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Hello all of you sexy couples out there,how are you? So it is me,new user name and new attitude(but still dancing he he)as all of you know that the odds are 1 couple to 160 singles males,mean the real single ones( not counting the married guys who pretending be single and the time-wasters)so you got plenty of fish in the sea to catch! I don't know if any single guy made this topic before,but am sure that will helping a lots of single males lost here,to find a way to get some attention and stand out from the massive crowd here or anywhere in the swinging world! The question is: what make you to choose a single guy?Mean that is the looks? Personality? Being local? Big cocks? Nice clear face or cock pictures? Good manners? Please don't hold back and say why and how you pick up that single one when you got lots of choices!Will be back here to read the updates and by the way i do read all adverts and profiles twice from top to the bottom as English isn't my first language,so must read that twice to make sure will understand the all thing, thanks and please leave a comment!
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Welcome back wave
Can you upload all of your photos again as they all have the previous name on the watermark.
Have to admit, for not your first language you make a real good attempt :thumbup:
Dave_Notts
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Quote by Fun_Laughs
The question is: what make you to choose a single guy?
Mean that is the looks?
Personality?
Being local?
Nice clear face pictures?
Good manners?

Yes to all of the above at times so not too sure I am helping
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Big cocks?

No, I'd never pick someone on the size of a cock. I play with a whole person and not just a cock I guess confused
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Big cocks?

No.
Phew...........I'm still in with a chance then lol
Dave_Notts
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I have to say, for me at the moment it's the following (in this order)
1) Looks (good clear face pics)
2) Local
3) Personality
I have to say however, i'm not being particularly successful with this at the moment. 2 meets lined up today and both cancelled on me. Genuine reasons, i'm sure, but goes to show it's not just single males that have the problems!
I can't give it away at the moment :sad:
*Her*
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For me, whether I've been looking as a single, or when I'm looking as part of a couple, I go for the following:
1)Looks. (Not the be all and end all but I'm honest enough to say there has to be something that catches my eye)
2)Personality. If you can make me laugh and also have the ability to engage in a decent conversation then you will capture my imagination. Once you've done that beware! :twisted:
3)I only meet people who genuinely want to meet 'me' rather than someone who's just looking for a meet regardless of who it's with. You see this scatter gun approach so often in the chatrooms and for me there's no bigger turn off.
4)Location. There are exceptions to this rule, I'm only human and a hottie's a hottie, but generally I'd only look to meet people who are fairly local. I have found the more miles that are covered the greater the expectation there is for something to happen.
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I have to say, for me at the moment it's the following (in this order)
1) Looks (good clear face pics)
2) Local
3) Personality
I have to say however, i'm not being particularly successful with this at the moment. 2 meets lined up today and both cancelled on me. Genuine reasons, i'm sure, but goes to show it's not just single males that have the problems!
I can't give it away at the moment :sad:
*Her*

If you change your preferences to:
1) Short
2) Fat
3) Bald
I am your man lol
Dave_Notts
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Quote by Dave__Notts
I have to say, for me at the moment it's the following (in this order)
1) Looks (good clear face pics)
2) Local
3) Personality
I have to say however, i'm not being particularly successful with this at the moment. 2 meets lined up today and both cancelled on me. Genuine reasons, i'm sure, but goes to show it's not just single males that have the problems!
I can't give it away at the moment :sad:
*Her*

If you change your preferences to:
1) Short
2) Fat
3) Bald
I am your man lol
Dave_Notts
Dave rotflmao
And a kiss for making me smile on a particularly depressing evening
*Her*
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Hi thanks for all of you and please keep going, thanks Dave for making some members smile here and oh am sorry for that couple who the meets has been cancelled,am sure that you going to get some fun anyway,please leave more comments!
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In no particular order we always look for the following on a profile
1. Location - lets face it not many ppl will travel 100's miles for a meet which may or may not result in sexual fun - so we tend to say if you can't get here by car in 2 hours you're probably not gonna get here at all
2. Looks - we know it's superficial and not politically correct but as we all know there has to be a physical attraction and face pic (in yyour profile or some other way is essential - cock pic isn't)
3. Personality - if you can make us laugh, or generate some interest then we can chat more and laugh more, & we'll become more interested, and before you know it we'll be having a real fun sexy time - on the other hand if your a miserable one grunt and fek me now kinda guy you've no chance
And by the way
there's nothing at all wrong with your profile - it's tip-top
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For me, whether I've been looking as a single, or when I'm looking as part of a couple, I go for the following:
1)Looks. (Not the be all and end all but I'm honest enough to say there has to be something that catches my eye)
2)Personality. If you can make me laugh and also have the ability to engage in a decent conversation then you will capture my imagination. Once you've done that beware! :twisted:
3)I only meet people who genuinely want to meet 'me' rather than someone who's just looking for a meet regardless of who it's with. You see this scatter gun approach so often in the chatrooms and for me there's no bigger turn off.
4)Location. There are exceptions to this rule, I'm only human and a hottie's a hottie, but generally I'd only look to meet people who are fairly local. I have found the more miles that are covered the greater the expectation there is for something to happen.

*Gives up on mids and moves on*
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The subject of introducing a single male into our playtime has been a serious discussion point between Lily and I. We looked at our experiences with single males on the scene, not just how they were with us but how they acted with our friends, their behaviour at clubs, parties and their online attitude when we used to accept mail from them. Pretty much all our recollections were negative. After weighing up our options we decided that adding a lone male to our relationship was unecessary on account that I am fucking awesome at everything.
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The subject of introducing a single male into our playtime has been a serious discussion point between Lily and I. We looked at our experiences with single males on the scene, not just how they were with us but how they acted with our friends, their behaviour at clubs, parties and their online attitude when we used to accept mail from them. Pretty much all our recollections were negative. After weighing up our options we decided that adding a lone male to our relationship was unecessary on account that I am fucking awesome at everything.

:laughabove: Mike the Awesome!!!!! worship
I'll remember that. lol
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seen u been here 3 months...have u been to a social or a munch yet? good way to meet peeps and see whos who.
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.... After weighing up our options we decided that adding a lone male to our relationship was unecessary on account that I am fucking awesome at everything.

rotflmao
Mike, meet brucie ;-)
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seen u been here 3 months...have u been to a social or a munch yet? good way to meet peeps and see whos who.

Hello twos company,thanks for the comment, so never been yet in any social or munch, am going to Coventry social and try to make some friends there, am really outgoing and as you know,not shy, so thanks for that and it is a good idea! All the best twos company!
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Quote by Mike2mike
The subject of introducing a single male into our playtime has been a serious discussion point between Lily and I. We looked at our experiences with single males on the scene, not just how they were with us but how they acted with our friends, their behaviour at clubs, parties and their online attitude when we used to accept mail from them. Pretty much all our recollections were negative. After weighing up our options we decided that adding a lone male to our relationship was unecessary on account that I am fucking awesome at everything.

Mike, every time you post I want to meet you more! :giggle:
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I've approached single guys as part of a couple and as an individual. Cock and genitalia shots do absolutely nothing for me - the assumption that you have one is good enough - but brains over balls any day of the week. A well written profile, something interesting to say which conveys personality wins hands down over the ubiquitous 'vwe, heavy repeat cummer with 12" cock and massive girth'. If the latter's on your profile, it's highly unlikely I'll contact you.
Sure looks play their part, but I'm far more likely to extend an invitation to John Cleese or Clive James than I am to David Beckham or Brad Pitt. (I know, it's a little strange, but I'm not Scarlet Johannson either!)
It's the same if I'm approached. Tell me what an erotic time I'm going to have, paint me a little porno scenario, or tell me you'll lick me til I cum... sorry, it's goodnight Vienna! Make me laugh, intrigue me, show me a glimpse of the human being, and you'll probably turn me on like a light switch and the colour is amber. Meet me for a drink, and it could go to green.
In essence, don't treat me like a blow up doll or a sex slave in your approach.
There! Rant over! Not demanding or frustrated in the least!rolleyes
Sappho xxx
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I've approached single guys as part of a couple and as an individual. Cock and genitalia shots do absolutely nothing for me - the assumption that you have one is good enough - but brains over balls any day of the week. A well written profile, something interesting to say which conveys personality wins hands down over the ubiquitous 'vwe, heavy repeat cummer with 12" cock and massive girth'. If the latter's on your profile, it's highly unlikely I'll contact you.
Sure looks play their part, but I'm far more likely to extend an invitation to John Cleese or Clive James than I am to David Beckham or Brad Pitt. (I know, it's a little strange, but I'm not Scarlet Johannson either!)
It's the same if I'm approached. Tell me what an erotic time I'm going to have, paint me a little porno scenario, or tell me you'll lick me til I cum... sorry, it's goodnight Vienna! Make me laugh, intrigue me, show me a glimpse of the human being, and you'll probably turn me on like a light switch and the colour is amber. Meet me for a drink, and it could go to green.
In essence, don't treat me like a blow up doll or a sex slave in your approach.
There! Rant over! Not demanding or frustrated in the least!rolleyes
Sappho xxx

Great post :thumbup:
OK, now I get why/how you and Will found one another... a match made in Heaven methinks (aside from his 13" of course cock) ;) x
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Quote by Sappho
I've approached single guys as part of a couple and as an individual. Cock and genitalia shots do absolutely nothing for me - the assumption that you have one is good enough - but brains over balls any day of the week. A well written profile, something interesting to say which conveys personality wins hands down over the ubiquitous 'vwe, heavy repeat cummer with 12" cock and massive girth'. If the latter's on your profile, it's highly unlikely I'll contact you.
Sure looks play their part, but I'm far more likely to extend an invitation to John Cleese or Clive James than I am to David Beckham or Brad Pitt. (I know, it's a little strange, but I'm not Scarlet Johannson either!)
It's the same if I'm approached. Tell me what an erotic time I'm going to have, paint me a little porno scenario, or tell me you'll lick me til I cum... sorry, it's goodnight Vienna! Make me laugh, intrigue me, show me a glimpse of the human being, and you'll probably turn me on like a light switch and the colour is amber. Meet me for a drink, and it could go to green.
In essence, don't treat me like a blow up doll or a sex slave in your approach.
There! Rant over! Not demanding or frustrated in the least!rolleyes
Sappho xxx

Alas not everyone is like you unfortunately Sappho :-(
Recently I have sent 32 messages to different ladies/couples ....
All of them personal to their own profiles and none of them smutty or sexually suggestive...
Not one reply received......Not so much as a "you got no chance fatty"
May as well give up :-(
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I'd wager 50% of them ain't couples or single females mate so that takes it down to 16! ;-) Seriously, there' SO much masquerading going on here nowadays it's crazy!
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I'd wager 50% of them ain't couples or single females mate so that takes it down to 16! ;-) Seriously, there' SO much masquerading going on here nowadays it's crazy!

And so much ignorance ...
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We often neglect replying to messages sent to us for many reasons, most often the sender clearly has not read our profile and often does not meet our criteria.
Some are pushy, some are rude, many with no pictures uploaded.
We like to exchange several messages before we meet, this was a response to a message recently, for a meet we hopped for last night; Located in Poole can accomm, I don'd do message or email tennis as genuine people shouldn't have to. You can call me on 0753......... :twisted: Guess what, we deleted his message. We dolike to exchange several messages through this site before we decide if we wish to disclose our phone number to a stranger.
Luck was on our side as we found a great guy at short notice last night so maybe a blessing in disguise
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Alas not everyone is like you unfortunately Sappho
Recently I have sent 32 messages to different ladies/couples ....
All of them personal to their own profiles and none of them smutty or sexually suggestive...
Not one reply received......Not so much as a "you got no chance fatty"
May as well give up

Steve............one of the major gripes I have heard over the last 12 months, is the lack of meets on here.
We are a couple...Mrs777 is a very horny lady ( alright I am an ugly git lol ) but we struggle to find single guys on here. Most would have thought it was easy, but it ain't.
I can only imagine how difficult it would be IF we were looking for couples to play with.
Don't take it personal matey....it is just the way things are.
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We often neglect replying to messages sent to us for many reasons, most often the sender clearly has not read our profile and often does not meet our criteria.
Some are pushy, some are rude, many with no pictures uploaded.

But as I stated earlier all my messages were personal (and relevant) to their profiles and what they had written...
No smut was involved and there is a picture on my profile and I offered them an invitation to my private gallery should they require it....
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Difficult to answer that one, I suspect many have a group of people they meet and are not looking for anyone new, but forget to update their profiles.
We have regulars but also love to keep meeting new people also.
Kenty does have a point with his last post. We are full members here as we like it here best, but we are free members on anther site, if we put an add on here and one on the other we have a far higher response on the free site. Our uptake on meets resulting from the messages are about the same on each site though.
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Quote by Bluefish2009
Difficult to answer that one, I suspect many have a group of people they meet and are not looking for anyone new, but forget to update their profiles.

It sounds like I'm constantly trying to prove you wrong here but I'm not....Honest :lol2:
I only send messages to profiles that have a current ad on their profile for the very reason you outline...
A profile can become outdated quickly whereas an ad or a forum post is up to date..
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Difficult to answer that one, I suspect many have a group of people they meet and are not looking for anyone new, but forget to update their profiles.

It sounds like I'm constantly trying to prove you wrong here but I'm not....Honest :lol2:
I only send messages to profiles that have a current ad on their profile for the very reason you outline...
A profile can become outdated quickly whereas an ad or a forum post is up to date..
Clearly they plain rude then Steve
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Steve............one of the major gripes I have heard over the last 12 months, is the lack of meets on here.
We are a couple...Mrs777 is a very horny lady ( alright I am an ugly git lol ) but we struggle to find single guys on here. Most would have thought it was easy, but it ain't.
I can only imagine how difficult it would be IF we were looking for couples to play with.
Don't take it personal matey....it is just the way things are.

OK, now you are the fifth couple in as many weeks as I've heard or seen say this and I'm baffled.. granted the other couples I refer to said 'we struggle to find decent single bi guys..' and told me some horror stories about how meets went, or didn't as the case might be. Including the guy who locked himself in their hotel bathroom all evening and refused to come out confused
The principle of finding decent single guys is the same though.. unless bi guys are better, more decent or more available on here I guess?! I know several and have since made some introductions to said couples. They are all decent, sexy, professional, clean, hung, educated kinda blokes...
I've been trying to work out why said sexy couples couldn't find them and think there are a number of possible reasons maybe:
1) The decent single blokes don't use ads. or Chat to meet, they use reccommendation so no amount of publicity is gonna find them.
2) The couples on here that play 'only if you're worthy' silly power games have given many couples a bad name and the decent single blokes don't bother trying to find them (bad wording here but you get my jist I hope).. instead leaving the tossers to continue to respond to ads. with their cock in their hand at the time and who don't meet the criteria they have laid down.
3) With bi blokes, it's often the male half of the couple that looks for them (security)and their 'what women want' radar isn't as finely tuned as a women or a raver like myself and they overlook important details.
Kents, I agree - your 'Mrs' looks lovely and you are ugly ;) but there are some really shit hot, decent blokes around. We just never hear from or see any of them publicly on here as they are too busy shagging I guess :lol: