Defining sexuality

17 Apr 2011

Sexuality is not a three point definition, straight - bi - gay, but a continuous spectrum right through. Varying person by person but also each person varying through their lives.
Discuss. (if you want to - this isn't school :giggle smile

17 Apr 2011

At the start you don't know what it is.
At the end you know what it is but can't do it.
Somewhere in between you pretty much do anything needed to get it.

18 Apr 2011

Have to be honest and say I can fit people into one of the three fairly easily. I dont think its rocket science to do so dunno

There seems to be as lot of hippy bollocks about sexual orientation, stop over complicating it (and thats not just directed at Foxylady)
There are two goal posts. One is gay men who are gay they NEVER EVER will touch or think about a woman sexually. The second goal post is straight men who will NEVER EVER touch or think about touching a man sexually. EVERYONE ELSE fits in between and is Bi. Apply the same to females.

18 Apr 2011

Quote by tweeky
Have to be honest and say I can fit people into one of the three fairly easily. I dont think its rocket science to do so There seems to be as lot of hippy bollocks about sexual orientation, stop over complicating it (and thats not just directed at Foxylady)
There are two goal posts. One is gay men who are gay they NEVER EVER will touch or think about a woman sexually. The second goal post is straight men who will NEVER EVER touch or think about touching a man sexually. EVERYONE ELSE fits in between and is Bi. Apply the same to females.

:thumbup: Totally agree!!
There is of course bi curious. I see someone who is bi curious as someone who is intrigued by playing with someone of the same sex but hasn't done so yet. Once you have had a dabble, liked it and want to do it again, you are bi, if you don't like it, you're straight .... simples.
I feel that just because you are bi, doesn't mean that you always want to play with people of the same sex. I have done almost everything there is to do with another woman, however, I much prefer to play with men and will only play with women if the mood/girl/place/time is right. I describe my sexuality as bi selective. Still bi though.
Of course people's preferences change throughout their life.

18 Apr 2011

Quote by Funlovers2009
Have to be honest and say I can fit people into one of the three fairly easily. I dont think its rocket science to do so There seems to be as lot of hippy bollocks about sexual orientation, stop over complicating it (and thats not just directed at Foxylady)
There are two goal posts. One is gay men who are gay they NEVER EVER will touch or think about a woman sexually. The second goal post is straight men who will NEVER EVER touch or think about touching a man sexually. EVERYONE ELSE fits in between and is Bi. Apply the same to females.

:thumbup: Totally agree!!
There is of course bi curious. I see someone who is bi curious as someone who is intrigued by playing with someone of the same sex but hasn't done so yet. Once you have had a dabble, liked it and want to do it again, you are bi, if you don't like it, you're straight .... simples.
I feel that just because you are bi, doesn't mean that you always want to play with people of the same sex. I have done almost everything there is to do with another woman, however, I much prefer to play with men and will only play with women if the mood/girl/place/time is right. I describe my sexuality as bi selective. Still bi though.
Of course people's preferences change throughout their life.
...in much the same way as I don't play with all men.

18 Apr 2011

If anyone needs any help deciding biggrin

Heterosexuality- Is the sexual attraction between members of the opposite sexes such as man attracts to woman and woman attracts to man sexually.
Homosexuality- is the sexual attraction between members of the same sexes such as man to man and woman to
Bisexuality- Is the sexual attraction to both the opposite and same sexes such as man to man and man to woman, woman to woman and woman to man.
Asexuality- Is also known as non sexuality which is the lack of sexual attraction and sexual interest towards others.
Poly sexuality- Is the sexual attraction to more than one gender but do not wish to be known as bisexual as it implies that their are only two binary sexes, do not confuse this with pan-sexuality (Pan meaning All) and (Poly meaning many).
Pansexuality- Is the sexual attraction towards people regardless of gender also known as omnisexuality, some pansexuals refer to themselves as gender blind as to them gender is insignificant in determining whether they will be sexually attracted to others.
Transexualism - Is when a person identifies themselves with a physical sex that is different to their own biological one, A medical diagnosis can be made if a person experiences discomfort as a result of a desire to be a member of the opposite sex. for example a person may be born male, and is uncomfortable with their gender as a male and changes to a female, or a female may change to a male. It is a long process that they will go through and an expensive one too.

18 Apr 2011

Quote by Funlovers2009
:thumbup: Totally agree!!
There is of course bi curious. I see someone who is bi curious as someone who is intrigued by playing with someone of the same sex but hasn't done so yet. Once you have had a dabble, liked it and want to do it again, you are bi, if you don't like it, you're straight .... simples.
I feel that just because you are bi, doesn't mean that you always want to play with people of the same sex. I have done almost everything there is to do with another woman, however, I much prefer to play with men and will only play with women if the mood/girl/place/time is right. I describe my sexuality as bi selective. Still bi though.
Of course people's preferences change throughout their life.

Thanks Funlovers2009, I think you've summed it up perfectly.
(see my string http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/377084.html)

19 Apr 2011

It can also depend on how far back you consider your sexuality. Most kids will play in a limited sexual way with each other without thinking. This is as and when sex comes about. I can remember it happening several times with both girls and boys.
as teenage approaches our ideas become conditioned. then we make a decision, which in most cases is hetero.
the expression bi curious has gotten about and i think people ae looking for the evidence to fit the theory. we were all curious about hetero and homo sexuality, and many people still are now, more so the younger because of the above. most of us also went through being bi, but conditioned ourselves away from it.
bi curious? not really. just a lot of people reflecting on what they ignored, avoided or missed.

19 Apr 2011

Quote by tweeky
Have to be honest and say I can fit people into one of the three fairly easily. I dont think its rocket science to do so There seems to be as lot of hippy bollocks about sexual orientation, stop over complicating it (and thats not just directed at Foxylady)
There are two goal posts. One is gay men who are gay they NEVER EVER will touch or think about a woman sexually. The second goal post is straight men who will NEVER EVER touch or think about touching a man sexually. EVERYONE ELSE fits in between and is Bi. Apply the same to females.

OMG tweeky,
how could you call me 'bi', I just don't run away when a guys touches me in a +some.

19 Apr 2011

As per usual, here is my spanner....

I actually agree with the hardcore definitions of straight and bi for the physical.
The mental/curiosity is far more complicated for people, I reckon.

22 Apr 2011

I'm straight. Ish. However, is there anyone out there that never looked at George Michael (leather jacket on Faith album cover) and thought 'oh, I see what women like' and then 'oh. I see what men like'? And am I the only one that never knew freddie mercury was gay?
Or is it just me?

22 Apr 2011

i think i could be bi curios.
i rather fancy jason gardiner. redface

25 Apr 2011

Quote by
Have to be honest and say I can fit people into one of the three fairly easily. I dont think its rocket science to do so There seems to be as lot of hippy bollocks about sexual orientation, stop over complicating it (and thats not just directed at Foxylady)
There are two goal posts. One is gay men who are gay they NEVER EVER will touch or think about a woman sexually. The second goal post is straight men who will NEVER EVER touch or think about touching a man sexually. EVERYONE ELSE fits in between and is Bi. Apply the same to females.

OMG tweeky,
how could you call me 'bi', I just don't run away when a guys touches me in a +some.
I dont get your point :dunno: If I were to be doing say double penetration on a lady with another male I would find penetrating her and touching her erotic. However him touching me because its going to happen is expected but not erotic. I dont have a problem separating the two types of contact.

26 Apr 2011

Quote by tweeky
Have to be honest and say I can fit people into one of the three fairly easily. I dont think its rocket science to do so There seems to be as lot of hippy bollocks about sexual orientation, stop over complicating it (and thats not just directed at Foxylady)
There are two goal posts. One is gay men who are gay they NEVER EVER will touch or think about a woman sexually. The second goal post is straight men who will NEVER EVER touch or think about touching a man sexually. EVERYONE ELSE fits in between and is Bi. Apply the same to females.

OMG tweeky,
how could you call me 'bi', I just don't run away when a guys touches me in a +some.
I dont get your point :dunno: If I were to be doing say double penetration on a lady with another male I would find penetrating her and touching her erotic. However him touching me because its going to happen is expected but not erotic. I dont have a problem separating the two types of contact.
I was having fun with your comment, but acording to your first post we are both bi. Do I care? No.
You must forgive my sence of humour.

26 Apr 2011

For me, the term 'bi' without any modifier means 50:50. I'm not as much into women as men, more like 25:75. There isn't a term for it (quatro maybe?) but I wouldn't want people to mistake the situation and assume I would be equally into a feale as a male.
If I'm going to use a label for convenience I'd like it to be accurate. Or is this just the pedant in me coming out?

26 Apr 2011

It always makes me wonder, in the chatrooms; bi rooms are always full of men, looking for just men.
Sometime bi, does not mean bi.
......or is it just me?

26 Apr 2011

All to over complicated! Its easy for me and thats all that matters to me. I know where I am and I know where I class others as if they tell me their thoughts. What they think they are is actually of no real importance to me. Therefore I think Ive worked out I no longer need to debate this, one of these thats just going to go on and on zzzzzzzzzzzzz

26 Apr 2011

Quote by tweeky
All to over complicated! Its easy for me and thats all that matters to me. I know where I am and I know where I class others as if they tell me their thoughts. What they think they are is actually of no real importance to me. Therefore I think Ive worked out I no longer need to debate this, one of these thats just going to go on and on zzzzzzzzzzzzz