Disillusioned in Cheshire!!

5 Jan 2008

Right, this is probably going to come across as a 'Victor Meldrew' miserable type post - but I feel like i need to release some of my feelings, so I hope thats ok.
Do you ever get so disillusioned with this swinging lifestyle that you feel like jacking it all in? I know we have only been doing it since may last year, so probably havent even given ourselves chance to get established as it were, but do any of you long termers ever get like that.
Its not even the lifestyle per se that I dont like, I love it, I love the special feeling it gives me...kind of like an alter ego life that only me and a select few know about (just call me Batwoman lol

) and that its a naughty little secret that makes me feel that Im something more than the boring frumpy housewife i was before.
I would love to get more into it, and experience it more, its just that at the minute, I feel like that for two pins I could jack it all in for good. Like its too much effort at the minute, if you understand my meaning? This seems like such a contradictory post now Ive written it down.
Maybe its the weather thats making me feel like this, or the post christmas anti climax, or maybe my depression is rearing its ugly head again.....
Sorry if this all seems jumbled, I suppose I am trying to make sense of my feeling, or seeing if an objective person can help me to.

5 Jan 2008

Nothing to do with Christmas, the weather or depression, but yes - feel like jacking it all in sometimes and now is one of those times. We love the social aspect of it so we wouldn't stop going to munches or socials, or even meeting couples/individuals socially. Just one or two issues that have clouded our (OK mostly my) way of thinking right now.
It's not just you.

5 Jan 2008

Quote by Bonedigger
Sorry if this all seems jumbled, I suppose I am trying to make sense of my feeling, or seeing if an objective person can help me to.

Its not jumbled and I can't help but I do think many of us go through the stage of jacking it all in. I know I have, a couple of times. Then suddenly out of the blue or after I've not logged in for a week or two, something gets me hooked and I'm still here dunno

5 Jan 2008

I blame the weather... I blame the weather for everything
or the naighbours.
or commuting
or of course, there are those pesky....oh well...
lp

5 Jan 2008

Well... can only speak for us obviously but we have had periods where its all too much as you say so we don't play during that time.. then just as suddenly we may get the urge or chat to people who really make us want to and bingo its eyes and everything else down as quick as a flash..
There are no set rules is there... just whatever makes all concerned happy at the time..
If your not in the mood don't... But don't feel down about it its all normal.. :therethere:
Mike xx

5 Jan 2008

Do we ever get disillusioned? Oh crickey yes, at least once a week. But it is the same with all things, both on here and in real life, you move on and move past it.
I do hope that things soon start to feel a bit better for you both, but remember, you dont have to be physically swinging to be here lol

5 Jan 2008

We don't ever really think and feel like "jacking it all in" but we do have periods where we don't use the site for quite a while.
It happened last year, after a large succession of possible nice people turned out to be either not so nice or not two people :shock:, we thought, "we will give the site a bit of distance for a bit."
When we came back online we sent a few mails out and the first people who responded seemed really nice, chatted on msn had the good old fem/fem chat, and ended up meeting them and having a fantastic time both socially and otherwise, with a really nice couple.
Maybe the best thing is to have a "sabbatical" from SH as the old adage goes "you don't know what you've got till its gone."
The one thing we did miss though was the forums and coming on here and sharing our thoughts and reading some of you good peoples. biggrin

5 Jan 2008

Thanks you lot, youve all made me feel much better, hoping this is just a monor blip and that i will be ok very soon biggrin

Love yas all kiss

:kiss:

5 Jan 2008

Quote by Bonedigger
Thanks you lot, youve all made me feel much better, hoping this is just a monor blip and that i will be ok very soon
Love yas all :kiss:

I'm glad you are feeling much better
Plim :D
Your virtual swinger

5 Jan 2008

ty Plim

6 Jan 2008

is it something to do with Cheshire?
lp

6 Jan 2008

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Do we ever get disillusioned? Oh crickey yes, at least once a week. But it is the same with all things, both on here and in real life, you move on and move past it.
I do hope that things soon start to feel a bit better for you both, but remember, you dont have to be physically swinging to be here

Yeah but if you two would maybe pm or text an older tart and HER apprentice or even call in for a cuppa then......... :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:

6 Jan 2008

Quote by Bonedigger
ty Plim

Oh, Mrs. B, I do luv your kind messages.
Plim :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

7 Jan 2008

Quote by Bonedigger
Thanks you lot, youve all made me feel much better, hoping this is just a monor blip and that i will be ok very soon
Love yas all :kiss:

Glad you're feeling better hun, but I know the feeling too. It could just be the time of year tough, because I get bouts of depression it's not always easy to know the cause.
So maybe it just needs time to wear off before you can start enjoying things again.
:kiss::kiss::kiss:

7 Jan 2008

Maybe you just taking things a bit too seriously??
This is, after all, only supposed to be a bit of fun - a little tiny part of your life that adds spark and fun to mundane drudgery of day to day life.
We'd say take a step back and do some other things until you feel like having a bit of fun again - just don't force the issue.

7 Jan 2008

mrs bone hun just sit back and chat things over with your friends on here. its your friends that will get you through this tough time. we have all had these down times and mostly can share our feelings with you just so you know you not alone. passionkiss

:therethere:

7 Jan 2008

Do you know what, you lot are the best ever!!! I havent even met most of you, yet you have taken time out of your busy days to make me feel better.
I feel privilidged and all squiggly inside to be a part of this site, and to count you all as friends :inlove: :inlove: :inlove:
Thank you all for your wonderful support and words of kindness and sense!!
Love yas all to bits kiss

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