Do meet-ups truly happen?

Right, let’s do a bit of stats! 

Who actually had one or a few meet-ups by using this platform?

How long did it take you to get to that point?

Yes.

A few weeks.

I've met several people from here over the years - in fact I still have the occasional meet with my first encounter here maybe 9 years ago or something. 

Whilst many people are very keen to meet, it doesn't always happen very quickly. If you are meeting with women/couples, you will find they are cautious so like to spend some time getting to know you to assess whether you are what you say you are before meeting - the length of time that takes will depend very much on how many times they have been duped by chancers and timewasters! 

Personally I have always expected to meet a new person within a couple of weeks of first contact, but bear in mind that many people are still very wary of the covid risks so may not be so keen to speed things along and may indeed chat to several people with a view to only choosing to meet with one or two of them. 

If you prefer more of an anonymous type 'hookup' without the hassle of getting to know a person, maybe try the posting an ad in the quickie section - I don't know how successful that is as it's not really my style but you may find others. You could also look at the groups and see if there is one in your locale - a quick "I'm available today" directly to people who live near you might work better than the generic status that shows up for everyone. 

On the whole, though, just have a clear idea of what you want, thoroughly read profiles before messaging anyone and send an actual message rather than just "hi" and you'll soon meet someone!

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Right, let’s do a bit of stats! 

Who actually had one or a few meet-ups by using this platform?

How long did it take you to get to that point?

Not sure if you're really seeking advice but I'll offer it anyway.  Thousands of members here have met over the years this site has been active, including us.  We went to a few socials before meeting anyone for fun but this has always been just a small part of our life so it's never been about quantity.  If you check profiles properly you'll see how many have meetings mentioned in them and how often so that will give you an idea.

How long it takes varies for everyone because it depends on many factors, not the least of which are what you're looking for and how selective you are.  However, as a single guy who's been here just a few days with a profile which doesn't do you any favours, I think you'll be waiting a good while.  This isn't a click, meet and fuck site and guys outnumber females hugely so you have a lot of competition.  You're not a guy in a room full or horny desperate women, you're one of countless horny guys in a room in which there are a handful of women.  What you need to ask yourself is how many of them are likely to be impressed enough by what your profile conveys to choose you over all the others?

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Right, let’s do a bit of stats! 

Who actually had one or a few meet-ups by using this platform?

How long did it take you to get to that point?

Had many filthy fantasies fulfilled from folks on here

I’m looking n not getting very far lol

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I’m looking n not getting very far lol

I met my gorgeous mrs on here over 6 years ago.

Meets do happen but it takes work,luck, patience and above all else, the ability to laugh at oneself and to take this site as an extension to a social life.

Not in place of one.

Have had lots of fabulous meets through the site over the years, I've moved around a bit but still met up for friends/benefits hook ups. Most have involved a meet and chat first, and then thereafter, meet to play. Had some wonderful fetishes and fantasies fulfilled. Sadly, in the last 4-5 years it has got much harder to meet up with fellow SHers. Best meet ups are in Scotland by far.

Meets certainly happen - from my experience, not immediately - in fact, an immediate invite would almost make me wary ! Having been invited by couples, I guess part of the time it takes to arrange a meet is for them to have the time for themselves, indeed - time for themselves that they also want to share with others....remember, inviting someone to your house isn`t always convenient - further to this, the lady of the house needs to be in the mood, contrary to some fellas expectations not all ladies are rampant sex bunnies with a maid to sort the house and personnel to deal with kids and daily housework, even if hubby knows where the hoover is - lol.  Thing being, you have to be realistic, we all have things going on and then you have to remember, hubby might be up for a meet but his lady just isn`t feeling it or dare I say vice versa. Build up trust with folks, don`t expect anything and remain polite    The rest will sort itself and you may suddenly find yourself with an invite out of the blue from new or older sh friends who find themselves with time and who  then look you up ! 

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Meets certainly happen - from my experience, not immediately - in fact, an immediate invite would almost make me wary ! Having been invited by couples, I guess part of the time it takes to arrange a meet is for them to have the time for themselves, indeed - time for themselves that they also want to share with others....remember, inviting someone to your house isn`t always convenient - further to this, the lady of the house needs to be in the mood, contrary to some fellas expectations not all ladies are rampant sex bunnies with a maid to sort the house and personnel to deal with kids and daily housework, even if hubby knows where the hoover is - lol.  Thing being, you have to be realistic, we all have things going on and then you have to remember, hubby might be up for a meet but his lady just isn`t feeling it or dare I say vice versa. Build up trust with folks, don`t expect anything and remain polite    The rest will sort itself and you may suddenly find yourself with an invite out of the blue from new or older sh friends who find themselves with time and who  then look you up ! 

On the other hand, there are interesting people who just want to find someone to share a mutual pleasure with, realistic people who are worth taking the time to get to know.

Good luck.

Wonder if the OP ever bothered to read any of this.  If not maybe it was just too much effort...

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Wonder if the OP ever bothered to read any of this.  If not maybe it was just too much effort...

I'm so bad at interpreting the tone of posts sometimes!

I am really struggling and don’t no why, but really want to meet I gagging for great sex with a lovely girl, can anyone help x

Yes have met a few via SH, some led to the bedroom, some for a social drink and nothing more, but I'm not sure any of said meets were down to actively searching, more they just came along by way of striking up a chat over a few weeks and it naturally progressing to a meet name/to a face kind of thing.

Most of those meets (to answer the original question) occuring within a few weeks of intial chat with perhaps just one notable exception where we chatted over a few years (talk about a slow burn) eventually meeting with the intention of a coffee but very quickly headed for the lady's hotel and some seriously good fun, a friendship lasting almost 5 years before I moved away and where they eventually met their partner and left the scene.

If people want regular hard and fast meets with lots of others they'll probably be dissappointed as these

days most tend to take their time to check out all options before committing.

Personally I've found the meets here to be of a good quality quality (although I confess it's been a while since I was lucky enough to meet up with someone) with those I've met being switched on knowing what they want so to speak.

So yes, meets do happen.

We have met 7 men from this site, and we've had a great time. We have only had 1 time waster, who rang 2 hours late, and said could we meet the next day instead. He was clearly very drunk. Needless to say, we didn't meet him. Of the 7 guys we met, 3 became long term lovers.

Im still waiting for my first meet i guess its much tougher for single guys, well im forever hopeful it might happen so if there any couples or ladies who would like a decent professional guy to join them get in contact

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Im still waiting for my first meet i guess its much tougher for single guys, well im forever hopeful it might happen so if there any couples or ladies who would like a decent professional guy to join them get in contact

It certainly is but two months is hardly any time to be on here and there's no doubt that Covid is still stifling what a lot of people are prepared to do so that makes life even more difficult.

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Im still waiting for my first meet i guess its much tougher for single guys, well im forever hopeful it might happen so if there any couples or ladies who would like a decent professional guy to join them get in contact

It certainly is but two months is hardly any time to be on here and there's no doubt that Covid is still stifling what a lot of people are prepared to do so that makes life even more difficult.

Maybe every one prefers an amateur guy rather than a pro 😉

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Im still waiting for my first meet i guess its much tougher for single guys, well im forever hopeful it might happen so if there any couples or ladies who would like a decent professional guy to join them get in contact

It certainly is but two months is hardly any time to be on here and there's no doubt that Covid is still stifling what a lot of people are prepared to do so that makes life even more difficult.

Maybe every one prefers an amateur guy rather than a pro 😉

Maybe they do and will make themselves known... ;)

well i will keep at it until my luck changes may i say im professional only my job not on this site where im very much amateur 😉

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well i will keep at it until my luck changes may i say im professional only my job not on this site where im very much amateur 😉

Me too,im a professional dustbin man 😀

As a dustbin man is my profession obviously 😄

not many want to chat seems strange as we are all here for fun and chatting is surely the way to go 😜

Weve not met anyone from this site yet .... but we met many from another site we were on, and cant wait to start meeting from here

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not many want to chat seems strange as we are all here for fun and chatting is surely the way to go 😜

Theoretically, yes - but there are far too many (mostly) men on here who want to enter into online sexual conversations they can get off to with no intention of ever meeting - that makes some of us cynical and a little mistrustful! I can't even tell you how many conversations have started with "distance isn't an issue, I'll travel" only to fizzle out when it's clear I'm not getting into virtual wank sessions. Add Covid into the mix - when meeting strangers is still a big risk and my sole purpose here is for real-life meets rather than virtual ones, I personally am mostly only talking to people I already had a connection with or who are very local to me so I can gauge the risk appropriately.

The chatroom looks as busy as ever - I don't use it myself, but the number of users every time I am online has consistently been around 1500 throughout Christmas which seems pretty chatty to me.

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not many want to chat seems strange as we are all here for fun and chatting is surely the way to go 😜

Theoretically, yes - but there are far too many (mostly) men on here who want to enter into online sexual conversations they can get off to with no intention of ever meeting - that makes some of us cynical and a little mistrustful! I can't even tell you how many conversations have started with "distance isn't an issue, I'll travel" only to fizzle out when it's clear I'm not getting into virtual wank sessions. Add Covid into the mix - when meeting strangers is still a big risk and my sole purpose here is for real-life meets rather than virtual ones, I personally am mostly only talking to people I already had a connection with or who are very local to me so I can gauge the risk appropriately.

The chatroom looks as busy as ever - I don't use it myself, but the number of users every time I am online has consistently been around 1500 throughout Christmas which seems pretty chatty to me.

Although there are 1500 in chat ,very few now, chat, most sit and either say nothing or post one liners, like

"M24 location. mars meet today with three headed alien"

Or words to that effect.

Years ago, chat used to be the place to be, I used to sit up until the wee hours chatting away and having a laugh with people whom I had never met yet, but sadly hardly anyone chats nowadays, is it cos of the ability to post media has taken away the need to chat as they can view members media without much hassle?

Or do people now expect a meet just by joining up?

Who knows?

woo

i am exactly the same no one ever seems to want to meet up . if a lady or a couple do contact me . i am well mannered in my reply not smutty or vulgar . totally honest with them but never hear anything back . perhaps i should try not being a gentleman and come across as a sex starved monster . i may get results then lol

We'd forgotten We'd posted in here, we've met a few from the site now, some via thr chat rooms, several at the cov social and others via the east Midlands gatherings group we set up. We would suggest carry on being a gentleman, and dont just rely on sending messages.

Going back a lot of years SH meets and munches etc were excellent. Unfortunately the "critical mass" of the active members has dissipated and faded to nothing. We still get, very rarely a meet from here.

Our problem is that we only meet new people at clubs. So many people might contact us, then we say OK, meet you at xyz club and play there....................................then.....................................tumbleweed.

So many "single" men are scared to go to a club it seems.