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One of the side effects listed on Seroxat is 'may cause suicidal thoughts'
Excuse my language but how fucked up is that?
I've been on anti-depressants, it's like living your life through a smoke screen, like having your emotions behind a smoke glass window, I couldn't cope with them. But they do work for some people, don't dismis them out of hand, take all the help you can get and work out which is best for you.
H.x
Ive been on the pills - i think many times its mind over matter with them , they didnt work for me but i know they have worked with many others
I was having twice weekly councilling which i found helped the most,
what workes for one person wont work for the next you just have to keep on until youy find what works best for you as hard as it may seem.
Tan
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I think the word depression is used far to easy and sometimes people are just feeling a bit low, i remember a while back my hubby going to the doc about a totally unrelated issue to depression and the doc gave him prozac :shock: he wasnt drepressed and he didnt take the pills but docs just had them out far to easy now days

You're absolutely right! Depression is a very specific clinical condition, but the word is overused, even by some doctors.
dont know if its depression or heading that way but at the moment the main thing i feel is apathy, i simply cant be bothered with anything.
i have had a shit start to the year, i am on the sick with a bad back, i dont even want to go back to work, if it wasnt for the fact that ssp wont pay my bills, i wouldnt go.
but i dont think i am doing myself any favours being off cos i am just getting worse and worse and less interested in anything.
give your head a shake time i think
Earthy x
Quote by a well known medical site
The diagnosis of depression is made when several core features are present:
pervasive low mood
loss of interest and enjoyment (anhedonia)
reduced energy and diminished activity.
Other features can also be present, including:
poor concentration and attention
poor self-esteem or self-confidence
ideas of guilt and unworthiness
a bleak pessimistic view of the future
thinking about, planning, or attempting suicide
crying for no reason
disturbed sleep
poor appetite
decreased interest in sex.

The ones in red are what the works doctor asked me and after i answered he immediatly said you are suffering depression and to go see my GP.
So if you can relate to most of the above i say see your GP
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a well known medical site]The diagnosis of depression is made when several core features are present:
pervasive low mood
loss of interest and enjoyment (anhedonia)
reduced energy and diminished activity.
Other features can also be present, including:
poor concentration and attention
poor self-esteem or self-confidence
ideas of guilt and unworthiness
a bleak pessimistic view of the future
thinking about, planning, or attempting suicide
crying for no reason
disturbed sleep
poor appetite
decreased interest in sex.

The ones in red are what the works doctor asked me and after i answered he immediatly said you are suffering depression and to go see my GP.
So if you can relate to most of the above i say see your GP
I was asked all of those Goosey wave..... depends on ya Dr I suppose. And once I had been given any meds, I had to go weekly to see my Doctor. So I dont think anti D's are given out freely by some.
Yer local doctor probably didnt set his or her heart on being a GP when they started studying medicine.
As a result a lot of GPs (not all) arent very good. Heres a link to the national guidelines on how to treat depression.

If your doctor doesnt approach it this way they are probably extremely good or more often absolutely crap.
Well
I stopped taking pills I was on under doc care because of the side effects (weight gain) and they actually were not working just making me sleep. Had a week to clear drugs out of my system before beginning new ones. Am now displaying signs of Bipolar!! Doc says keep taking new tablets and hopefully they will stabilise mood and see you in 6 weeks...cheers thanks for that. sad.
Saturday fell into very black hole....Poor husband downstairs crying cos he couldn't help me.....How guilty do I feel for what I am doing to him! :(.
ive currently been signed off work with depression, and its nice to know im not on my own finding this site has made me realise that people out there do know and understand jus how i feel
Quote by naughtynymphos1
I think the word depression is used far to easy and sometimes people are just feeling a bit low, i remember a while back my hubby going to the doc about a totally unrelated issue to depression and the doc gave him prozac :shock: he wasnt drepressed and he didnt take the pills but docs just had them out far to easy now days

I also wondered about this. I never quite understood what depression actually is, and how they diagnose it, from just feeling a bit low, which we all suffer from.
I have of course felt low in my life through the death of my Mum, to worrys over my Grandaughter but...in each case I would not have gone to the doctor, as for me I felt it was just the situation I found myself in at the time. If I had gone to the doctors I wonder if he would have given me anti depressants too.
It does seem to me that doctors can sometimes give out pills willy nilly, when maybe a lot dont need them just someone to talk too?
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Its about time the people woke up and smelt the roses.

I think that`s the point people are trying to make !!!
There are plenty of people suffering from a serious illness and depression is a very serious illness ...but there are also plenty of freeloaders just jumping on the bandwagon and taking advantage of the rest of us who find it hard to get up in the morning to face the world, but do take our responsibilities seriously and pull ourselves together and just get on with it !
Wont argue with that view flower. lol
Quote by benrums0n
Yer local doctor probably didnt set his or her heart on being a GP when they started studying medicine.
As a result a lot of GPs (not all) arent very good. Heres a link to the national guidelines on how to treat depression.

If your doctor doesnt approach it this way they are probably extremely good or more often absolutely crap.

I would never call a doctor crap. :shock: Maybe some doctors are more reluctant to give out pills than others are. Just a thought.
i was at the funeral today of my beautiful friend who killed herself- she suffered from depression.....
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i was at the funeral today of my beautiful friend who killed herself- she suffered from depression.....

:therethere:
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i was at the funeral today of my beautiful friend who killed herself- she suffered from depression.....

That is really sad, am sorry for the loss of your friend. kiss
:therethere: :therethere: :therethere: maz xxx
I'm a strong believer that talking can help depression. It can (for many) be all that is needed for someone with mild depression, and can significantly help moderate and maybe even severe depression.
I know that counselling is rarely the first thing offered by the doc - they often just reach for the 'scrip pad. But talking - sometimes to a friend but most often to a person who is trained to ask the right kinds of questions, and who knows not to tell someone what to do all the time - should be the first 'treatment', it should go on as long as necessary and drugs should be added to that - not the other way round.
I'm not saying drugs are no use by any means - but without being helped to deal with the feelings and thoughts by bringing them out into the open, the drugs are only part of the process of coming out of the dark.
I am not an expert in any way, by the way. But I have suffered from moderate depression in the past and by God I needed someone to talk to. My mind was killing me. And it's so hard to see your way out by yourself.
I have to say I agree with some of the posts here that I didn't know what depression really was. I perhaps thought in my immature naivety that it was people who used it as an excuse. And I am sure in some cases that is true, lets face it there are a lot of excuses that folk make to get out of work, and most of us will have used a few of them from time to time lol.
But depression of which ever severity is one of the most awful things to have to deal with and just as difficult for your family and friends too.
All I can say is my sympathies to anyone is going through depression. I would also urge anyone who feels depressed to seek help asap, as I feel the longer it is left the worse it can get and the longer it takes to get better. Sometimes the medical profession is unwilling to take depression seriously but i strongly urge anyone depressed to persist to get the help the need and deserve.
Some useful sites have already been mentioned but its worth mentioning about Samaritans, everyone knows them, but they can truly be a life saver!
Take care, be safe
Well it is something you have to take seriously. I myself am currently have depression, but I'm pleased to say that my suffering stage has lifted. And why, because of the pill's(i'm on Citalopram) and counselling.
Being able to tell people your depressed is the hardest. I found telling strangers and people you just met where the first people I told before close friends but I still have not told my family, although my g/f has supported me since Novemeber.
For me I also had stress two years ago at work, and stayed in my job until December 07, but now I'm on a 6 month career break to sort myself out.
I had a sneeky suspicion that it was my job that was killing me. So other than the pills and counselling, taking time off work was a massive release, and in the first weeks I was sleeping for 12-14 hours a night, catching up on 14 years of constant early starts. I realised I wanted to do a little travelling and I would recommend (after asking your doctor if they think your safe to do so) a little bit. I went for 4 weeks from Iceland to Scandinavia and Eastern Europe. When I got back things had changed, no more anxiety, and I had re-discovered my former self.
As a result, I'm now looking for a new job and only taking one that suits me, going to the Doctor's today to start coming off the pills and I have only one real side effect from my medication, which is in bed where I have gone from a two minute wonder to marathon man.
So having depression for me was just an opportunity to push the reset button, it just depends after that how long it takes to re-boot to an old programme that worked.
Both me and my house mates can go in to dark holes as we call them we both are ment to take tablets for this i dont see the point as I find ways to fight it i.e. making sure my work and home life isnt stress full.
I can become down very easy and when I do become down richard is great he helps stop me geting to down if you get what mean.
At the moment i'm on a high lol xx
Being around loved ones who are depressed is hard on that person as mum and sister suffer really badly. the are both good at the moment thought. but everyone is different on how they deal with it my mum gets help through counselling where as my sister has found tablets have worked for her. for people that have never suffered or been around someone who has make me upset about there flippant comments ''they just need to pull then selves together'' mad
I wanted to thank some of the people on here who have Pm me to offer support. My new meds are starting to help although not as effective as the doctor or myself would hope, and I have been offered more councelling which I will take. Hopefully things looking up, thanks again to all and I wish you all good health and happiness.
Shani x
Oh and I forgot to say we have just booked 2 weeks in Jamaica for July to get rid of all that stress yay smile
Have a fantastic time, and I hope the break does you good.
If you want to make it any less stressful, I could come with you to carry the cases innocent
XX W
ditto that have a great time - ditto what wenchy said i can cook clean babysit fluff........... to make things erm easier lol :lol:
nice try but erm.....no lmao
im also pleased that it seems people are taking depression seriously, and that it is being realised as an illness, rather then jus down in the dumps.....id also like to thank those who have pm'd me. still not there yet, back to docs tuesday so see what he says
Not sure if its been mentioned as I haven't read the whole thread but..
Living with someone who suffers from depression can be hell as well....
Depression is an ilness that requires proper treatment and its a good thing that so many people are seeking the help they need......It is nothing to be ashamed of....
I have experience of living with someone suffering from depression and there is little that can be done without proper measured medical assistance ......
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Not sure if its been mentioned as I haven't read the whole thread but..
Living with someone who suffers from depression can be hell as well....
Depression is an ilness that requires proper treatment and its a good thing that so many people are seeking the help they need......It is nothing to be ashamed of....
I have experience of living with someone suffering from depression and there is little that can be done without proper measured medical assistance ......

worship
And the responsibility & pressure it brings with it can be overpowering.