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The Flintstones, tallnhairy, neilinleeds
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nice to see you too Neil ;)
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:rotflmao:I have been pondering this one for quite while now. Firstly, I have to thank Neil, you saved my fingers a journey across the keyboard. I could not agree with you more.
There are a number of individuals on here that have no idea what discretion is and use it as an “ooh look at me”. Although these individuals might appeal to some, all they do for me is just piss me off. My thoughts are that they are just shallow individuals with nobody’s interest at heart apart from their own.
People using others for their own gain has never had an appeal to me, same as those individuals who get a kick out of going behind peoples backs and talking about them.
There are a number of individuals on here that have no idea what discretion is and use it as an “ooh look at me”. Although these individuals might appeal to some, all they do for me is just piss me off. My thoughts are that they are just shallow individuals with nobody’s interest at heart apart from their own.
People using others for their own gain has never had an appeal to me, same as those individuals who get a kick out of going behind peoples backs and talking about them.
Quote by neilinleeds
But why is it different? That's what i was getting at. Why is it not ok to talk about who and what we did? Why is it still private, intimate, personal, behind closed doors (even when it's not!) ?
it seems terribly ... British for want of a better word!
oh come on marya! saying 'i shagged mr x and mrs x last night, we 69'ed for hours, he had a massive cock, she was a bit rubbish, but on the whole mr and mrs x weren't half bad' is not at all the same thing as saying 'i had a right play last night thanks to SH, and got shagged silly by a lovely couple! because as soon as you drop the names in, you personalise the whole thing, and just chuck your little experience out there for public consumption.
what i do with certain people, even when certain other people know full well what i did with certain people, is no buggers business but mine. if i incidentally allow others to click on to the fact we played, mainly cos they were in the next bedroom and could hear / see us, well fair enough, but i ain't about to tell you what happened. always nice to leave 'em guessing with a wry smile! ((( smile, then everyone else will wonder what you been up to, or summat?! ;) )))
course, i have no problem with anyone coming on here saying that neilinleeds has a lovely willy, and he's a fucking great shag so he is! :P ;)
n x x x ;)
Totally agree with ya, Neil - well, except the bit about the lovely willy etc ...
Just asking the question. Devil's advocate, if you like. :twisted:
Nice to see ya btw
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Regarding SH, I have slept with people that have asked for complete discretion, it is/was given.
I have slept with other people who have no issue with others knowing we have had fun but I'm not the sort to shout their names from the rooftops.
you sleep a lot
I tend to sleep a lot when listening to you... :roll:
we like to be descreet about the people we have met and also like them to be the same, now there are some situations where others know what has happened and I dont mind this as long as its not shouted to all and sundrie, however we have had people in the chatroom telling us how much they enjoyed other night with us or asking if we have been to the location where we had met them which then gives away our quiet locations,
and also I have come across a profile where they mentioned my name!!!
I think people should maybe think about what they say before they type.
and also I have come across a profile where they mentioned my name!!!
I think people should maybe think about what they say before they type.
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In a way this discretion thing is a bit odd.
We chat very openly about sex in the chatrooms or Forum, we discuss or advertise quite graphicly our preferences, fantasies and what we have experienced so far.
We talk in great detail, erotically or clinically, about what we would like to do or have done to us.
Yet when it actually comes down to the doing, we clam up. And that's the accepted norm.
Not saying it's right or wrong - just saying.
I understand Marya's point and I am also puzzled, but in the opposite way. I can understand why people would not want to reveal intimate details of encounters to 3rd parties, but why do they chat so openly about their personal lives on a forum during their day to day posts?
Could it be that some members spend too much time talking about it rather than doing it?
I much prefer the latter and my PM box is always open btw ;) Quote by Kiss
Regarding SH, I have slept with people that have asked for complete discretion, it is/was given.
I have slept with other people who have no issue with others knowing we have had fun but I'm not the sort to shout their names from the rooftops.
you sleep a lot
I tend to sleep a lot when listening to you... :roll:
Nice one Kissy! :lol: :lol:
And well, I suppose they would discuss sleep a lot in Bed fordshire. :roll:
I agree that discretion is important and get angry when I see someone mouthing off in a chat room about what they did with X last night.. especially if X isnt in the room to tell them to shut it. I also have problems with people who use my real name in chatrooms. This happened twice the other night .. 2 different guys and the thing that is making me cross is I have no idea who they are or where we met and they wouldnt tell me. Nothing I can do about it except request via a whisper that they DONT use my name in chatrooms as its indiscrete. Would still love to know where they know me from tho' 
Quote by MikeNorth
Regarding SH, I have slept with people that have asked for complete discretion, it is/was given.
I have slept with other people who have no issue with others knowing we have had fun but I'm not the sort to shout their names from the rooftops.
you sleep a lot
I tend to sleep a lot when listening to you... :roll:
Nice one Kissy! :lol: :lol:
And well, I suppose they would discuss sleep a lot in Bed fordshire. :roll:
Your joke was almost as bad as mine! :giggle:
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I agree that discretion is important and get angry when I see someone mouthing off in a chat room about what they did with X last night.. especially if X isnt in the room to tell them to shut it. I also have problems with people who use my real name in chatrooms. This happened twice the other night .. 2 different guys and the thing that is making me cross is I have no idea who they are or where we met and they wouldnt tell me. Nothing I can do about it except request via a whisper that they DONT use my name in chatrooms as its indiscrete. Would still love to know where they know me from tho'
i saw something similar in the chat room last night
a couple asked a single male if they enjoyed themselves at the club on friday, he said yes but was knackered, the female of the couple said 'oh were we too much for you' making it blatantly obvious to all in the room they had played on the friday night, no consideration as to whether the single male wanted it making public knowledge
its a bit like a single male i have played with saying in the chat room, 'i am good, arent i earthy, she will tell you'
pisses me right off
Sex God
Bump.
I wouldn't go into a chatroom, start throwing names around saying 'I've had her, and him and them' etc etc but I don't mind people knowing who I've met. I have socials and fun meets so who's to know which is which? Just because I've met them doesn't mean I've shagged them does it? It's what's goes on between us ( if anything ) behind closed doors that stays secret
Sex God
Actually, I am really glad that this thread has come up. Despite the fact that this is a swinging site, I think that discretion is really important.
I don't mind people knowing that I have 'met' someone, but what (if anything) happened should be a private matter.
I would always set the expectation with anyone I was meeting that it was purely a social thing. For a start, it avoids putting pressure on a meeting and makes it easier for either party to walk away if they want to. If the chemistry is right and something happens then that is wonderful - but it is a matter between us.
Will
I don't mind people knowing that I have 'met' someone, but what (if anything) happened should be a private matter.
I would always set the expectation with anyone I was meeting that it was purely a social thing. For a start, it avoids putting pressure on a meeting and makes it easier for either party to walk away if they want to. If the chemistry is right and something happens then that is wonderful - but it is a matter between us.
Will
Sex God
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triple, with a cherry on
Just out of curiosity why did this thread in particular need 3 bumps in one hour?
Sex God
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The Flintstones, tallnhairy, neilinleeds
...goes for a lie down ....
Cx
That's quite a shaglist you've got there gel!! :giggle:
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Sex God
a cpl of years ago we used to go to clubs with a cpl and get a room have a cpl hours play about take a few pics and used to go out socially with this cpl really trusted them ,then a few months later a good freind of ours told us the male part had come to his house and showed him all our pics he had on a disk ,i was fuming the mrs totally stunned ,got on to the so called cpl his wife went mad ,after a year they parted(nothing to do with us ,she ended up having a affair )so takes us longer to trust again,the male of the so caled cpl still uses this site ,same username different woman that pisses me have played with a few single girls /cpls and took pics before but never would we dream of showing to others ,after playing with peeps we would maybe flirt joke with in chat but would never say what we got up to in public.
discretion is not only very important - it's also impolite!
it can depend on your job - 1 type of discretion and it can,
2 depend on your personal lives.
whatever the circs though - no one should be 'obvious' about other people unless the other person is happy about it.
just because this is a swinging site - it does not mean any and all need know about your life. Swingers have rights too.
at the end of the day - it comes down to common sense and politeness.
it can depend on your job - 1 type of discretion and it can,
2 depend on your personal lives.
whatever the circs though - no one should be 'obvious' about other people unless the other person is happy about it.
just because this is a swinging site - it does not mean any and all need know about your life. Swingers have rights too.
at the end of the day - it comes down to common sense and politeness.
Sex God
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Not very subtle are they? :giggle:
Subtle as a brick, me
I once met someone from here once who loudly gave out real names, locations, you name make it worse it was in a bar loud enough for everyone around us to hear!
It was information I didn't want or need to know and it was also easy for anyone nearby to overhear how our own meeting had been arranged, via a website called Swinging Heaven!
It wouldn't have been rocket science for someone at the next table to work out what kind of site Swinging Heaven was would it?
Of course our meet was brief, in time honoured fashion I "made my excuses and left".
Had they have got any further info on myself I take it I'd have been name checked too at their next meet!
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It was information I didn't want or need to know and it was also easy for anyone nearby to overhear how our own meeting had been arranged, via a website called Swinging Heaven!
It wouldn't have been rocket science for someone at the next table to work out what kind of site Swinging Heaven was would it?
Of course our meet was brief, in time honoured fashion I "made my excuses and left".
Had they have got any further info on myself I take it I'd have been name checked too at their next meet!
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Sex God
Unfortunately, some people don't understand that some people need discretion from the people that they meet. As others have said I wouldn't have a problem with people saying that they had met me, but I wouldn't apprieciate them filling in all the finer details of what, if anything, happened. Some people even think it's acceptable to tell others where someone works without thinking of the consequenses of doing so.... :shock:
