Some folks seem to be confused as to what they want from this site, or what it's intentions are. So, a few questions for you guys...
Did you come here in the hope of finding a life partner?
Did you come here hoping NOT to find a life partner?
What would you do if you found yourself - quite by chance - teaming up with a person on a traditional swinging basis, then realising that the idea of a more commited relationship is the way you want to go?
I think it's worth time pondering these questions as we seem to have 'sparked off' a few 'relationships' via our merry band.
In short... what DO we want from Swinging Heaven?
Hxx
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Warming the Bed
why get so deep into it? I mean just have fun see what happens, of course I speak of sexy fun
Sex God
I don't have a crystal ball. I'm looking primarily to make friends and have fun. If anything beyond that happens, so be it. I don't expect anything and I don't rule anything out
Ice.
Ice.
Quote by Clare_Lincs
In short... what DO we want from Swinging Heaven?
Hxx
In short to find some great friends,and have some sexy fun!!
:D :DSnap.........but having trouble with Mr debbiwebs finding time! :twisted:
Also finding my way!....by listening to peeps experience!..and finding out is this for us?
As you never no how you are going to feel..if you get the chance!
I have found out by being on this site that it all takes time!..........Too find a cpl that you both like!....so this time next year!
Woopie! :bounce: :bounce:
Sex God
it is very much a case of each to their own i think......
for me it is friends first.....you have to like the people you swing with.....
and if anything else were to happen then that would be a bonus, if i were to find someone that i clicked with in that way you'd be mad not to snap it up..... :D :D
for me it is friends first.....you have to like the people you swing with.....
and if anything else were to happen then that would be a bonus, if i were to find someone that i clicked with in that way you'd be mad not to snap it up.....
:D :D Absolutely no intention of finding a life partner - the thought of answering to anyone horrifies me right now :scared:
Having said that, it didn't take me long to realise that I can't just fuck anyone, am not into the cold clinical 'quick fuck next please' sex. There has got to be a spark, something more than just a cock. I'm more into the sensual side of things so a connection has to be there - not an emotional one, but a friendship one as well as physical one. I am not particularly bi, but even being the third party with a couple, I would have to have a connection with her to be able to share her partner.
Things sometimes do take another turn tho and emotions can become involved. I had this with a very special guy on here :inlove: - circumstances meant that it was not lasting and have now settled into a wonderful 'best mates' relationship. But I wouldn't change what we did have for the world, it was amazing
for Carpy
Having said that, it didn't take me long to realise that I can't just fuck anyone, am not into the cold clinical 'quick fuck next please' sex. There has got to be a spark, something more than just a cock. I'm more into the sensual side of things so a connection has to be there - not an emotional one, but a friendship one as well as physical one. I am not particularly bi, but even being the third party with a couple, I would have to have a connection with her to be able to share her partner.
Things sometimes do take another turn tho and emotions can become involved. I had this with a very special guy on here :inlove: - circumstances meant that it was not lasting and have now settled into a wonderful 'best mates' relationship. But I wouldn't change what we did have for the world, it was amazing
for Carpy I have a life partner, but I also want some fun and realise that we can't be everything to each other ALL of the time, and that our needs will change all the time.
What do we want ... friendship, some flirting, some fun and good old simple adult humour, without being frowned up.
We're here to make friends and maybe have a few encounters
What do we want ... friendship, some flirting, some fun and good old simple adult humour, without being frowned up.
We're here to make friends and maybe have a few encounters
Sex God
DONT DO IT !!!
If you think too hard about it you might find the answer !! :shock:
Its like saying what do I really want from this pub I am sat in ????....................
Large Vodka please
If you think too hard about it you might find the answer !! :shock:
Its like saying what do I really want from this pub I am sat in ????....................
Large Vodka please
I'm with Misschief on this one......
I originally came on here with the intention of getting a quick fuck and nothing else.....and then I started to make friends on here and spend time with people and I started to care about the people on here....
So now I just look for fun and friendship.......
I've had a couple of really good meets.......and that makes everything worthwhile....
I originally came on here with the intention of getting a quick fuck and nothing else.....and then I started to make friends on here and spend time with people and I started to care about the people on here....
So now I just look for fun and friendship.......
I've had a couple of really good meets.......and that makes everything worthwhile....
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I'm with Misschief on this one......
I originally came on here with the intention of getting a quick fuck and nothing else.....and then I started to make friends on here and spend time with people and I started to care about the people on here....
So now I just look for fun and friendship.......
I've had a couple of really good meets.......and that makes everything worthwhile....
Perfectly put Helen!
Quote by MISSCHIEF
Absolutely no intention of finding a life partner - the thought of answering to anyone horrifies me right now :scared:
Having said that, it didn't take me long to realise that I can't just fuck anyone, am not into the cold clinical 'quick fuck next please' sex. There has got to be a spark, something more than just a cock. I'm more into the sensual side of things so a connection has to be there - not an emotional one, but a friendship one as well as physical one. I am not particularly bi, but even being the third party with a couple, I would have to have a connection with her to be able to share her partner.
Things sometimes do take another turn tho and emotions can become involved. I had this with a very special guy on here :inlove: - circumstances meant that it was not lasting and have now settled into a wonderful 'best mates' relationship. But I wouldn't change what we did have for the world, it was amazing
In the words of Edmund Blackadder
" Bugger"
Paul xx
Sorry to have to bring this post up to the top again!.........................but i do find that Heathers Question is a real interesting one!
I would like to here of a few more!.........as when i first came on i really didn't have a clue!......... always had the fantasies of not sure of what it was all about!..................but now that over a period of time on here!........... and lots of chat with my life partner!.........i am finding my way!...........but its also the help of you peeps out there!................so i big thanks and lots of :kiss: :kiss: :kiss: To ya!
Love
Debbiexxxxxxxxxxxxx :rose:
Ps awaiting to here more!
I would like to here of a few more!.........as when i first came on i really didn't have a clue!......... always had the fantasies of not sure of what it was all about!..................but now that over a period of time on here!........... and lots of chat with my life partner!.........i am finding my way!...........but its also the help of you peeps out there!................so i big thanks and lots of
:kiss: :kiss: :kiss: To ya!Love
Debbiexxxxxxxxxxxxx :rose:
Ps awaiting to here more!
Quote by Calista
I have a life partner, but I also want some fun and realise that we can't be everything to each other ALL of the time, and that our needs will change all the time.
What do we want ... friendship, some flirting, some fun and good old simple adult humour, without being frowned upon.
We're here to make friends and maybe have a few encounters
We're with you on this one Calista - we see it as a way of meeting likeminded people and if anything else happens then great but if not then we'll have made new friends.
Some well put points, I agree with all of the above re after friendships. I am also in a life long relationship (I hope :shock: ) so I am here for the friendship, the open adult conversation, and maybe to watch one day (alas alone, it is a fantasy only I hold and I know Mrs TnH doesn't want hers to become reality)
Others I know are here purely for the quick physical side, definitely not after the relationship, and there is nothing wrong with that. Although you don't often see them in the cafe as they tend to stick to the 'Lets meet up'.
So I suppose where we chose to post says a lot more about us than anything. Those active in the Cafe would seem to seek a more personal link with those they swing with, those who don't post here but prefer only the meet up (or occasional post here) most likely want less of the friendship / regular meet side...
Others I know are here purely for the quick physical side, definitely not after the relationship, and there is nothing wrong with that. Although you don't often see them in the cafe as they tend to stick to the 'Lets meet up'.
So I suppose where we chose to post says a lot more about us than anything. Those active in the Cafe would seem to seek a more personal link with those they swing with, those who don't post here but prefer only the meet up (or occasional post here) most likely want less of the friendship / regular meet side...
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Sex God
Relationships? Do people on here form relationships????? Outrageous!!!!
Okay, okay. Guilty as charged!!!
I have not checked what I am about to say with Her Divine Decadence, but we know we are at one on this - and lots of other things!
Sappho and I both joined this site for uncomplicated, no-strings sexy fun without the necessity of a relationship. We both had quite a bit of baggage - as do most people I expect.
Then, through posts, PMs, e-mails, phone calls and LONG MSN conversations (I think our record was over 5 hours!) we very quickly realised that we were on exactly the same wavelength on almost everything. Things that previous partners had mocked us for were, in fact, common interests. All this was before we had actually met.
Then, when we did meet. WOW!!! :shock: Sparks? It was more of a volcano! That was over seven months ago and we have never looked back. In the early days we kept telling each other that we didn't want a relationship - but it just happened; and it's fantastic. I would not have believed that there was someone out there who was that special and who would be the slightest bit interested in me. What has happened has been a wonderful surprise to us both and we daily thank our lucky stars for it.
A rather verbose answer (who was that who said "Some thing's never change"?
) to Heather's excellent question. In summary: we knew the intention of the site and were completely in tune with it - but it turned out differently for us, and we are very happy with the result so far. The really good news is it keeps getting better :twisted:. Right, have you all reached for the bucket yet? 
:doh: 
ops:
We have since met many others from this site (non-sexually, as it happens - but that's not to rule anything out for the future) and have made some wonderful friends.
If you read this darling - I hope I have expressed it accurately.
Will
More happy than he deserves to be!
Okay, okay. Guilty as charged!!!
I have not checked what I am about to say with Her Divine Decadence, but we know we are at one on this - and lots of other things!
Sappho and I both joined this site for uncomplicated, no-strings sexy fun without the necessity of a relationship. We both had quite a bit of baggage - as do most people I expect.
Then, through posts, PMs, e-mails, phone calls and LONG MSN conversations (I think our record was over 5 hours!) we very quickly realised that we were on exactly the same wavelength on almost everything. Things that previous partners had mocked us for were, in fact, common interests. All this was before we had actually met.
Then, when we did meet. WOW!!! :shock: Sparks? It was more of a volcano! That was over seven months ago and we have never looked back. In the early days we kept telling each other that we didn't want a relationship - but it just happened; and it's fantastic. I would not have believed that there was someone out there who was that special and who would be the slightest bit interested in me. What has happened has been a wonderful surprise to us both and we daily thank our lucky stars for it.
A rather verbose answer (who was that who said "Some thing's never change"?
) to Heather's excellent question. In summary: we knew the intention of the site and were completely in tune with it - but it turned out differently for us, and we are very happy with the result so far. The really good news is it keeps getting better :twisted:. Right, have you all reached for the bucket yet? :doh: ops:We have since met many others from this site (non-sexually, as it happens - but that's not to rule anything out for the future) and have made some wonderful friends.
If you read this darling - I hope I have expressed it accurately.
Will
More happy than he deserves to be!
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More happy than he deserves to be!
What a wonderful post Will :rose: The only bit I have to disagree with is the above quote!!!
Think it's more ......... Finally found the happiness and love he deserves :inlove:
Ohhhh and welcome back, did you have a nice holiday, the pair of you? :bounce:
Really good searching question this one
Both flick and I have asked ourselves the following questions and still not sure of the answers that would suit us best
Do we swing with people we get to know socially or is it better to "pass ships in the night" and keep the sex side apart from the emotional, as good friends usually become part of your emotions i.e. caring a lot about them.
Are they the barriers you have to overcome to become a truly open swinger.
Is it better to have swinging (non sexual contact) freinds who you can talk to about your way of life (we can`t do that in our local ha ha)
Not expecting an answer to the next question
How many of the people on here swing with each other
Would love to know what others think
And ok...... if this has been asked before just point us to th post
Both flick and I have asked ourselves the following questions and still not sure of the answers that would suit us best
Do we swing with people we get to know socially or is it better to "pass ships in the night" and keep the sex side apart from the emotional, as good friends usually become part of your emotions i.e. caring a lot about them.
Are they the barriers you have to overcome to become a truly open swinger.
Is it better to have swinging (non sexual contact) freinds who you can talk to about your way of life (we can`t do that in our local ha ha)
Not expecting an answer to the next question
How many of the people on here swing with each other
Would love to know what others think
And ok...... if this has been asked before just point us to th post
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If you read this darling - I hope I have expressed it accurately.
As ever, my angel, with clarity and humour. Just to add to this, I said, quite categorically, at the beginning that I was a single girl; likely to remain so and avoiding the relationship quagmire like Stapleton on Grimpen Mire. I was here for consensual, non-committed sex. As Stapleton lost his footing at the end, I lost my heart and was never happier. (The sex is incredible, thank you!)
As SH attracts every sort of person, it is all things to all men (and women!). The secret is to remain as open-minded as one is broad-minded.
Sappho xxx
Sappho and Will !!!! lovely to see you two back!!!!!!!!!!!
Well if I ever find love again and I am NOT looking at the moment it will need to be with someone who is open minded enough to be broad minded. For now I am better as a friend but I love the whole flirt so I need to practice some new lines.................. :twisted: :twisted:
:lol:
Well if I ever find love again and I am NOT looking at the moment it will need to be with someone who is open minded enough to be broad minded. For now I am better as a friend but I love the whole flirt so I need to practice some new lines.................. :twisted: :twisted:
:lol: 
Sex God
Sappho wrote:
Excellently summed-up, Sappho. By the way, for those readers who don't know their Conan Doyle, the remarks can be transposed as follows:
"Stapleton/Grimpen mire/losing his footing" equals "David Beckham/Portugal/penalty spot"
Mike.
As SH attracts every sort of person, it is all things to all men (and women!). The secret is to remain as open-minded as one is broad-minded.
Excellently summed-up, Sappho. By the way, for those readers who don't know their Conan Doyle, the remarks can be transposed as follows:
"Stapleton/Grimpen mire/losing his footing" equals "David Beckham/Portugal/penalty spot"
Mike.
