Different language?

9 Feb 2005

Ok, whats so difficult to understand in the following sentence please confused

: :
(Single men please dont PM/Email uninvited. Thank you)
Should we maybe write it in Swahili or Italian? Where are we going wrong? Is it rude or cheeky of us to request this? We're not against single guys. We have had MMF's, but surely we're within our rights to decide when we want a single guy? evil

Sheesh.... :shock:
1,2,3,4........10
Thats better biggrin

9 Feb 2005

Quote by nandslondon
Ok, whats so difficult to understand in the following sentence please : :
(Single men please dont PM/Email uninvited. Thank you)
Should we maybe write it in Swahili or Italian? Where are we going wrong? Is it rude or cheeky of us to request this? We're not against single guys. We have had MMF's, but surely we're within our rights to decide when we want a single guy?
Sheesh.... :shock:
1,2,3,4........10
Thats better

Its one of those difficult questions, so frequently discussed in the Cafe. Solve this one, & maybe you could start on world peace & a cure for the common cold next. sad

9 Feb 2005

I'm not sure I understand the "Don't contact me unless I contact you first" thing. What if the person you decide to contact has the same rule as you? What if everyone had that rule?
Nobody would talk to anyone.
Ever. dunno

9 Feb 2005

What happens if you email them back saying "What part of no single males did you not understand?"
I mean if you cut and paste it as in a blanket email.
Or are we talking hundreds of the fekkers ?
Banderas.x

9 Feb 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
I'm not sure I understand the "Don't contact me unless I contact you first" thing. What if the person you decide to contact has the same rule as you? What if everyone had that rule?
Nobody would talk to anyone.
Ever.

Now, thats not very likely is it....
Besides, if someone had "No couples need apply" in their signature, thats it, we woudln't No questions asked.
When we are ready for a single guy to contact us, we will change our signature to "in need of an extra penis - please get in touch"
;)

9 Feb 2005

Quote by nandslondon
surely we're within our rights to decide when we want a single guy?

This implies that it's OK for you to make first contact, but not them. Am I reading you correctly?

9 Feb 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
surely we're within our rights to decide when we want a single guy?

This implies that it's OK for you to make first contact, but not them. Am I reading you correctly?
YES, you are.
Do we not have that right ?

9 Feb 2005

E-mails are free so I guess they figure that either you will ignore them or reply favourably.
What have they got to lose?

9 Feb 2005

Quote by nandslondon
surely we're within our rights to decide when we want a single guy?

This implies that it's OK for you to make first contact, but not them. Am I reading you correctly?
YES, you are.
Do we not have that right ?
Frankly, no. If they're not allowed to contact you unsolicited, what gives you the right to contact them without being invited to?

9 Feb 2005

Quote by Parrot
E-mails are free so I guess they figure that either you will ignore them or reply favourably.
What have they got to lose?

Well, considering we've already made it perfectly clear in our signature that we're not currently looking for a male: what they've got to lose is the chance of a meet sometime in the future. If they can't respect a simple request not to be emailed / im'd by them, we'd have to ask what other rules / boundaries would they not respect in the bedroom.

9 Feb 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
surely we're within our rights to decide when we want a single guy?

This implies that it's OK for you to make first contact, but not them. Am I reading you correctly?
YES, you are.
Do we not have that right ?
Frankly, no. If they're not allowed to contact you unsolicited, what gives you the right to contact them without being invited to?
But you said 'first contact'. We would not email / IM them. We would speak to them in the forum first. As they should do with us.

9 Feb 2005

Quote by nandslondon
E-mails are free so I guess they figure that either you will ignore them or reply favourably.
What have they got to lose?

Well, considering we've already made it perfectly clear in our signature that we're not currently looking for a male: what they've got to lose is the chance of a meet sometime in the future. If they can't respect a simple request not to be emailed / im'd by them, we'd have to ask what other rules / boundaries would they not respect in the bedroom.
As a single male, I don't have a problem with people saying they don't want to be contacted. It may be very frustrating at times if someone is clearly gorgeous & in my area etc, but apart from anything else, it is clearly a waste of my time & theirs if I ignore it & email them anyway. I don't wish to be a nuisance to anyone, & I have better things to do with my time. dunno

9 Feb 2005

Quote by nandslondon
surely we're within our rights to decide when we want a single guy?

This implies that it's OK for you to make first contact, but not them. Am I reading you correctly?
YES, you are.
Do we not have that right ?
Frankly, no. If they're not allowed to contact you unsolicited, what gives you the right to contact them without being invited to?
But you said 'first contact'. We would not email / IM them. We would speak to them in the forum first. As they should do with us.
So you're going to ask for permission in the forum?

9 Feb 2005

Treat it as junk mail...your gonna get this crap through your letter box wether you want it or not, we all do at some point.

9 Feb 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
surely we're within our rights to decide when we want a single guy?

This implies that it's OK for you to make first contact, but not them. Am I reading you correctly?
YES, you are.
Do we not have that right ?
Frankly, no. If they're not allowed to contact you unsolicited, what gives you the right to contact them without being invited to?
But you said 'first contact'. We would not email / IM them. We would speak to them in the forum first. As they should do with us.
So you're going to ask for permission in the forum?
Thank you HungryP.
Ice - is that really too much to ask.
Yes, we would chat in the forum first, then ask if its ok to continue the conversation via PM.

9 Feb 2005

Quote by nandslondon
surely we're within our rights to decide when we want a single guy?

This implies that it's OK for you to make first contact, but not them. Am I reading you correctly?
YES, you are.
Do we not have that right ?
Frankly, no. If they're not allowed to contact you unsolicited, what gives you the right to contact them without being invited to?
But you said 'first contact'. We would not email / IM them. We would speak to them in the forum first. As they should do with us.
So you're going to ask for permission in the forum?
Thank you HungryP.
Ice - is that really too much to ask.
Yes, we would chat in the forum first, then ask if its ok to continue the conversation via PM.
No, it's not too much to ask, I was just trying to clarify your rules.
For the record, do not PM me unless I give you permission. smile

9 Feb 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
For the record, do not PM me unless I give you permission.

Crystal clear.
.....although may we suggest you put it in your signature.

9 Feb 2005

Quote by nandslondon

For the record, do not PM me unless I give you permission.

Crystal clear.
.....although may we suggest you put it in your signature.
Why would I want to do that? We understand each other now. I don't see why I would need to remind you of it in every post.

9 Feb 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
Why would I want to do that? We understand each other now. I don't see why I would need to remind you of it in every post.

Ice, if only it were that easy.
Then there have been no need for our original post.
rolleyes

9 Feb 2005

Quote by nandslondon

Why would I want to do that? We understand each other now. I don't see why I would need to remind you of it in every post.

Ice, if only it were that easy.
Then there have been no need for our original post.
rolleyes

To be honest, I think anyone who initiates contact in spite of your sig is probably not going to take any notice of your post on the subject either. It'll happen no matter how much you complain, and OK you need to let off steam, but now that you've done that, maybe it would easier to just ignore them?

9 Feb 2005

Quote by nandslondon
E-mails are free so I guess they figure that either you will ignore them or reply favourably.
What have they got to lose?

Well, considering we've already made it perfectly clear in our signature that we're not currently looking for a male: what they've got to lose is the chance of a meet sometime in the future. If they can't respect a simple request not to be emailed / im'd by them, we'd have to ask what other rules / boundaries would they not respect in the bedroom.
**Best Tony Blair voice**
Can I just make it perfectly clear that when I said "What have they got to lose", I was saying it from their viewpoint and NOT mine.
In a perfect world, no rules would ever be broken.