All I want to say whether you have a disability or not you still have feelings and these are important, and should be respected :P . I was in a serious road traffic accident in Oct 2001, I died 4 times, shattered my femar, neck, back, damaged nerves etc. Was in a coma was give 2% chance of making it. :shock:
I am glad to be here with disabilities, I walk with a brace and stick, but this does make me less human or have less feelings, I have met a number of very nice people on here and they know who they are. Often I dont publise my disabilities and on bad days I do hide too.
As far as using my disability, I never would tell anyone till I had to as wouldn't want to be pitied.
interesting question....
but what are we calling a "disability"??? I have no problem, playing with someone if i feel attracted to them.....
however it did have a problem with the ad... not the sentiment, but the way it was written, because to me it looked like someone was trying to take adavntage of a situation to get there end away, so to speak (rightly or wrongly) rather than for it to be a mutual thing.....maybe i read something into it that wasn't there......maybe because he didn't say anthing about that in his ads ( the 5 on the site) and then because he got obnoxious about it....
Tania... you know i respect you a lot... on this one i think you are way off the mark this time.... or maybe you were playing devils advocate, I really don't know.......because i think at the munches i have been at i think i have seen almost ever different type of person being there....
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i havent got the energy to post on this topic at the moment but will come back to it later.......until then something to consider......
Is it a disability that handicaps a person or in fact society itself?
If I read Tania right, and I may be wrong on this, she is saying that the Forum has some unwritten rules. This is not news; the rules are there and can’t be disputed. They are an etiquette if you like and need time to be understood, not so much by the categories of people she states, but certainly by the newbies who need time to learn what the rules are and how to navigate safely through the Forum. I don’t think for example, that there is a group of people dedicated to harassing old people, but if you are new and ask a less than well thought out question, or are unfortunate enough to make a spelling mistake, ungrammatical sentence or mention some subject, the very least you can expect is a huge amount of piss-taking. I assume what Tania is saying is, is this kind of behaviour really necessary?
I may not totally agree with the wording of Tania’s post, but if I have understood the spirit of it, then I can’t help but support it.
If the Forum is to grow and prosper, then it needs new people with new ideas who feel confident in posting. The mentor scheme is an excellent way of gently introducing people into the Forums. Four pages of piss-taking is far less effective.
On the disability issue, would I play with someone blind? , deaf?…yes, an amputee?...yes ,in a wheelchair? …yes, provided I liked them as people. Would I play with a Paraplegic, incontinent burns victim?......That would take some serious thought.
Stormwalker
I can't say the overall idea fusses me and I'd take each person on their own merits like I do everyone else. Mind you, I spend a good bit of time around disabeld people (Mental and physical) at work, so I suppose I don't get phased by it too easily.
It's the same as everything else in this life, never say never. Judge each individual on there merits, it sall down to the person and the situation as every other encounter would be.
dammit polo. just as i came back to delete, you had to post didntcha? all i can do is a "post deleted" type edit now.
neil - struggling hard with the wording on this one!!
Interestingly, everyone seems to be talking about physical disability. How would people feel about a mental disability? The chap on Big Brother would seem to have had no problems with the ladies despite his Torrets. However I think generally people are more understanding of a physical disability, than they are of a mental one. Fear perhaps?
Stormwalker
