Criteria for swinging - Clubs vs Meets

7 Sep 2006

I know we all have different criteria for what we look for in swinging playmates, but I'm interested to know how a person's own criteria changes in different environments, i.e.
Private meets
Clubs
Specifically does the experience of being "horned up" in a club mean you'll participate in some group action with people that you wouldn't necessarily consider a private meet with? dunno

I know myself and dammie have discussed this on a few occassions and had differing views.
I know I have left myself go in "horned up" situations and find myself playing with people I wouldn't actively look for a meet with. I've also enjoyed it and never regretted a minute :twisted:
However, although my criteria may change, there are still situations and people I wouldn't engage in play with - I would be very cheesed off if someone who knew I wasn't interested in playing with, tried it on in a club - to me I would see this as "them trying to take advantage of the situation" (and me).
There are also the practical and safety issues to consider - You may be more selective in those people you would invite to your own home as opposed to meeting at a hotel or in a club
Does your criteria in these situations differ?
Do you and your partner view it differently?
Discuss biggrin

7 Sep 2006

Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
Do you and your partner view it differently?
Discuss

Abolutely !
And . . . . . . vive le differance :thumbup:
kiss

7 Sep 2006

Yep.
I am very fussy about who I arrange to meet (not intentionally - I just am)
I do find myself playing with couples at clubs who I may not have arranged to meet through the site - it is the situation that drives the participation rather than the desire or attraction to the people themselves. (note - this does not mean I find them unattractive)
But as you say - there are still some people I wouldn't want nor allow to join in, no matter how hot and steamy the situation was getting

7 Sep 2006

Quote by PoloLady
Yep.
I am very fussy about who I arrange to meet (not intentionally - I just am)
I do find myself playing with couples at clubs who I may not have arranged to meet through the site - it is the situation that drives the participation rather than the desire or attraction to the people themselves. (note - this does not mean I find them unattractive)
But as you say - there are still some people I wouldn't want nor allow to join in, no matter how hot and steamy the situation was getting

Same here. Although I haven't yet been to a club for this situation to arise, I have had a couple of meets where I've let it go further than I would normally have with that person and in those cases it's because my hormones have got the better of me rather than my desire for that person dictating my actions.
As much as I am choosy who I arrange to meet, I don't see any problem with getting down and dirty if the situation and opportunity arises.

7 Sep 2006

HLB,
Could you clarify, when you say play at clubs with people you would not otherwise wish to. Is that based on looks or because you have not "got to know them"?
While not being obsesive about people we meet being super good looking, we have played with couples at clubs who we would perhaps say "fall outside outside our target zone" (wow, how pc was that?). Thats just because WE were having fun together and the opportunity arose to expand on that.
On the otherhand once you've met up with people and got to know them a bit, then obviously if you meet them again or go further the same night, then thats a reasoned judgement that you find them attractive.
John & Shel

7 Sep 2006

Quote by Geordiecpl2001
"fall outside outside our target zone"

I'm gonna steal that one :giggle:
sounds better than 'sod off you ugly twat' rotflmao

It WAS a joke honest! bolt

7 Sep 2006

Quote by Geordiecpl2001
HLB,
Could you clarify, when you say play at clubs with people you would not otherwise wish to. Is that based on looks or because you have not "got to know them"?

It's more how a person's criteria changes in a club situation than what your criteria actually is.
For me it's a mixture of looks & the confidence I see in them and how we "click", but as an example, if you're already playing and someone wanted to join in, would you maybe be happy to go ahead because the situation's got you horny even though the person may not be in your "Zone"? (Like sassy said I'm knicking that phrase) lol

7 Sep 2006

Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
, but as an example, if you're already playing and someone wanted to join in, would you maybe be happy to go ahead because the situation's got you horny even though the person may not be in your "Zone"?:

Or would you not refuse because you don't know how to without giving offense? dunno

7 Sep 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
, but as an example, if you're already playing and someone wanted to join in, would you maybe be happy to go ahead because the situation's got you horny even though the person may not be in your "Zone"?:

Or would you not refuse because you don't know how to without giving offense? dunno

I have no qualms about saying no!! And I would be distraught if somebody felf they couldn't say no to me.
My view on the whole club/meet thing seems similar to some other comments.
Of course I would get carried away and do things that I wouldn't pre-arrange - hormones make you do these things - it ain't my fault! lol

7 Sep 2006

Well as i'm only looking for singles i haven't yet to try a club though i've been asked to one by a few folks and am concidering it but are they the place to meet as a single looking for a single one to one confused

7 Sep 2006

Ours are different for clubs/parties and for private meets.
We haven't done a lot of clubbing, only been 4 times, but it has changed my outlook on a few things.
Previously we have had very organised meets where we have gotten to know the individuals, enjoy one others social company and then eventually got round to playing.
Personality is pretty important to us for this as we have to gel and have fun in their company as it's perhaps a more intimate dunno

type of play for us.
When we went to the club I found that physical attraction was the key factor for me and I enjoyed myself thoroughly. :twisted:
I also never asked about marital status which we would have for a private meet.
As for being carried away by the moment - yes I have and I enjoyed myself, I felt a bit funny the next day but in a good way not a bad way.
I'm beginning to expand my horizons within myself I think, and I've found that I'm starting to consider acting out fantasies that I never would have previously.
Going to the club and indulging in a differnet form of playing has opened my mind up for that.
Single men keep on an eye on LMU please :twisted:
Jas
XXX

7 Sep 2006

Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
if you're already playing and someone wanted to join in, would you maybe be happy to go ahead because the situation's got you horny even though the person may not be in your "Zone"?

Oooo good question :thumbup:
I think....
confused

I think....No. On the whole, if the person is not of my 'zone' ( lol

) how horny I am wouldnt matter, it'd still be a no....
BUT
I think in a club situation my 'zone' alters somewhat, so does that kinda cancel out the above? dunno

To clarify, usually I will only play with people I know , that, among other things, is my 'zone'....but in a club situation I have played with a complete stranger, because they fit with everything else in my 'zone' andI instigated it

However, although my criteria may change, there are still situations and people I wouldn't engage in play with - I would be very cheesed off if someone who knew I wasn't interested in playing with, tried it on in a club - to me I would see this as "them trying to take advantage of the situation" (and me).

that is spot on :thumbup:

8 Sep 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
, but as an example, if you're already playing and someone wanted to join in, would you maybe be happy to go ahead because the situation's got you horny even though the person may not be in your "Zone"?:

Or would you not refuse because you don't know how to without giving offense? dunno

Clubs are the easzie-peaziest places to turn people down without offending them (well in my experience they are coz I have never been to a club where it wasn't the case or met stroppy, pushy people at them).

8 Sep 2006

Oh yeah... in the past I've played with all manner of mingers in clubs... the minging ones are the most grateful after all lol

.... I wouldn't have dreamed of inviting such people to a private meet or out 121, I didn't even want to say hello to them, it was just cock, nothing more.
However, now I am a sexual snob so I only fuck beautiful people.
lol

Or my friends.... well, none of you are beauiful so I have to call you friends instead
Sorry to anyone this has offended
Or not
Hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
*joke*
lol

8 Sep 2006

Quote by bluexxx
Oh yeah... in the past I've played with all manner of mingers in clubs... the minging ones are the most grateful after all .... I wouldn't have dreamed of inviting such people to a private meet or out 121, I didn't even want to say hello to them, it was just cock, nothing more.
However, now I am a sexual snob so I only fuck beautiful people.

Or my friends.... well, none of you are beauiful so I have to call you friends instead
Sorry to anyone this has offended
Or not
Hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
*joke*

this is an intresting one............
ummmmm i would say in a club i am more likley to be more exhbisonistic
where as in a 1-2-1 or private party not so.................
reagrding who u would fuck in either situation, well come and say hello and i will show u :twisted:

8 Sep 2006

Most people are just dirty tarts in clubs....are is that just my experience? lol