denying oneself

17 Oct 2005

hi everyone, new to the site and wanted to get peoples reaction to my own preferences, i like to watch and to join in with couples but deny myself any contact that will give me direct sexual pleasure, how unusual is this?, are there any other guys on here who have the same kink(if you could call it that) and i would like to hear the views of the ladys on my ways. :P

17 Oct 2005

ok maybe i am thick here, but surely if you like to watch and join in.... then that is sexual pleasure... even if no one is actually touching you ?

17 Oct 2005

I think a lot of peope are voyers, i have been to clubs and had guys watching and refused a offer to join in when asked, whatever floats your boat n all that
but i would say, yes that is sexual pleasure, you don't need direct contact to get that :rascal:

17 Oct 2005

I don't think he is saying he is purely a voyeur. He states joining in but not partaking of anything that would give direct sexual pleasure, for example a shag or BJ.
As has been said, whatever gets you going.... now where's me wellies gone. lol

17 Oct 2005

Hang on am i reading this right.....u want contact but nothing that gives u direct sexual pleasure, ie no bj or shag? so what does that leave? you giving to other?
you want my number? :twisted:

17 Oct 2005

my husband likes to watch me with other women but never joins in.. confused

he says he gets more out of it mentally than he could physically,,
He does get very turned on though by just watching and if we make love at a later time that day, its always just that little bit better :twisted:

17 Oct 2005

Quote by sharon_2005
my husband likes to watch me with other women but never joins in..
he says he gets more out of it mentally than he could physically,,
He does get very turned on though by just watching :twisted:

Ooooh, can I watch too, pretty please, pretty pretty please biggrin

Seriously though, the mental aspect is very strong.

17 Oct 2005

I get where ya coming from Kemblu, I'm mostly a 'giver' too (but fook am I picky lol wink

) I dont think its that unusual - its mental stimulation more than the physical :twisted:
I dont agree with the 'denying oneself' thing though - if you're a giver, then you still get pleasure from pleasing and pleasuring others......well, thats how it works for me lol lol

- fair enough, its not direct sexual pleasure - but its not denying yourself either, IMO
for anyone who's reads the small print : :small-print: I guess I'd better add that I dont give all the time - and when I do take I'm a demanding little bitch lmfaoooo rotflmao

17 Oct 2005

Quote by Phoenix
my husband likes to watch me with other women but never joins in..
he says he gets more out of it mentally than he could physically,,
He does get very turned on though by just watching :twisted:

Ooooh, can I watch too, pretty please, pretty pretty please biggrin

Seriously though, the mental aspect is very strong.
lol yeah sure you can.......i don't mind who watches
The mental aspect is very strong, it does wonders for my hubby even if he just see's me kiss another woman.... the best for him is when he watches us dance in the cage or attempt the pole though lol

17 Oct 2005

Quote by sharon_2005
lol yeah sure you can:

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