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Main Entry: dis·cre·tion
Pronunciation: dis-'kre-sh&n
Function: noun
1 : the quality of being discreet : CIRCUMSPECTION; especially : cautious reserve in speech
Some people should learn this word. When personal information is given in trust and discretion is assured..................then I do not want to find my information being given out freely to other users without my permission.
If you have an axe to grind against other users........then do not use innocent parties like myself. I have a fantastic partner and I have children. I do not want them being put at any risk from those that can not be grown up enough to behave in a responsible way.
You say you are discrete.....................so act it!
Dave_Notts
PS At this point, I must thank the mods for dealing with this very quickly. I will be more wary who has my details in the future.
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Discretion
I cannot agree more....... i'm very careful just who has any personal information about me whether its my MSN, mobile, pic, or just what i do for a living. Be very wary just who you give details to, and maybe a little evasive with those whom you do not know. Some people may not be as discreet as yourself.
Take care and play safe....... equi-princess xxx
Take care and play safe....... equi-princess xxx
Unfotunately knowledge is power, and some like to use power to their advantage. It is very sad indeed that your trust has been abused in this way. The real beef I have with these issues is that it is the innocent who end up getting judged along with the guilty.
I usually take steps in trusting someone. I firstly contact via email (not my main email address I hasten to add), if I then feel I can trust them they get added to my MSN and . I can then begin to verify (usually by swapping pics etc), that they are who they claim to be.
Giving them my mobile number would be one of the very last steps when I was absolutely sure and then finally (and hopefully) a meet.
I usually take steps in trusting someone. I firstly contact via email (not my main email address I hasten to add), if I then feel I can trust them they get added to my MSN and . I can then begin to verify (usually by swapping pics etc), that they are who they claim to be.
Giving them my mobile number would be one of the very last steps when I was absolutely sure and then finally (and hopefully) a meet.
Quote by Jags
The passing on of telephone numbers without consent is unforgivable. It's a violation of trust and a betrayal of the ethos of this site. Permisssion must always be sought for the transmission of any personal information about other members at any time - and that includes munches or after munch parties.
Quote by UKman37
Unfotunately knowledge is power, and some like to use power to their advantage. It is very sad indeed that your trust has been abused in this way. The real beef I have with these issues is that it is the innocent who end up getting judged along with the guilty.
I usually take steps in trusting someone. I firstly contact via email (not my main email address I hasten to add), if I then feel I can trust them they get added to my MSN and . I can then begin to verify (usually by swapping pics etc), that they are who they claim to be.
Giving them my mobile number would be one of the very last steps when I was absolutely sure and then finally (and hopefully) a meet.
Granted..................
but when you have given that information after taking precautions then discretion and trust is the only defence you have.
When you have been given it.............. then do not abuse it.
I do not give my information out to many........but when I do.....I expect discretion.
So after you have followed all your own guidance above and given the information........and at that point they give out your info........have you been careful?
That is what has happened to me. I did not pm anyone my info or give it in an e-mail to just anybody. Trust starts somewhere...............or there would be no swinging as nobody would trust anybody to give them any info to actually meet.
People know on this site how to take precautions and take judgements on who should have personal info........it is those that recieve it that should learn discretion.
Dave_Notts
Sorry to hear you had a problem Dave (not that I know what it was but sounds serious)
Like most people here I have got my self throw away addresses so that when time wasters get you down you just start again.
I also bought a second chip for my phone that only goes in when I wish to talk so no fear of constant probs nothing like a phone always switched off to annoy annoying people
You can tell those who will give you a hard time by always asking and never giving.
Any way best wishes
Like most people here I have got my self throw away addresses so that when time wasters get you down you just start again.
I also bought a second chip for my phone that only goes in when I wish to talk so no fear of constant probs nothing like a phone always switched off to annoy annoying people
You can tell those who will give you a hard time by always asking and never giving.
Any way best wishes
Quote by Dawn_Mids
The passing on of telephone numbers without consent is unforgivable. It's a violation of trust and a betrayal of the ethos of this site. Permisssion must always be sought for the transmission of any personal information about other members at any time - and that includes munches or after munch parties.
Jeeeeez.
This is something I learned years ago. Albeit from a security point of view, rather than discretion.
If "Bob" wants "Alan's" phone number etc. You ring "Bob" and tell him so.
I'm gobsmacked that someone wouldn't have the common courtesy (leave it !) to not do it that way.
Sorry to hear of your troubles Dave
