Being a people watcher, the Christmas works parties (usually in large hotel venues with other companies sharing the disco after dinner) and smaller department drinkie sessions (which lead on to some nightclub filled with hormone enraged adolescents) is a fabulous time for me.
I referred to teenagers and young adults in my initial post as it was the behaviours of these people which struck me the most. The packs of giggling girlies hunting out the potential trophy guy to snog was far more apparent than any male hunting activities.
Jostling for prime eye line positioning to dance like a Pussy Cat Doll in an attempt to grab the handsome male’s attention. Tops and blouses being repositioned to give maximum cleavage – along with back arching to maximise the effect (which a Russian gymnast would have needed 3 years training to achieve). In this domain the handsome male does indeed appear to be the lion and king of his adoring pride. Or, another way to put it – have the power turned in his favour.
I see women as being the one's in control, mostly they pick and choose who they want and, for all my openess, humour and empathy with them and my genuine interest in them and their feelings, it ain't usually me!
But I wouldn't change who I am just to 'pull' more.
I wish I had that elusive look that attracts them but I don't, I'm no Johnny Depp but nor are a lot of other blokes!
lol, dont think the original question is very clear to be honest, seems to start on one thing and drift slowly into something completely different! But think you might have answered the first part maybe, sort of??
ok, heres something i think. There is maybe too much made of the "swinging world" and vanilla world" thing.
I have lots of different interests and groups of people i know, i dont have a "football world". its all my world, and everything is a part of that, and to be honest just treat them all the same.
i hate the whole vanilla this, vanilla that, swinger friend etc etc. a friend is a friend, swinging is part of what makes up a big picture, it isnt who you some people get a bit caught up trying to analyse everything and put it in boxes, but dont think thats possible.
I would have to say that I think there is a difference.
For example are you saying that if a man was bi he would find it just as easy to walk into a pub and talk about sucking a cock as he would on a swinging site?
I think that is why many people often refer to the swinging world and the vanilla world - to differentiate between the perceived reactions and attitudes of people.
well of course thats different, but thats cos your talking to a different group of people, not a different world!
i would chat away to my mates about shagging but wouldnt do to my mum or dad.
When i was in my twenties,my wife and i split up for just over a year,so i use to go out alot at the weekends with my mates....i was obvioulsy going out on the pull...i found by just standing around talking to my mates and not pestering or leering over the women that i had a better chance of pulling....most of the time they approached me and chatted me up!...i assume this was because of my looks.....and my winning smile!.....as for the swinging scene......i believe the attraction to other couples lies with my wife now!
But isn't it the case for either gender? The beautiful people of this world (I call them 'shiny') will always expect to be chased after and faught over wont they? Which begs the question, how do shiny men and women ever get together if both are expecting the other to do the chasing?
H.x
intrestinfg from my adolence clubing it happened fit girls looked for fit blokes, fit blokes looked for anything in a skirt...........
Mike
Sorry to be crass but I always 'punch above my weight' as I love a challenge.
If somebody is classicaly beautiful but has an ego the size of a house they instantly become extremely unattractive to me.
Of course I enjoy casting my eye over somebody who is attractive, but they have to be nice too.
but yes there will always be those you dont desire trying to pull you i guess.
but I don't go to clubs that often (and when I do they tend to be gay clubs) so maybe the different environment plays a part ? ie pub vs club ?
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:shock: .... mmmmmixed emotions
