cant sleep and have a needto offload as im feeling rather sorry for myself :sad:
Recently a knee injury has made me realise just how much i take for granted, and some of it is just the simple things in life
how do you carry a hot cuppa when your on crutches?
initially having strip washes but now very careful awkward baths because cant stand in the shower
endless periods of isolation, just how much crap is on tv???
feeling a sense of loss of role because im not at work
being housebound unless someone takes me out, not being able to drive and loss of independence has been the worst
not even had sex!!!!
thankfully i know this is all temporary but i cant help thinking of those people who have to adapt permanantly to disabilities and how do they cope
What do you think would be the worst thing for you to adapt to if you found yourself suddenly with a disability? and what would you hate most to lose the use of?????
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I had my hand all cut up a few years back. I got shoes with velcro and had to do everything one handed. Two hands would have been worse. I could manage to find another way to get around, but to loose my hands, I would need to much help from others. I do not like being dependant.
All in all I found it something to over come.
Now all I am left with are some scares and an odd sense of touch where my nerves were cut. I am still learning how to feel again, even after so long.
Travis
All in all I found it something to over come.
Now all I am left with are some scares and an odd sense of touch where my nerves were cut. I am still learning how to feel again, even after so long.
Travis
I think most physical disabilities are surmountable given time and patience (not that I am particularly gifted in that department :-|). I would hate to go deaf, I think it must be very isolating. If I had to choose between deafness and blindness, I'd rather lose my sight - I can remember what things look like, and what colours are. To only be able to communicate face-to-face and with a limited number of people at a time would be frustrating to say the least, although it would be nice not to have to hear arguments and heated exchanges ;)
Forum Virgin
my wife has a disability and for that reason thinks she is unattractive to other men, we are having our first 3 some soon and she is worried he will be disappointed and react badly.
he knows all about her but she is still concerned because her disability affects her movement a bit
anybody else had to surmount this sort of problem.
he knows all about her but she is still concerned because her disability affects her movement a bit
anybody else had to surmount this sort of problem.
Forum Virgin
Quote by hollie
my wife has a disability and for that reason thinks she is unattractive to other men, we are having our first 3 some soon and she is worried he will be disappointed and react badly.
he knows all about her but she is still concerned because her disability affects her movement a bit
anybody else had to surmount this sort of problem.
I have a disability which affects my movements and limbs. I have a condition called HS - cant spell the full long medical name, basically infected sweat glands in the armpits - I have had this condition for 10 years only diagnosed 4 years ago, since hardly any doctors have heard of it. It causes scar tissue to form in areas where pubic hair grows also causes pain since the scarring presses on nerves and tendons, making walking and moving at all very painfull.
I find I am very aware of my scars (last May I had a skin graft after having the area exsized) I think the scarring looks like Jaws tok a bite out of me but hubby says its not that bad.
I have noticed when Im fully dressed I can hide my scars so dont bother much about them, however when getting naked I am VERY aware of them and how they look. Once I am naked and having fun I forget about the scars, the pain well I get that carried away I forget my name most of the time
My advice to Mrs Hollie would be take things at YOUR pace, when you are comfortable you will know, then you will enjoy yourself.
We meet almost exclusivly single men, and NEVER had anyone say anything about my condition, the way I walk, the fact that I keep my stockings on (to cover the donor graft site) and I also keep a top on sometimes. Its all down to how I feel on the day and whether I have met the guy before as to if I keep half dressed or not.
If the guy who is joining you both knows about your condition, he prob wont say anything about it, I always say upfront and expect that I will put people off, rarely do tho cos I am still me regardless of this horrible condition and how it limits me.
Please feel free to PM me if you want to ask anything, and I will do my best to answer any questions you have.
Horny wife
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Have not "quoted" these two as the replies start to get too long and hard to read.
I have had a partial disability since birth which does affect initial appearance to others when meeting for first time. Now that I've reached a certain age, I look back with regret that I allowed it to keep me in so much when I was in my twenties etc. Point about hollie taking things at own pace is valid, at least to an extent. Don't give up and let it become no pace at all (if of course you really want to do something) or you might regret it later in life.
Best wishes with your decission
Plim
I have had a partial disability since birth which does affect initial appearance to others when meeting for first time. Now that I've reached a certain age, I look back with regret that I allowed it to keep me in so much when I was in my twenties etc. Point about hollie taking things at own pace is valid, at least to an extent. Don't give up and let it become no pace at all (if of course you really want to do something) or you might regret it later in life.
Best wishes with your decission
Plim
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I have lived with disability for most of my life.
My brother had a muscle wasting disease and died as a teenager. To watch him fade from a child who could run and play football to a teenager who didnt have the strength to smile was horrible.
My son, as some of you already know, has very severe autism. He has no communication, very little understanding and is totally confused by the world. He is constantly frustrated as he struggles to get across exactly what he wants and this leads to agression.
I cannot think how any one disability is better or worse than another. We have much to be grateful for but we dont appreciate just how lucky we are.
On the upside though .... we get straight to the front of the queue for the Log Flume at Alton Towers!!
You gotta laugh! The alternative is a very dark place!!
My brother had a muscle wasting disease and died as a teenager. To watch him fade from a child who could run and play football to a teenager who didnt have the strength to smile was horrible.
My son, as some of you already know, has very severe autism. He has no communication, very little understanding and is totally confused by the world. He is constantly frustrated as he struggles to get across exactly what he wants and this leads to agression.
I cannot think how any one disability is better or worse than another. We have much to be grateful for but we dont appreciate just how lucky we are.
On the upside though .... we get straight to the front of the queue for the Log Flume at Alton Towers!!
You gotta laugh! The alternative is a very dark place!!
i have lived with people around me who have had pyhsical and mental disabilities and from this i have learnt never to regret a thing, as your life of what you know can easily be changed....
people who hv come across me hav always said im wiser then my years... and this is from being forced to grow up before my years....
you can and never will know what the person with the disability actually feels but being second hand of the pain and ride of emotions shows you a glimpse of what their turmoil is 24/7
people who hv come across me hav always said im wiser then my years... and this is from being forced to grow up before my years....
you can and never will know what the person with the disability actually feels but being second hand of the pain and ride of emotions shows you a glimpse of what their turmoil is 24/7
Forum Virgin
Quote by Funlovers2009
You gotta laugh! The alternative is a very dark place!!
I am sorry to hear about your family, I am new to the site as well as the forums.
I am very lucky in the fact that it is just me not my kids or anyone else in my family who are disabled, and tbh I take my hat of to anyone who has to cope with severe disabilities - I dont class mine as very severe, but have a friend who has a disabled son (many things not just one disability) and seeing my youngest who is younger than my mates son doing things her boy wont ever do must hurt. But she doesnt allow it to take over her families lives.
I also think the part of your post I quoted is very true and often say it myself when having a really rubbish day.
Horny wife
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