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Sex God
Quote by lynnywinny
i fell like i depend on my toys too much. i feel like its the only way i can come, how can i overcome this?
Abstain for a while?
Sex God
Quote by lynnywinny
if i abstain how wil i overcome my urges??? some guys just get me so horny on msn
Don't talk to them then - do you want to stop or not?
Sex God
Put them away, it's the only way. But I'm sure you will get shed-loads of offers to help you through your cold-turkey. 
Sex God
Quote by lynnywinny
meet em for real instead of winding them, and yourself up?
i still live with my rents so it may be rather awkward, hi mum ill be back in an hour im off to shag someone i barely know
How old are you? Just looked - you're 19 according to your profile.
Maybe removing the words from your profile might stop people talking dirty to you?
Sex God
Are you absolutely sure that your parents aren't already members???
Sex God
Quote by lynnywinny
Are you absolutely sure that your parents aren't already members???
well my mum told me someone who sleeps about is a slut, oh well mum yer wee lassie is a slut then but it makes her happy!!! rotfl
Errrrrrrr why is that funny?
Is it just me who's wondering here?
Quote by freckledbird
Are you absolutely sure that your parents aren't already members???
well my mum told me someone who sleeps about is a slut, oh well mum yer wee lassie is a slut then but it makes her happy!!! rotfl
Errrrrrrr why is that funny?
Is it just me who's wondering here?
lol sorry im all sweet and innocent in apperance but a 'slut' as my mum describes
Hiya Linny
:welcome: to The Cafe
Sounds like maybe you have a bit of a dilemma - your a teenager with healthy sexual urges, but your being told there's something wrong with that.
Never an easy situation.
Your young you have your whole life ahead of you. Stick with the toys and move on to something more when you're good and ready :thumbup:
:welcome: to The Cafe
Sounds like maybe you have a bit of a dilemma - your a teenager with healthy sexual urges, but your being told there's something wrong with that.
Never an easy situation.
Your young you have your whole life ahead of you. Stick with the toys and move on to something more when you're good and ready :thumbup:
Toy addction is a very serious matter and could affect your later sexual development. It is OK to use a toy now and then but when you depend on them to come... uh oh! As others have suggested you need to refrain from using them. Use the good old fingers instead, then you are more likely to have an orgasm during intercourse. Remember you can't always carry your toys with you and some men may not be as liberal thinking to accept your need to use them.
Sex God
Quote by freckledbird
Errrrrrrr why is that funny?
Is it just me who's wondering here?
errrr no FB, we are too!!!
not quite sure what to say about that one......
lol
Quote by Tania
Toy addction is a very serious matter and could affect your later sexual development. It is OK to use a toy now and then but when you depend on them to come... uh oh! As others have suggested you need to refrain from using them. Use the good old fingers instead, then you are more likely to have an orgasm during intercourse. Remember you can't always carry your toys with you and some men may not be as liberal thinking to accept your need to use them.
Ok so I may get flamed for this... but is it only me that sees the above comment as wrong (for lack of a better word!)?
Exploring your body and desires has to be a healthy thing... I'm sure a lot (if not most) people go through a phase where masturbating feels addictive as an orgasm feels so good!
I just can't see any sense in that posting!
Kiss Me she is not addicted to orgasms, she is addicted to her toys. She has made them the focus of her universe. She could very well grow out of this phase or not. Did you not see a programme on TV about a year ago where a young couple were so addicted to toys and kinky stuff that they had forgotten how to make love to each other? The sex therapist forbade the use of toys and made them abstain from penetration so that they could reprogramme their mind to work which apparently had some positive results in their relationship.
You may agree or disagree with what I or others write but this is an open forum and we are invited to post our views and that is what I have done. I spoke from my heart and gave the same advice I would have given my own daughter to prevent her from falling into the pitfalls that perhaps I had fallen at one time. Perhaps there is no point caring about others, I sometimes forget this is a shag them and leave them place for some people. *sigh*
You may agree or disagree with what I or others write but this is an open forum and we are invited to post our views and that is what I have done. I spoke from my heart and gave the same advice I would have given my own daughter to prevent her from falling into the pitfalls that perhaps I had fallen at one time. Perhaps there is no point caring about others, I sometimes forget this is a shag them and leave them place for some people. *sigh*
Quote by Tania
You may agree or disagree with what I or others write but this is an open forum and we are invited to post our views and that is what I have done. I spoke from my heart and gave the same advice I would have given my own daughter to prevent her from falling into the pitfalls that perhaps I had fallen at one time. Perhaps there is no point caring about others, I sometimes forget this is a shag them and leave them place for some people. *sigh*
Hence I have posted my views - as you so clearly state I am 'allowed' to. I apologise if it seemed I was attacking you personally as this would never be my intention.
I took the main thread to read "I can only have an orgasm if I use a sex toy" not "I only care about having sex alone with my toys and I'm deeply unhappy".
Of course a sexual act or any other addiction that affects somebodies life in a negative way should be resolved - but I didn't see that writtin anywhere. The fact that lynnywinny is young I would think it safer for her to amuse herself with her toys rather than sleep with random strangers.
In my opinion I perhaps think that you were going off the deep-end and risked scaring a young girl into thinking she had some massive problem when there is always a possibility that she doesn't.
And I do hope that your parting comment wasn't aimed at me - if you care to get to know me you will see how far off the mark you are.
No the comment was not directed at you, it just expressed my disappointment at the number of people who have flooded the site (luckily most of them do not post, they just use the chat) thinking swinging is a passport to one-night stands and forgetting that first and foremost they must have good manners and consider that the other person is a human being with feelings.
I am sorry if I sounded too severe in my response to our young member. I can get intense at times and now that you have explained I can see how my intentions can be misunderstood. Friends?
I am sorry if I sounded too severe in my response to our young member. I can get intense at times and now that you have explained I can see how my intentions can be misunderstood. Friends?
Quote by Tania
No the comment was not directed at you, it just expressed my disappointment at the number of people who have flooded the site (luckily most of them do not post, they just use the chat) thinking swinging is a passport to one-night stands and forgetting that first and foremost they must have good manners and consider that the other person is a human being with feelings.
I am sorry if I sounded too severe in my response to our young member. I can get intense at times and now that you have explained I can see how my intentions can be misunderstood. Friends?
I understand as I can be an intense person and sometimes wires do get crossed, our intentions and thoughts sometimes become lost on the screen when typed in black and white.
I hadn't considered that we weren't friends - just that we disagreed and I'm certainly not one to hold pointless grudges.
:thumbup:
Let's move on
Sex God
Quote by Tania
I sometimes forget this is a shag them and leave them place for some people. *sigh*
Particularly nymphomaniacs?
Tania you can't just sigh and complain when anyone expresses a view that isn't in agreement with your own.
For what it's worth, Kiss_Me, I do agree with you.
Quote by Tania
I can sigh as much as I want. It brings oxygen to my lungs. :P
sighing is a good way to relieve tension and pms, hehe amazing what teenage mags tell you
wwwooooooooo
i dont need toys to give me it now hehe why does that make me happy??? hmm just gotta remember the towel next time, lol i keep leaving damp patches and not pmeaning to or realiseing i am till i slide down onto it.
