now. Well - nothin wrong with that - but
a) I'm not a machine. I can't go down on someone I don't at least have some attraction to. And how am I going to find out if there is any attraction? I NEVER have sex on a first meet. A first meet is exactly that - a "meet".
b) If you don't want to take any time to get to know me - how are you going to allay my fears that you aren't a bloke? Oh yes - I can give you my mobile numebr and you'll phone me. Hmmm - how do i know I won't get an abusive bloke phoning me everyminute of the day and night till I have to change my number? Trust me - it has happened. I DO give my number out becuase I won't meet without a chat first - but only when I feel comfortabel enough to give it out.
I am a single woman. I'm pretty vulnerable. I have to do whatever I can to ensure my own safety. I also want to be respected. Not just treated like an object. You ad, unfortunately, doesn't make me feel respected - and tells me in no uncertain terms that I am not going to be given the chance to feel comfortable.
I would like to make it very clear that these are just my own observations as s single woman.
I applaud you rainbows, well said babe. I didn't meet couples as a single female as the one couple I did meet made me feel very threatened ( we had met sociallly beforehand, spoke on the phone etc too)
though saying that there are some couples that I have got to know online over the last couppe of years that I would meet as I feel confident and secure with them.
The meeting only for sex thing isn't why I started swinging and would put me off too.