Join the most popular community of UK swingers now
Login

Crisis Of Confidence - Help!!

last reply
23 replies
1.1k views
1 watcher
0 likes
I have just started back at uni and for some reason, my confidence has hit an all time low sad I have looked forward to going back to uni all over the summer and getting dug into some mental work.
After two weeks of lectures, the work is piling in, the reading list is as long as my arm, all of which I thought I was prepared for. Obviously not confused I am beginning to doubt myself and my abilities, which is not normally like me.
I have just got over a chest infection and I am back at the docs tomorow because I think it is back, mixed in with colicky pains in my bowel, to say I am not feeling my best is an understatement.
I feel quite tearful and instead of taking everything in my stride, it is starting to bring me down :upset:
I am not asking for anyone's sympathy :violin: and this is certainly not a "poor me" post, I just wondered if anyone else had felt like that?
I must admit I know exactly how you feel.. I was a lot better while I was getting treatment for depression but have had to stop the medication due to being pregnant.. now my hormones are everywhere and everythings getting on top of me. I just feel like I want the world to stop, for me to get off, then get back on again when I've caught up with everything!!!! biggrin
Make sure you take time out for you, its true what they say about all work and no play.
Hope things start looking up xxxxxxx
Everybody feels like that at uni!!! Its part of the course, whichever course. Im not being flippant but its just part of the whole packeage.
The soluction im afraid is just to keep on in there!! When you get your degree youll forget about how you feel now.
In the meantime talk to someone, make sure you eat decent food and think how it will all be worthwhile!!
Good luck
me too alex,i'm at uni and have had work thrown at me from all as you i have a reading list as long as mr tickle's arm and 4 assignments to do :shock: but we are not alone,i have talked with others on my course and we all seem to be having the same panicky feelings,the sick feeling in our stomach that we're out of our depths. So this is a "head up and go get um" message for you.I'm sure that your capable of it otherwise you wouldn't have got onto the luck kiss :rose:
Hi Alex,
I'm no psychologist but it sounds like your a bit run down... maybe you need a bit of time to get back into the routine of Uni life again... and maybe there genuinely is more work to do this time round.
Being run down often means you are a bit stressed so make sure you are eating properly, stay off the booze for a bit (although the odd glass of wine might help relax you) and more importantly get LOTS of rest...
You could also try vitamin supplements to help you... you can't beat Pharmaton although they are a bit expensive... ooh, and try St John's Wort if you're feeling a bit down.
Alternatively you could just ask a total stranger from a website for a long slow massage...er... ahem.
Hope that helps, get better soon kiddo!
Hi Alex,
I wouldn't worry about it too much. My course is bringing me down slightly but I remember feeling this way at the start of last year too. We'll soon get into the swing of things (arf!) and we'll be OK in no time.
James
Hi Alex,
When I was at uni, the best way as to get down the student union bar and have a few drinks with fellow students and talk to them, as we were all in the same boat, and at times we were all fed up, fellow student all helped each other through the down times.
Chin up and hope you feel better soon.
Sarah
Alex hun it definately happens to us all at one time or you feel that your work is getting on top of you at Uni then have a chat to your tutor and just explain a little they may be able to offer some good advice,hope you feel better soon hun kiss
Quote by xxdevil69
I just feel like I want the world to stop, for me to get off, then get back on again when I've caught up with everything!!!!

Yes I know that feeling!!
When is your baby due?
Alex, I certainly felt like that when i started uni and to be honest I don't think it ever stopped, I just got used to it! Keep your tail up and take each day as it comes, you'll be fine I'm sure.
Mrs RSAB2 xxx :angel:
Ditto - everyone.
Don't do what I do - ignore it all till it's too late and then get a proper stress on trying to do 4 weeks work in one weekend.
Everyone's finding it a bit too over-whelming and the trick is - as all the above said - look after yourself, first and foremost - eat well, get plenty of rest and work out a timetable for studying! Remember what they all said to us last year - TIME MANAGEMENT!
Easier said than done, I know, but once you've got some sort of structure to your days generally and especially your work, it seems more manageable.
Good luck, chicken, you know where I am xx
Hi Alex,
I can only imagine what ou are facing, i am only doing a part time college course and that is scary enuff and I had a sinus infection 2 weeks ago and this week I am back on antibiotics with a water infection so I too am feeling crappy - and I take antidepressants too.
All I would suggest is to make sure you get enough rest and try to make time for yourself.
thinking of ya hun and sending you huge hugs
hiya Alex
We all get like this from time to time sweetheart, plus you not being well wont help
try not to stress out take things in their stride concentrate at one thing at a time instead of worrying about it all at once. focus on the thing your doing at that moment and not what you have left to do. You will see it will all come right in the end
Chin up hun
Vicky xxxx
i get that a lot
confused
and if your getting over a chest infection your bound to feel really low and crap
you know what you need when you feel a bit better a bloody good shopping spree with a couple of mad mates
and a new hairdo that makes you feel a million dollers
then even if you dont wanna go go out and dance the night away
Sorry, no advice to give you Alex.
If you need to rant.....er I mean talk....then just pick up the phone and give me a call.
It will be worth it in the end. The one thing that can never be taken from you is your education. Keep on at it and you will complete it. You have the ability to pass this degree.
Dave_Notts xxxxx
Quote by Alex_Female
Yes I know that feeling!!
When is your baby due?

My due date is 14th April (although my luck it will be born on the 1st lol )
Alex its hard when you think you're the only person in the World who's not coping,who's not on top of their game - and you can only do one thing at once.
But,as others have said on this post,it happens to us all.
I always try to remember there is a day ahead,a month,a year,a and bad things will happen in those times ahead - you will endure and enjoy them all and will be the stronger for luck A x
Alex,
Without the poor health aspect, I often felt like things were getting on top of me at university. The coursework would start to pile up & I would wonder how on earth I was ever going to deal with it all. The best way I found was to pick something that wasn't particularly difficult (& due in fairly soon) & do that. Then I could move on to something else. Gradually I would get in to the way of dealing with it.
Ironically I'm currently doing a home study training course which moves along at whatever pace I am comfortable with................ so of course I'm so easily distracted (by this forum!!! :shock: ) & really could do with having some deadlines thrown at me. However I start the practical side next week so that will give me some more incentive.
So chin up girl, get your health right, & then when you are ready get stuck in.
Hi Alex
I was recently at Uni too, and its the second year that gets you, you do the first and thats easy, but the second is where you do all the work, the third if you do a sandwich degree like mine is just work, and the final year is mostly dissertation.
As everyone else says, hang on in there, remember the uni system, they really want you to pass and do their best to help you. Try having a word with your personal tutor too, they have experience and can help.
But best advice I can offer, and I did it myself..... Take one day off a week, a total day off from uni work, it refreshes you, and is wonderful, a group of us did this every week, even had days out visiting other places, trust me, it does work
Very best of luck in your course, and I know you'll do well
Rob x
Hang on in there Alex....it will be okay....
We're here for you if you need us....
Maybe you should forget the old ways we drop into and as suggested just ask for more help? I too struggle with things, when asking often lightens the load. A problem shared is a problem halved. Just read the bits you HAVE to, and take small notes of the really important bits, and read in steps for about 19 to 15 mins NOT hours...it helps, and have set TIMEOUTS....to chill and get some fresh air into your lungs. Any everttime you feel it is too much, look at all the shitty jobs many of us have because we either did not get the chance you did, or just could not hack it. It will all be fine in the wash...but getting somewhere will never be that easy..unless you are royaly...! ( ? )
Chin up girl: it's not going to get better, but, you WILL cope-and that is the all important thing. I returned to Uni in my 30's, without any 'A's and almost twenty years away from education. I had a big family, debts, 1000 sheep, pigs, poultry and goats to look after. I worked from dawn to-well, dawn. I got so angry with all the students who-to my tormented mind-seemed to have it so easy. There were days-lots of them-when I felt so inadequate ,useless and hard done to that I could have lain down and cried. In fact, sometimes I did. I got so incredibly frustrated that there I was, in a seat of learning, and I didn't have time to do anything except scratch the surface. I almost gave up several times.
But, I now realise that although it was hard, it taught me an invaluable lesson. No matter what, I /you will get through. It will make you a stronger and more resilient person. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. For some of us, we aren't able to be the high flyers-we just have to grind out a result and move on. it may not be pretty, but it will be.
I know that employers-and I interview and employ people myself-value a 'battler' way above a 'genius'.
And, having gone through (yet another) sticky time recently, I can tell you that the lessons you learn 'battling' at Uni carry into the heart of your life. Sometimes you have to plot your course and just lash yourself to the mast as all the crap in creation falls on you.
Such is life: once you've accepted that, come to terms with it, you'll find that the sun breaks out.
Good luck: it's all a sick game-don't let 'em win!!!!!
A
Hi Alex!
The same thing happened with me when i started at Uni again last year. Even though i've already gone though a degree a few years ago, when i came back to studying, the work list seemed to be too much.... I even had to leave the first module, to do later in the year
The best thing is not to ignore things, and talk to your tutor, or the lecturers who set the work. they can give advice, and even give extensions. Best to do it now, before it mounts up.
Best thing is that it doesn't last... in a month or so, when you are used to the study, and back in the "mindset" of studying fulltime, the work doesn't seem that bad anymore. Essays get written quickly etc xxx
hope that helps!