I shall try to word this question carefully, though no doubt will fail abismally!
I noticed a thread in LMU, where a chap was putting forward his availablity to meet/play with less able bodied couples etc...
the thread degenerated a little, as the guy was initially ridiculed, then defended by others, and his responce was then perhaps a tad defensive... so all in all, the request for a *meet* lost its way.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/83684.html
But this leaves me thinking:
What are the thoughts of ALL of us here on SH surrounding ability/disability?
Are there any couples or singles on the site with issues surrounding physical ability who might like to voice their opinion?
Obviously we all have desires and needs, lets hope that there is room enough on here (an otherwise very open minded and understanding site) to accept all for what they are, and what might turn them on?
>law permitting, obviously!! hehe<
any thoughts?
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oneforall
In all honesty.......i would rather play with abled bodied people.....and thats my choice...but i won't knock other peoples preferences!
Agreed Darkfire!
The thread raised the issue for me...
though its the *issue* of disability within the realms of this site that could/should form quite a good discussion with hopefully some good points raised.
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oneforall
SH rules (the unwritten ones) state clearly that a person using these forums may not be:
illiterate
disabled
old
too young
need I go on?
My personal take is that everyone is entitled to the same things in life. I have met men on a wheelchair that I wouldn't mind spending time with. I have a friend who was born blind in one eye and his 'good' eye only works 10% and now he is losing it. I have known people who are hard of hearing and cannot hear you when you whisper sweet things to them but I have adjusted to accommodate them. I look at the person, not the disability.
Maybe it is because I am disabled myself. Maybe it is because my ex partner left me with the excuse that he couldn't go on living with a disabled person that I am more understanding and accepting of others.
Anyway, live and let live! What is not good for you, may be perfect for someone else and we don' t need to put every thread under the microscope and try to prove ourselves better than the poster. (Unfortunately, this is the trend lately and I am just wondering whether this is the reason some very fine people do not post any more.)
in the words often heard in that other great and democratic institution of ours:
HERE HERE !!!
(hear hear?..whatever!)
to tania.... Live & Let Live!
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oneforall
and the subject wasssss....
Disability/swinging etc....
discuss please?
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oneforall
What do you mean by 'dissabled'? Blind? Deaf? Quadraplegic?
I guess it is all down to personal boundaries, for some the very thought of 'playing' with a person with only a minor dissability would be a major turn off, for others the boundaries may be a lot further away.
To be honest its not something that we have experienced really, although my partner has MS we don't actually see this as any form of dissability. Perhaps as the condition progresses, and her physical condition deteriorates we may have to have a re think.
SH peeps are no different to the rest of society, although I have to say that I think our lifestyle, or at least the SH part of it, tends to make us less judgemental than many in society.
has this thread now been officially hijacked....??
or would you like to know our experiences of getting a wheelchair in the hot-tub..??
:shock:
i will explain my coment in the LMU post.....
the post started off in lowercase and then went into capitals
it was the bit where he said
quote:::MAYBE I COULD HELP THE PARTNER TO SATISFY THE OTHER WHEN SHE OR HE EVEN CANNOT PROVIDE.
I have two male friends who are disabled. Both are in wheelchairs for different reasons and have different levels of abilities.
They both have active sex lives and have had long term relationships.
I don't personally have any problem with being intimate with any woman that I find attractive. So can't really forsee where a disability would cause me any problem.
I think that we all have boundaries that can't be crossed and I am sure that there are boundaries that I would cross that others wouldn't. I have a problem with skin disorders esp those that affect the hands... anything like eczema or psoriasis on the hands is a turn off for me. I am sure that in most peoples' minds I am uptight because of this.
For me a disability in others would only cause me a problem if it prevented that person from doing what I found erotic (in terms of a sexual relationship) and hands being a very erotic part of the body for me would have to be soft and smooth.
I hope that I have said this in a thoughtful way and have not offended anyone. But I wanted to add my opinion.