..or online bullying is the term used to refer to bullying and harassment by use of electronic devices though means of e-mail, instant messaging, text messages, blogs, mobile phones, pagers, and websites. Other terms for cyberbullying are "electronic bullying," "electronic harassment," "e-bullying," "sms bullying," "mobile bullying," "online bullying," "digital bullying," or "Internet bullying".
It can constitute a computer crime. For example, in the United States it is a federal crime to anonymously "annoy, abuse, threaten, or harass any person" via the internet or telecommunication system, punishable by a fine and/or up to two years imprisonment.
Cyberbullying is willful and involves recurring or repeated harm inflicted through the medium of electronic text. Cyberbullying can be as simple as continuing to send e-mail to someone who has said they want no further contact with the sender. Cyberbullying may also include threats, sexual remarks, pejorative labels (i.e., hate speech).
Why is it happening? Is it like normal bullying... do the perpetrators get a kick out of seeing someone suffer? Is it a feeling of control?
This subject upsets me as much as any other bullying type. We've covered other types of bullying before, but what about cyber bullying then? What do others think?
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Cyber-bullying
Bullying is never good.
It is often hard to know when what are supposed to be jolly banter goes too far. The forum is a particularly difficult medium to communicate on. 80% of language is non-verbal so only using a keyboard restricts how much information can be trasmitted. Very few people have the writing skills to make themselves entirely clear all of the time.
It is often hard to know when what are supposed to be jolly banter goes too far. The forum is a particularly difficult medium to communicate on. 80% of language is non-verbal so only using a keyboard restricts how much information can be trasmitted. Very few people have the writing skills to make themselves entirely clear all of the time.
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One way to explain the motivation of the bully (or if a person is nasty towards you) is that by doing this it makes them feel better about themsleves.
The cyber enviroment is the ideal medium for a bully as it often garrantees them no come backs.
You are right. For example, in this forum people can fall out all the time (and make up)- we will banter and argue, that's part of life but what I'm talking about is systematic full on bullying and involving others, 'ganging' up on individuals. The cyber world is frightening because you don't actually have to face your bully(ies), they just get you through the net.
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Bullying is never good.
It is often hard to know when what are supposed to be jolly banter goes too far. The forum is a particularly difficult medium to communicate on. 80% of language is non-verbal so only using a keyboard restricts how much information can be trasmitted. Very few people have the writing skills to make themselves entirely clear all of the time.
This is true also, people can interpret posts in their own way, you don't see facial expressions, body language etc., it's only guess work how the person is feeling.
People get a kick out of it. I'm not talking about poeple who fall out but those who are malicious and come online only to cause trouble. I've seen some indiviuals in the chatroom who are only there to cause trouble, get a kick and in some cases prey on people they perceive as vulnerable. Some are probably too scared to do it in RL in case someone smacks them! They want the reaction, that's what they get off on, so the best way to deal with them is to ignore them.
One 'couple' I'm thinking off that I've come across in the chatroom kept trying to prod me with comments to get me to react. Sadly for them I didn't react any further once I realised that they/he was a troll and reproted it to admin. Eventually they buggered off disappointed. On a site like this, it's always worth putting in a support ticket about a persons cyber-bullying behaviour. Sadly many people don't and is why the 'couple' are still able to troll.
If you see it or experience it, report it :thumbup:
One 'couple' I'm thinking off that I've come across in the chatroom kept trying to prod me with comments to get me to react. Sadly for them I didn't react any further once I realised that they/he was a troll and reproted it to admin. Eventually they buggered off disappointed. On a site like this, it's always worth putting in a support ticket about a persons cyber-bullying behaviour. Sadly many people don't and is why the 'couple' are still able to troll.
If you see it or experience it, report it :thumbup:
bullying is bullying, if it becomes harassment then you can take it to the police. There are lawas against harassing anyone including via email/sms text messages or phone calls.
I know this cos an ex had a lunatic trying to make her life a misery, it took a while to gather evidence for police and to keep logs of messages but got there in the end.
I know this cos an ex had a lunatic trying to make her life a misery, it took a while to gather evidence for police and to keep logs of messages but got there in the end.
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it can be very subtle too
lp
:thumbup: of course it can, it can take on many forms. Those who are the perpetrators in any way shape or form know who they are and should be hanging their heads in shame.
I'm actually not sure that they do. I genuinely think that what to some people is, say merely an observation, is bullying to another. It can depend on individual characters - one person's demeanour at that particular moment - or just the way it is either said or interpreted. So many variables that can change a humorous exchange into a bullying incident.
I made what I thought was a humorous observation to someone in PM the other day and received a load of vituperative back about how 'they didn't need telling what to post - thank you very much!' This was then reinforced in strident terms in a subsequent PM - only to be followed by an apologetic PM saying 'Sorry - you caught me in a bad mood'.
Misunderstandings in this medium are very easy.
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it can be very subtle too
lp
:thumbup: of course it can, it can take on many forms. Those who are the perpetrators in any way shape or form know who they are and should be hanging their heads in shame.
I'm actually not sure that they do. I genuinely think that what to some people is, say merely an observation, is bullying to another. It can depend on individual characters - one person's demeanour at that particular moment - or just the way it is either said or interpreted. So many variables that can change a humorous exchange into a bullying incident.
I made what I thought was a humorous observation to someone in PM the other day and received a load of vituperative back about how 'they didn't need telling what to post - thank you very much!' This was then reinforced in strident terms in a subsequent PM - only to be followed by an apologetic PM saying 'Sorry - you caught me in a bad mood'.
Misunderstandings in this medium are very easy.
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Misunderstanding my petal.. yes I can go with that, especially when it's followed up with an apology. I'm just talking about 'systematic' attacks on people, downright nastiness and getting others on side.. that is premediated and that's what I meant by any shape or form and therefore they should be ashamed.
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bullying is bullying, if it becomes harassment then you can take it to the police. There are lawas against harassing anyone including via email/sms text messages or phone calls.
I know this cos an ex had a lunatic trying to make her life a misery, it took a while to gather evidence for police and to keep logs of messages but got there in the end.
E-bullying is bullying, I agree, it is only the method that changes.
...but put a head line or two in the papers and some politician will call it a new crime. Then tell you how good he is because he is making an issue out of it. In reality, 'new crimes' or the same crime using the web just muddies the water. Often the question becomes which crime do we charge.
There was no reason why a story published on the net was not protected by the same laws of copy right as one published on paper. That did not stop new laws to do an old job.
Back to subject. Bullying is bulling, I agree. String the bully up.
OK, regardless of how they bully, they need correction. Quote by
bullying is bullying, if it becomes harassment then you can take it to the police. There are lawas against harassing anyone including via email/sms text messages or phone calls.
I know this cos an ex had a lunatic trying to make her life a misery, it took a while to gather evidence for police and to keep logs of messages but got there in the end.
E-bullying is bullying, I agree, it is only the method that changes.
...but put a head line or two in the papers and some politician will call it a new crime. Then tell you how good he is because he is making an issue out of it. In reality, 'new crimes' or the same crime using the web just muddies the water. Often the question becomes which crime do we charge.
There was no reason why a story published on the net was not protected by the same laws of copy right as one published on paper. That did not stop new laws to do an old job.
Back to subject. Bullying is bulling, I agree. String the bully up.
OK, regardless of how they bully, they need correction.Correct but take a look at the latest "Happy Slapping" incidents. Kids are being beaten up and having it recorded by mobile phone and put on the internet. People are now being severely punished for doing this, and about time.
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bullying is bullying, if it becomes harassment then you can take it to the police. There are lawas against harassing anyone including via email/sms text messages or phone calls.
I know this cos an ex had a lunatic trying to make her life a misery, it took a while to gather evidence for police and to keep logs of messages but got there in the end.
E-bullying is bullying, I agree, it is only the method that changes.
...but put a head line or two in the papers and some politician will call it a new crime. Then tell you how good he is because he is making an issue out of it. In reality, 'new crimes' or the same crime using the web just muddies the water. Often the question becomes which crime do we charge.
There was no reason why a story published on the net was not protected by the same laws of copy right as one published on paper. That did not stop new laws to do an old job.
Back to subject. Bullying is bulling, I agree. String the bully up.
OK, regardless of how they bully, they need correction.Correct but take a look at the latest "Happy Slapping" incidents. Kids are being beaten up and having it recorded by mobile phone and put on the internet. People are now being severely punished for doing this, and about time.
Well pass time. The offenders who record their crime are as much fools as cruel.
I will also admit that there needs to be a quick way to get the pictures of the net.
OH good morning jaymar.
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bullying is bullying, if it becomes harassment then you can take it to the police. There are lawas against harassing anyone including via email/sms text messages or phone calls.
I know this cos an ex had a lunatic trying to make her life a misery, it took a while to gather evidence for police and to keep logs of messages but got there in the end.
E-bullying is bullying, I agree, it is only the method that changes.
...but put a head line or two in the papers and some politician will call it a new crime. Then tell you how good he is because he is making an issue out of it. In reality, 'new crimes' or the same crime using the web just muddies the water. Often the question becomes which crime do we charge.
There was no reason why a story published on the net was not protected by the same laws of copy right as one published on paper. That did not stop new laws to do an old job.
Back to subject. Bullying is bulling, I agree. String the bully up.
OK, regardless of how they bully, they need correction.Correct but take a look at the latest "Happy Slapping" incidents. Kids are being beaten up and having it recorded by mobile phone and put on the internet. People are now being severely punished for doing this, and about time.
Well pass time. The offenders who record their crime are as much fools as cruel.
I will also admit that there needs to be a quick way to get the pictures of the net.
OH good morning jaymar.
Morning Travis
i was looking for a topic on a subject close to this and this is the closest thing i can find.
Just lately i have been spending times in the room, after a break of 3 months due to il health. Since coming back i have noticed alot of "bitchyness" in some of the rooms. Now i know some of this can be put down as being a bit of banter, esp when u go into a room that u dont normally use and arent aware of the relationships of the regulars, and there "relationships" between other chatters. However, this isnt always the case, i know some rooms are said to be "clique" and some of the people in them are jus damn right rude to some people, esp if they arent a reg. Is this a form of bullying? im not jus talking about a one of incident, this is something that i see every day, and cant help but feel if someone was saying that stuff to me id be quite upset. I have also considered saying something in the room, but would i then be rocking the boat? I know this is not jus friendly banter as its a room i have used for a few yrs along with a cpl of others, and it jus seems to get worse. Not only that, it seems that if one person says something negitive to somebody, every body else finds it funny to join in. this can be caused by whispers, directing, or even jus a users name. Now i know whispers and directing can be annoying dont get me wrong, but is this an excuse to be nasty or to be little someone and is this bullying??? id love ur thoughts on this plz!
Just lately i have been spending times in the room, after a break of 3 months due to il health. Since coming back i have noticed alot of "bitchyness" in some of the rooms. Now i know some of this can be put down as being a bit of banter, esp when u go into a room that u dont normally use and arent aware of the relationships of the regulars, and there "relationships" between other chatters. However, this isnt always the case, i know some rooms are said to be "clique" and some of the people in them are jus damn right rude to some people, esp if they arent a reg. Is this a form of bullying? im not jus talking about a one of incident, this is something that i see every day, and cant help but feel if someone was saying that stuff to me id be quite upset. I have also considered saying something in the room, but would i then be rocking the boat? I know this is not jus friendly banter as its a room i have used for a few yrs along with a cpl of others, and it jus seems to get worse. Not only that, it seems that if one person says something negitive to somebody, every body else finds it funny to join in. this can be caused by whispers, directing, or even jus a users name. Now i know whispers and directing can be annoying dont get me wrong, but is this an excuse to be nasty or to be little someone and is this bullying??? id love ur thoughts on this plz!
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i was looking for a topic on a subject close to this and this is the closest thing i can find.
Just lately i have been spending times in the room, after a break of 3 months due to il health. Since coming back i have noticed alot of "bitchyness" in some of the rooms. Now i know some of this can be put down as being a bit of banter, esp when u go into a room that u dont normally use and arent aware of the relationships of the regulars, and there "relationships" between other chatters. However, this isnt always the case, i know some rooms are said to be "clique" and some of the people in them are jus damn right rude to some people, esp if they arent a reg. Is this a form of bullying? im not jus talking about a one of incident, this is something that i see every day, and cant help but feel if someone was saying that stuff to me id be quite upset. I have also considered saying something in the room, but would i then be rocking the boat? I know this is not jus friendly banter as its a room i have used for a few yrs along with a cpl of others, and it jus seems to get worse. Not only that, it seems that if one person says something negitive to somebody, every body else finds it funny to join in. this can be caused by whispers, directing, or even jus a users name. Now i know whispers and directing can be annoying dont get me wrong, but is this an excuse to be nasty or to be little someone and is this bullying??? id love ur thoughts on this plz!
to be fair, i have noticed this a lot of times. i filter through a lot of the rooms, and have many times seen a lot of abusive talk. a few months ago. i was in one of the unmoderated room, 2 users where bitching at each other, and then one thing was said and the room turned on this person. i felt bad, just watching it. fair enough the argument should not of been in open room at the time, but it was not nice seeing one person get bullyed by a load of others. and this is quiet common.. where everyone will jump on the bandwagon. the forum is a classic for this.
people come on this site (and other socail forums) for many different reasons, and a lot do use it as an escape from real life . and people don't realise that what is said on here, can really effect people.
anyway.. i'm waffling.
i disagree with bullying in any shape or form, either it be at home, work, or on the net.. anyone doing such things are people not worth knowing.
and to bully someone while hiding being a keyboard.. shows a lot about a person.
Rant over!
Quote by jaymar
..or online bullying is the term used to refer to bullying and harassment by use of electronic devices though means of e-mail, instant messaging, text messages, blogs, mobile phones, pagers, and websites. Other terms for cyberbullying are "electronic bullying," "electronic harassment," "e-bullying," "sms bullying," "mobile bullying," "online bullying," "digital bullying," or "Internet bullying".
It can constitute a computer crime. For example, in the United States it is a federal crime to anonymously "annoy, abuse, threaten, or harass any person" via the internet or telecommunication system, punishable by a fine and/or up to two years imprisonment.
Cyberbullying is willful and involves recurring or repeated harm inflicted through the medium of electronic text. Cyberbullying can be as simple as continuing to send e-mail to someone who has said they want no further contact with the sender. Cyberbullying may also include threats, sexual remarks, pejorative labels (i.e., hate speech).
Why is it happening? Is it like normal bullying... do the perpetrators get a kick out of seeing someone suffer? Is it a feeling of control?
This subject upsets me as much as any other bullying type. We've covered other types of bullying before, but what about cyber bullying then? What do others think?
any form of communication can be termed as cyber bullying if its received at inappropriate time ie receiving a text message from your mobile network advertising a service or product,your bank calling you constantly to remind you to pay your overdraft,but some can easily be stopped by clicking on report spam or asking the sender to stop...if a friend text you a joke in the middle of the night,can be termed as cyberbullying
This is probably straying the topic slightly but if I've been in the chatroom late on a weekend night 
if I politely say thanks but no thanks, they can get a bit nasty and whisper nasty rude things, usually refering to my size.
Although it is annoying cos I've in no way hidden that I'm a larger lady {check the screen name for god sake!} I jsut rise above it because if they thought that bad of me, why did they make contact in the first place?
if I politely say thanks but no thanks, they can get a bit nasty and whisper nasty rude things, usually refering to my size.Although it is annoying cos I've in no way hidden that I'm a larger lady {check the screen name for god sake!} I jsut rise above it because if they thought that bad of me, why did they make contact in the first place?
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..or online bullying is the term used to refer to bullying and harassment by use of electronic devices though means of e-mail, instant messaging, text messages, blogs, mobile phones, pagers, and websites. Other terms for cyberbullying are "electronic bullying," "electronic harassment," "e-bullying," "sms bullying," "mobile bullying," "online bullying," "digital bullying," or "Internet bullying".
It can constitute a computer crime. For example, in the United States it is a federal crime to anonymously "annoy, abuse, threaten, or harass any person" via the internet or telecommunication system, punishable by a fine and/or up to two years imprisonment.
Cyberbullying is willful and involves recurring or repeated harm inflicted through the medium of electronic text. Cyberbullying can be as simple as continuing to send e-mail to someone who has said they want no further contact with the sender. Cyberbullying may also include threats, sexual remarks, pejorative labels (i.e., hate speech).
Why is it happening? Is it like normal bullying... do the perpetrators get a kick out of seeing someone suffer? Is it a feeling of control?
This subject upsets me as much as any other bullying type. We've covered other types of bullying before, but what about cyber bullying then? What do others think?
any form of communication can be termed as cyber bullying if its received at inappropriate time ie receiving a text message from your mobile network advertising a service or product,your bank calling you constantly to remind you to pay your overdraft,but some can easily be stopped by clicking on report spam or asking the sender to stop...if a friend text you a joke in the middle of the night,can be termed as cyberbullying
You get jokes from RPM too then?
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i was looking for a topic on a subject close to this and this is the closest thing i can find.
Just lately i have been spending times in the room, after a break of 3 months due to il health. Since coming back i have noticed alot of "bitchyness" in some of the rooms. Now i know some of this can be put down as being a bit of banter, esp when u go into a room that u dont normally use and arent aware of the relationships of the regulars, and there "relationships" between other chatters. However, this isnt always the case, i know some rooms are said to be "clique" and some of the people in them are jus damn right rude to some people, esp if they arent a reg. Is this a form of bullying? im not jus talking about a one of incident, this is something that i see every day, and cant help but feel if someone was saying that stuff to me id be quite upset. I have also considered saying something in the room, but would i then be rocking the boat? I know this is not jus friendly banter as its a room i have used for a few yrs along with a cpl of others, and it jus seems to get worse. Not only that, it seems that if one person says something negitive to somebody, every body else finds it funny to join in. this can be caused by whispers, directing, or even jus a users name. Now i know whispers and directing can be annoying dont get me wrong, but is this an excuse to be nasty or to be little someone and is this bullying??? id love ur thoughts on this plz!
to be fair, i have noticed this a lot of times. i filter through a lot of the rooms, and have many times seen a lot of abusive talk. a few months ago. i was in one of the unmoderated room, 2 users where bitching at each other, and then one thing was said and the room turned on this person. i felt bad, just watching it. fair enough the argument should not of been in open room at the time, but it was not nice seeing one person get bullyed by a load of others. and this is quiet common.. where everyone will jump on the bandwagon. the forum is a classic for this.
people come on this site (and other socail forums) for many different reasons, and a lot do use it as an escape from real life . and people don't realise that what is said on here, can really effect people.
anyway.. i'm waffling.
i disagree with bullying in any shape or form, either it be at home, work, or on the net.. anyone doing such things are people not worth knowing.
and to bully someone while hiding being a keyboard.. shows a lot about a person.
Rant over!
i agree jiggle
Sex God
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This is probably straying the topic slightly but if I've been in the chatroom late on a weekend night
Although it is annoying cos I've in no way hidden that I'm a larger lady {check the screen name for god sake!} I jsut rise above it because if they thought that bad of me, why did they make contact in the first place?
Chatrooms = scary place
:scared: 
Master of Sex
Can ou really count a single individual in chat as a bully?
Pain in the arse, fecking nuisance.....but bully?
After all, they are at the end of a fiberoptic cable, not stood next to you in the school playground.
Having said I do believe that a number of people acting in sync can be bullying. The group of chatters all known to each other, ganging up with snidey comments and put downs can be a powerful force to have to stand up to.......
......but I do!!!
Pain in the arse, fecking nuisance.....but bully?
After all, they are at the end of a fiberoptic cable, not stood next to you in the school playground.
Having said I do believe that a number of people acting in sync can be bullying. The group of chatters all known to each other, ganging up with snidey comments and put downs can be a powerful force to have to stand up to.......
......but I do!!!
Sex God
i think the thing to bear in mind is cyber bullying is mental bullying not physical, :sparring: therefore what is bullying to one person could have no effect whatsoever on someone else that said i think mental bullying is far worse than physical :cry:
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Can ou really count a single individual in chat as a bully?
Pain in the arse, fecking nuisance.....but bully?
After all, they are at the end of a fiberoptic cable, not stood next to you in the school playground.
Having said I do believe that a number of people acting in sync can be bullying. The group of chatters all known to each other, ganging up with snidey comments and put downs can be a powerful force to have to stand up to.......
......but I do!!!
A single individual person can be more of a bully than a group of people, mental cruelty from someone who knows what they are doing is terrible, believe me I know, I grew up with it
Sex God
I think this is a hard one to call.
I detest bullying. Deal with it at work, zero tolerance etc etc.
Now, maybe I have just been lucky in my experiences in the forum and chatrooms, and so I can't appreciate the hurt others have felt. But to be honest, I don't take any of this so seriously that I think I would allow it to get to me.
Yes, there have been occasions when I have reported things said in chat to an Op. They were dealt with. I know people say some crass, rude and hurtful stuff. But I would just report it. Let the person be dealt with.
I am on this site a lot. I like it, makes me laugh. But I don't take it to heart, any of it. I use this site for my own ends and to fulfill certain functions. That's it. If I were to start taking it all seriously then I'd be worried.
I've made some great friends on here. They're real... but the rest of it, I just keep reminding myself that it's the internet... things are said, things can be misunderstood, some people you like, some you don't, some like you, some don't.
None of this is in any way intended to belittle the hurt caused by bullies. I'm just trying to explain how I think sometimes there is a tendency to maybe take things too personally, and my own method of coping with that is just not to...
Nola x
I detest bullying. Deal with it at work, zero tolerance etc etc.
Now, maybe I have just been lucky in my experiences in the forum and chatrooms, and so I can't appreciate the hurt others have felt. But to be honest, I don't take any of this so seriously that I think I would allow it to get to me.
Yes, there have been occasions when I have reported things said in chat to an Op. They were dealt with. I know people say some crass, rude and hurtful stuff. But I would just report it. Let the person be dealt with.
I am on this site a lot. I like it, makes me laugh. But I don't take it to heart, any of it. I use this site for my own ends and to fulfill certain functions. That's it. If I were to start taking it all seriously then I'd be worried.
I've made some great friends on here. They're real... but the rest of it, I just keep reminding myself that it's the internet... things are said, things can be misunderstood, some people you like, some you don't, some like you, some don't.
None of this is in any way intended to belittle the hurt caused by bullies. I'm just trying to explain how I think sometimes there is a tendency to maybe take things too personally, and my own method of coping with that is just not to...
Nola x
Sex God
Another aspect is when groups of people get together to bully an individual. This is premeditated bullying, something that is planned before it is acted out and it seen more often than we like to admit.
Whether it be cyber, real life or whatever, bullying of any kind should not be tolerated.
Whether it be cyber, real life or whatever, bullying of any kind should not be tolerated.
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Another aspect is when groups of people get together to bully an individual. This is premeditated bullying, something that is planned before it is acted out and it seen more often than we like to admit.
Whether it be cyber, real life or whatever, bullying of any kind should not be tolerated.
erhh yeah
