I would be very interested if any other single guys have problems getting a meet, with either a couple or single female,even if you have your profile filled in, have pics on your profile, and respectful to the people you are wanting to meet. Does anyone else think the site is becoming too clique. I would be interested in the chatter that comes from this question. thank you for reading this.
James
there are two different ways of answering this for me...
are the forums cliquey... possibly
are the forums anymore cliquey than the multitude of chatrooms.... not really....
you may call it cliquey, i would call it familarity..... in the respect that you get to know the people who frequent the same place as you... whether that is in the chatroom or the forum,
would you call a pub cliquey because the people in there knew each other and talked to each other.... probably not..
the other way i could answer it is to go "to the numbers"...... you have an ad in "men seeking women...
No. of ads in "men seeking women"...10836
No. of ads in "women seeking men"... 305
off the top of my head... appox 35 to 1 in the favour of those lovely single women....
means they can afford to be very choosey!!!
I had a female friend who had an add up... got 500 replies in one week.. and she took it down!
so the questions i would ask you....hand on heart:
does your ad stand out from the others????
have you given them reasons to say "yes i HAVE to meet that person"???
You've got to look at the ratio of single males to couples or single females who are looking for a single bloke.
Then remove a large section of that small percentage, because they will be looking for someone taller/shorter, older/younger, fatter/slimmer, blacker/whiter, closer/further away than you, and you are left with a very small universe that is "available" to you.
And then of that very small universe, a small subset will view you as being "their type" and worth meeting.
It's how the numbers stack up, mate. Single males are ten a penny, and speaking as 0.1 of a penny all I can say is be patient and stick with it. But don't expect to be in a different bed every week, coz it ain't going to happen. In four years I've met two couples for a total of 7 or 8 meets, and have had three social meetings which didn't go any further than a drink in a pub. I don't know, but I may well be about average in the luck stakes.
Frankly speaking Scorpio I have no idea what you mean, I'm out every night on a different date with couples and single females, almost all of them say yes. In fact I've just got in now from an all day bash with two 25 y o page 3 girls who were just demented about the prospect of meeting me, me being such a stud an all.
Frankly speaking Scorpio I have no idea what you mean, I'm out every night on a different date with couples and single females, almost all of them say yes. In fact I've just got in now from an all day bash with two 25 y o page 3 girls who were just demented about the prospect of meeting me, me being such a stud an all.
quote="musketeer"]Frankly speaking Scorpio I have no idea what you mean, I'm out every night on a different date with couples and single females, almost all of them say yes. In fact I've just got in now from an all day bash with two 25 y o page 3 girls who were just demented about the prospect of meeting me, me being such a stud an all.
well, its obvious they look at your profile and pics and think that youre the one.......
going to echo what's been said on here. Mr Lys was a single male who used to frequent the scene and pretty much gave up due to the odds - which is why we have a grudging respect for any single male on here.
That said most of the people on here aren't looking for single men, it's couples looking for couples or the mega elusive single bifem. Unfortunately for every 1 decent single man on here there are dozens who are rude and think that you really are up for them, you just don't know it. To prove this just set up a room in the chatroom titled "Couples, no single men". Bingo, you'll get dozens popping in and trying to be considered an honorary "couple".
When Ty was a single man he didn't blame the clique, or anything. He didn't fall into the blame culture, he simply realised that he was one of thousands and as such probably wouldn't get a thing. So be stoical, be a bloke and realise that the odds are stacked against you. Not meaning that you should give up, but that you should realise your chances are going to be limited.
its just not going to happen 
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