Do i need a padded cell?

16 Mar 2007

Over the the years i have often taken folkes in to my house as they have had no where to live or have needed to get away from a bad situation. Most of the time this has been a good idea in principle but the reality hasnt always been easy.
The worst thought out was when i threw open my house to a single mum and her 4 children,i lived in a small 3 bed house with my 5 kids and hubby...was a little tight to say the least lol

luckily was only for 6 weeks but boy it felt alot longer.
The last time i did this (just over a year ago) i got stung very badly,it cost me thousands and vowed never to do it again.
So why on earth have i gone and done it again????
I have just offered to take in a woman i hardly know and her 16 and 7 yr old sons :doh: .
Am i crazey? dunno

Is this something i will grow out of?, is there treatment avalible to stop me doing the same thing over and over again?...or am i lost cause? what would you do,if it were you? :shock:
Nicky

16 Mar 2007

theres no treatment for having a heart of gold.

16 Mar 2007

Nicky
The fact you have your ex MIL, your father (if i remember correctly) as well as your 5 kids living with you speaks for your compassion and family values I would say. Can't answer the rest though. dunno

pink x

16 Mar 2007

Nicky, 'fraid to say IMHO I think you are unwise to do this sad

And I'm not saying this coz there's no longer any room for me to stay with you wink

16 Mar 2007

Heck..Nicky your a glutton!!
I remember having my two sisters, their kids and my two as well living in my little flat...eight of us in total. Its was mayhem all day, everyday...... I was so glad when they all left confused

:?
I think your a very generous, kind hearted person Nicky... if Im ever homeless, I shall be coming to skeggie lol

:lol: :lol:
kiss

17 Mar 2007

I used to be the same as you, but it was family that i used to take in alot. In the end i had to put a stop to it because it was affecting our home life. We never had time to ourselves, our kids never had enough space to play, scream or just do whatever they wanted. The bathroom was always full, everyone wanted something different on tv, dinner times were like feeding the five thousand, omg the list could go on. At the end of the day, your home should be your little hideaway, a place to escape from the drudges and drolls of life outside, not a place to bring them all home with you wink

. It will drive you nuts in the end.
Louise xx

17 Mar 2007

perhaps things like this u like.
some people it just comes natural to
n they would feel lost if they never done it
so its in yr genes n u wont change.

17 Mar 2007

Dear Nicky
You have a wonderful heart & full of compassion to extend your hospitality to these people by offering your home in their hour of need. I am sure it must be very inconvenient for you at times banghead

but your rewards for being a kind person are immeasurable. Heaven will have a soft comfortable cloud waiting for you as your reward I’m sure. worship

17 Mar 2007

Yes, you need the space! lol

17 Mar 2007

I took a mate in last year as he was having a messy divorce, and wouldn't take any rent from him just wanted to help him out. He stayed for 6 weeks and then met another woman, moved in with her and now I never see him. Trouble is I think its better to do someone a good turn rather than a bad one, and if your the type of person that likes to help others the thats a good trait not a bad one. biggrin